Read these carefully, remember it for the rest of your life, this is not my opinion, these are the rules of universe:

1 - Accept that life is a tragedy
2 - People are lonely, depressed and fucked up
3 - The more you get to know them, the more disappointed you get in them
4 - People fuck you over for security, money, comfort and please
5 - This list goes on and on
6 - Life is fuckin hard as you are a social creature
BUT

None of the above matter if you have this bullet proof attitude:

1 - None of that has anything to do with you. Its about them and how they feel.
2 -Your life is not about them! Your life is about you. Get over their life.

Always remember; if somebody ignores you or leaves you for another man she has only 1 reason: She feels better, more secure, safe and ok around others. Your bad you dont know how to make them trust you or make them feel good about themself. If people steal your money, they dont want to hurt you, they are just lost, stuck and you happen to be in their access.

You have 2 options: 1 - Save some dollar, by a shot gun and end your misery, or improve in EVERY POSSIBLE aspect of life. Become a social monster, social clown, whatever you wanna call it. Learn how to meet people EVERYDAY. There are lots of tricks to it. Instead having 5 best friends, have 40 of them. The sign that u r on the righ ttrack is that when your phone rings, you cannot guess who it is. Do that,
deattach from individuals, you seem to have great room to become better with people.

Listen to Antony Robins, David Deangelo and me, remember this is the last 5 minutes of your life, how do you live it?

Best of luck, lifes much better than you can imagine.

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Nathan Griffin

Its not fair to women to judge them as being more likely to cheat just because of their gender and your life experiences. The conclusions that you have derived are correct in your mind only.

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Walk Hard

btw, in Australia women are more likely to cheat than men, but less likely to engage in a long term active affair. There was a huge study with thousands of subjects done a year or two back.

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Even the most naturally gifted can learn to become better.

Please quote the name of the study so I can read through it. Sometimes we have an idea in our minds about what the world is then we search for reasons to validate our own conclusions. You could have already assumed women cheat more than men before hearing about the study and then used the study to justify your own already perceived conclusions.

I could be wrong of course, thats why it's important to quote the study. Not only for me, but to be sure yourself that judging women, as more likely to cheat, can be a open opinion you would like to preach and defend.

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Walk Hard

Well, at least they break it off with the first dude asap

PFFFFFFTTTTTT

Show me the data................ I DONT BELIEVE IT

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^_^

You have a seriously narrow view ...........

Obviously constricted by you past ........

Wemon are not your enemy/evil/whatever other slanderous generalisations you have made!!!

We are human beings from earth!!! JUST LIKE YOU!!!

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Wow, this got to be a messy debate on psychology and biology...
Look ive been cheated on time and again, oh well, they werent good enough, i dont give second chances and wont be second best. Never forget you are the prize. That said hey i want sixty years not sixty minutes so...
Enjoy your time together, try to focus on all the little things you love about her and the things that shit you off but you find endearing.
Find at least one new activity to share together/ could be anything from sport, dancing, music, books, hell combine laser tag with tantric sex... whatever it doesnt matter but just find something to add value and trust, just little things help, if her affection doesnt seem enough just stop and watch, watch the smiles, the looks everything... and stop worrying, the only thing you have to fear is fear itself
Hope it helps

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Remember...I bite...

Golden rule of all poets and as i learnt most of PUA's is:,, Don't try to understand women, just love them.'' If you understand yourself, you can understand every other human, since we all want to be loved, accepted and feel at home. If you can love yourself without any regrets you are able to love everyone.
Now...what was this topic about again ?

I can't find an online link, but the study was conducted by the Australian Journal of Psychology, by evolutionary sexual psychologists, I think one of them was Jeff Ward, so maybe one of you guys can find it and post it.

I remember them saying it's because men are more capable of separating their relationships and don't feel they are disrespecting their lover as much, and don't feel guilty for using their mistress for sex. Where as women in poor relationships are very likely to cheat with male friends, but less likely to turn it into an affair.

Also I believe the statistics from a preliminary survey conducted by a UK magazine found correlating data for British women too. I'd like to have another look at the studies too so if anyone else can find them and post a link that'd be great.

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Even the most naturally gifted can learn to become better.

At first helping someone with insecurities about his GF cheating on him. Now it's become the messiest thread I have ever had the displeasure of being involved in.
Thank you desert lion. Seriously, how has this gone on for nearly four or five pages. We have two or three arguments going on at a time, and some of them have no relevance or are counter productive. Not every possible tidbit about cheating should be in this thread. Make another thread about it if you really want to talk about it.
Umm we are trying to help out someone about his insecurity about cheating, bringing up this study is pointless or damaging if he lives in australia.

Stop, you are just expanding places he won't want to live, super counter productive. I don't understand how this is suppose to help the thread creator in any way. What happened? Did you all go trick or treating this weekend, eat a bunch of candy and then revert to being hyper active little children who just argue and bicker over anything and everything. Have some real relevance when posting.

I haven't even heard from the post creator in the past few pages either. Can we let this thread rest in peace? I think we have given the thread creator too much information. I can not see how this is helpful to him anymore.[/quote]

are you suggesting we lie to build his confidence. that's fucking insane. Here are some facts, people will fuck you over. It will happen, in fact every single motherfucker on the planet will if you hang out with enough. It might only be something small like sharing a secret that you don't want him/her to, but it will happen.

Learning involves understanding. Understand that you can get fucked over by men, women, family etc, you still trust them. Girlfriend is no different, offer trust and you probably won't be hurt too bad, but you might. That's the facts, don't sugar coat that shit.

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Even the most naturally gifted can learn to become better.

+1

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I thought someone would say that. I can't believe I am dignifying this with a response. I never said lie. I said stop posting irrelevant stuff. The above is a perfect example. Lode has said the above stuff multiple times, argued this point over and over again. The fact that we are going through the same shit is proof to me how much this thread has become something that should never be on this forum. I picked on you because you had posted the most irrelevant thing I have ever seen anyone post within the context of any thread. Before now you never even made an attempt to help, just threw out some ridiculous "fact" that you have no proof of. And now that is the "truth". And you suddenly have this whole way of turning it so that you are the saint of truth and trust that is guiding us to the light. You had no contribution to help the original poster's inner game before now, and what you have posted is a complete repeat of Lodes thoughts. Please let this go. This thread has uncovered every possible viewpoint, and then some, already.

(Original Poster has shot himself in head)