Hello, the situation is long but I'm a senior in high school. Me and this HB:9 started talking again after a few years since our first failure to launch (we kissed, she said I was clingy, we never talked again.) To save you from a super long story I'm just going to jump right in.

So three years later we're talking again and I take her to Homecoming as my date, it was a disaster, she danced with another guy, so I went ahead and picked up another chick, and bla I failed. So its been nearly two weeks since we've meet face to face and... she gave me another chance. All of our friends got together at my house. I then took her to my room, alone... I immediately started applying kino from the beginning of the interaction to make my touch with her casual (Success). There we started talking about everything that has happened, and now we're both okay. An as I started to think I got rid of my AFC ways , I was wrong!

Everything was easy, conversation, small kino, but then when I had to make my move, the simple step of kissing her... I couldn't!

Soon after my failure, my friends couldn't figure out what to do that night. So her and her friend just ended up leaving, as we dropped her off, I got out of the car and started talking to her, I still couldn't do it. Then she ended up leading me to her friends door, where it was just the two of us, after 1.5mins of staling I started to say "You know when you pulled me aside in Homecoming, and you got really close *I got close*, there's something I should have given you..." And then.. Idk how many freakin! chances I got in total by now, But still I still f'ed up! again I freaking couldn't kiss her!

Then she ended up giving me a pity hug, and then I tried to go in one more last-time but, I just couldn't muster up the confidence! of grabbing her by the neck and goin in and... BAM! she ended up giving me a 2nd pity hug, and then she said oh "we'll need to meet on a one on one" (as in another date, we've had our Day2 already), and then as I held her hand we slowly separated, and parted ways.

I DLV'ed so baddly that she probably thinks I am just another typical AFC, Nice Guy! I've lost my edge!

Conclusion:
I have an new sticking point (all my life, with all the women I've kissed I just end up building sexual tension, and then let them do all the work! But I've never gone in my self) How can I fix my sticking point of not being able to kiss on my own.

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Risk losing her by trying to win her.

Ugh, I just let her go. Shes friends with one of my Bros, so one day in the future (like after college or something) we'll meet again...

Anyways after the situation I now know my new sticking point, kissing out of my own free will, cause I can Kiss Close, but not cause I choose to but cause I get girls to kiss me. But I need to know how to do it myself.

Are there any Inner Game tips that could help me?

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You said you had strong kino with her, then why not small step and start kissing on her neck instead? That way you'll test how she responds and you can easily move to K-close.

I said I had kino, I didn't say it was intimate. But, small stepping it is a good idea. Too bad she probably thinks I'm a wuss now. Anyways, I'll use your suggestion to get some more experience under my belt for a K-close.

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Yes in the end it all comes down to take the leap of faith and just do it. What you can do to force yourself is, when you are in that moment, to think
"How am I going to feel later when I'm at home and desperate because I didn't do it? At least now I have the possibility to see if it would have worked"

One other powerful thing is "We are all gonna die and disappear in a few years, what I'm doing right now it's just an extremely small and unimportant act that will be forgotten soon and doesn't matter to anyone. There are billions of people in these world doing the most different things and mine is just some small bullshit"

Just put it in the right view, don't make a big deal out of something very small.

Yeah, I get you. Thanks for reminding that its good to be a Realist, you live in the moment, and "it is what it is". Stressing the small stuff is irrelevant compared to how it adds to the "Big Picture" of things in the grand scale of my life. I'm going to get over this girl, get over this k-close prob, and keep on movin to the top.

Yo, but seriously I was like bla... bummed over this, but you made my day son I thx you for that

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Shodow,

My friend...Iv been in the same boat as you. Im a nice guy who doesnt want to put pressure on a girl to do something she doesnt want to. Or the classic "I dont want to try and have her be like wtf and then never talk to me again". The fact is if this girl is complient with kino, attraction, ect she wants you to make a move. That is the whole point in doing the tests.... is to see if she "rdy" to shift into becoming more sexual.

Ill tell u a quick story about how I got over my kiss close problem. I have a ONE-ITIS who i still havnt kiss closed...and after shes blow me off it gave me the motivation to never not take what is rightfully mine. A few days after she wouldnt respond to my text/calls I went out sarging. Gamed the shit out of this girl and i new she was super into me... I did the trust test and asked her on a scale of 1 to 10 how good of a kisser she was. a lot of them will say im a good one blah blah or something similar. So I told her "ok well i think we should find out and boom just fucking went right in for it.... didnt give a F" and you know what happened? She denied me! she turned away and said "but we just met" And I had an option right then an their. Leave like an AFC like i always was.... or say to myself...oh no im not leaving until we makeout.... i kno you want to your just scared....

SO. I asked her again how good of a kisser she was... she said something similar and I went in for another kiss! and this time BOOM she was ALL about it. JAMMED her tongue down my throat... and then I pulled back and was like "whoa whoa whoa thats enough of that.... id give that kiss like a 4" she didnt know what to say hahah she was stunned. She couldnt believe that we just made out in literally 10 mins of meeting each other. So i left the bar.... with er number.... and 10 mins later she texted me "where are you? I want to see you". ]

Out of all the number closes/kiss closes I have never had a girl text me something like that after 10 mins of leaving her.

So that was a little longer than I wanted to type... but like a lot of people were saying.. u just have to go for it... and if you get denied... DONT give up.... try again... make her more comfertable.... SHE WANTS YOU TO KISS HER! THATS HOW U HAVE TO THINK! AND IT WILL NOT FAIL!.

GL bud, if you have anymore questions PM me.
Duke