Hi everybody, this is my forst post here, i know i should have posted in the other section to introduce myself and stuff, but i really want some help with a problem that is common i guess. I am 18 and never had a girlfriend. I know , pretty sad. Anyway, since i created a facebook profile some time ago, there are a few girls that seem to be interested in me. Yesterday i started chating with this one girl from a different high school. We talked a bit on fb chat and things seem to go in a good direction. Some of my friends who had girlfriends ,when they ask a girl out they usually go to a pub, and talk, order some drinks...How can I ask a girl out if I can't affort to? . The thing is i am poor. How much does that matter in a relationship and what can I do without money? If she really likes me i guess it won't be a huge problem. I just don't know.

take her somewhere that these guys wouldn't. Girls love picnics, but don't call it a picnic, call it a catch up at the park and just bring some shit to eat and drink.

Or if you've got good rapport you can invite her somewhere to learn something, it can be anything, go to a gallery, or teach her how to play football, don't ask me why but chicks love that nonsense.

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actually on Wednesday i have a basketball game (i am in the high school basketball team) with another high school (not her's). I guess I can invite her to the game. Still, she has no idea i'm poor, and I don't want her to think i'm cheap, so is there a way to let her know I can't affort stuff other guys can? Other then just telling her witch doesn't sound so good . I mean i will go out eventually, maybe this weekend, I think i can get the money for a first date out, it's just that i won't be able to spend money everytime we go out, as most couples do.

if anyone can relate to my problem pls tell me what u have done

See if she can pay, see if you can borrow some money from somewhere, etc. If going somewhere is really a big deal, borrow 2-3 bucks and take her to mcdonalds and get some dollar menu shit...I've done that before. Then other than food, there's free parks, free museums and shit that you can go too.

And actually, this works out in your favor. If you're broke, the girl is broke, what are you gonna do? Take her to your place and watch a movie or something. You can actually push things further much quicker when neither of you has any money.
Why do you give a shit? Lose the ego?

Get a part time job. But there are plenty of things to do that require little to no money. Parks, beach, walks, museums, watch movies at home. How poor we talking? Seriously money won't matter unless you can't afford anything at all. I'm talking like renting a movie even.

Just tell her that your a broke ass nigga, and don't be embarassed when you say it. Because you might be a broke ass nigga right now, but you are going places. "...if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” -Marily Monroe. Remember, you are not the one trying to qualify. It is she that is trying to qualify herself to you.

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yeah, I think money is problem...so find part time job...

but I have a friend, poor, but he just still good with woman, I don't know why, maybe money is problem when u see it as problem...

Anything is a problem if you see it as one. Don't worry about it man, if you're really hurting for money get a job, or sell stuff. Otherwise, don't make it a big deal and she wont either.

I used to go out with a girl when I was your age and also had no money. We would spend quality time in parks or just chill out at the shopping centre and stuff like that. But when she would meet a guy who had money or a car or something I would feel really inadequate and insecure. This showed in my jealousy when I would act passive aggressive and ask weird questions.

You need to sort out your economic situation and be able to carry your own weight. Women do have a preference for status weather monetary and/or socially. It's hard to have social status when the group want to do activities and you can't afford to be a part of it.

Like a business you are a brand and you need to invest in your business to attract customers or keep them loyal ( like your gf)

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