I have been with a girl for 9 months and she dumped me 3 nights ago. It hurts me so much because I love her so much. I know im being pathetic but i dont care about being cool without her. I used to have alot of fights with her..she used to cry alot and once told me she would kill herself if i left her.. i cant believe she doesnt want me now after once feeling that strong for me. I stopped fighting with her and start loving her right and every i fixed all of the many problems the relationship had.. I feel like she got bored of me because of this.. She told me its not my fault that its her fault and she just doesnt want to stick with me and its her own fault for reasons shes not able to fix.

The whole "It's not you, it's me" thing is bullshit.

The fact of the matter is that this relationship is over and that really hurts, believe me I know. The relationship meltdown that led me to discover PU left me feeling so heartbroken that I can honestly remember thinking "I am never going to feel normal again, I am never going to be okay." It's grief, genuine grief and if you had a connection and loved someone it will still hurt after 9 months or after 5 years.

Now, I appreciate telling you to "man up" and move on isn't going to sound particularly empathetic, but it's over. Stop trying to fix things and stop trying to cling on to whatever perceived lifeline you believe she might be throwing you. It is over. You've come to the right place to get some advice on meeting other women, because that is definitely the best cure. Meet someone else, they don't have to be amazing and you don't need to fall in love. Just have female energy in your life.

Relationships are a two way thing, and you absolutely need to stop thinking so highly of her and stop thinking she's amazing. She fucking dumped you. You said yourself that you had to fix all the problems the relationship had. YOU were the one investing and making the effort and now she's dumped you.

Stop talking to her, live your life, spend time with friends and get out there and game other women. Don't beg or plead with her, because not only does that drive her further away but all her friends are going to hear what a sap you are, which is a bad thing.

If you want advice on how to win her back, then you're not going to get it on this forum I imagine. When I was feeling fragile and heartbroken, I'd have been totally pissed at someone for telling me to get over it and game over women, but they're right, even if you can't see it right now.

Wow... that's rough man I know, but if she's really lost interest there's not much you can do. A broken heart is definitely not a fun thing to go through, but a few things that make it easier is to try and not look at her in the light you are now. Right now you probably see her as an amazing person, so just think about all of the bitchy stuff she's ever done, the stuff she's done to tick you off, anything you hated that she did. Just try and bring that stuff to the foreground, and even though it won't miraculously fix your broken heart, it'll make it easier to rationalize that your better off without her. Once your feeling pretty good about it, go and try meeting some other girls. After a while you'll meet enough hot/funny/smart/whatever you're looking for girls that your ex won't seem so great anymore. Good luck man, and despite what other people here will tell you it's not pathetic to be broken hearted over something like this at least for a while.

she broke your heart,

don't let her break your pride.

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blablabnla ... you started fixing everything and now she thinks she doesn't need a man anymore..

broke up with you fucking 3 nights ago

so fucking what ?

those feeling will last for 2 weeks maybe a bit longer and it's completely normal .. nothing to be worry about..it happens with every fucked up relationship/

you just allowed your heart to be broken ... she's a fucking manipulative cunt and she can suck my motherfucking dick . if i rob a bank and im holding hostages im telling them im going to kill them if they try to leave... guess what charlie ? she's doing the same thing... instead of feeling fucking responsible for her you should have dumped her ass because this is a huge red flag - meaning you are dealing with a huge emotional unhealthy clinger.

lol it's not your fault .. lol .. yes it is .. you try to fix her problems .. that is your fault , it's her own fault for not being able to fix it..

wake up moron .. she doesn't want to be fixed .. otherwise she did it herself or she would allow you to fix it - she didn't.

she talks like she has to solve some fucking equasions / maths form einstein , instead of doing hours of maths i can tell you straight on : she is just a little manipulative cunt and most woman are like her ... almost all of them. if you have a fucking problem .. you just wake up in the morning .. identify the problem and change it. Her being unable to solve simple problems only DLV her because that means she's too immature for a relationship.

she's not having problems .. she's just being a shitty drama queen .. because over 2 or 3 weeks she will meet a new guy and suck him dry .. just like she did with you. Woman cannot fix emotional problems because they are emotional.. they need men to do such thing - they hit up the bar getting attention from some chodes just to get a superficial boost in their self-esteem.

''she told me she's going to kill herself if i leave''

jezus do you even want relationships with suicidal people ? i would walk away on the spot, if you she wants to suicide that's ok .. but she shouldn't fucking involve me in it. i would call some mental hospital and tell them to take her in... seriously...

if it really was her fault she wouldn't fucking dump you and she wouldn't get a new boyfriend over 2 or 3 weeks... i have dated a gazillion of these woman - they ALWAYS tell you it's their fault or they cannot put their finger on it - mostly both. and 3 weeks later they have a new boyfriend and they are dating new guys...

you have to fucking wake up....hit yourself on the head or slam you head against the wall because everything you did for this girl was a waste of time... you loved her too much and she didn't loved you as much. you made a gazillion of mistakes .. inner game mistakes regarding woman.

every experience is a learning experience .. there is no such thing as failure .. you will learn a ton from this and you will get better relationships in the future. But also notice that these kind of situations can be destructive if for example you have exams - they will fuck up your focus....

a break up in the wrong place and time can fuck up your life big time... Next time when someones talk about you leaving her and suicide stuff just walk away... seriously... she's dishonest and utterly disgusting... it's not her fault she's just being selfish just like when she told you to not leave her...

she's just a selfish manipulative cunt..

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Best thing for you to do: Whatever is necessary for you to get any ounce of Dignity back.

With it you won't feel so lousy and you will maximise what little chance you have, and you wont even want her if you have sufficient Dignity

Don't let her win. Shes taken your time and your heart, don't her take self respect and pride as well

It sounds like shes the kind of chic who thrives on drama in her life, and in fact needs it in her life, and so does everything she can to keep it alive

once you became the perfect bf there was no more drama and she got bored

If you want to get over her, don't make any contact with her, or go check out her facebook page or anything similiar. Just get her out of your life and move on, and you'll be on the road to recovery

Just for anyone who;s reading this rather dated conversation!!

If a relationship is on the brink and your waiting for her to pull the trigger or she already has you do have a slither of hope to recover then or in the Future (if thats what you still want)

The key is to do exactly the opposite of what you feel. TRUST ME THAT IS NOT EASY! especially as every part of you wants to beg and plead like a little pusskins.

Get out there, and next her. Simple, do exactly what you did when you got into pick up, it might be hard to remember all the tools and techniques but trust me when I say you get up to speed much quicker then when you were new to it!!

THERE ARE TWO OUTCOMES FROM THIS
1. you meet another girl and you like her more, sorted.
2. The girl you were with with realizes this and comes back to you, then your in charge and dont fucking let the relationship get out of control again. . . Infact it can be good because if shes already broken you heart (like a dog biting you when you feed it) . . your more carfull when it comes to dinner again, stay in control!