I'm so mad at myself. I feel like I'm a failure. I've been reading PUA for a couple months now and I feel like beating myself for what happened tonight.

I'm a junior in college. Virgin. Never had a girlfriend and close to no friends. I've been to parties and kickbacks but only because my friends know where to go. When we're at house parties, me and my friends are usually wallflowers. Kickbacks are better because I know everyone and it's just fun playing drinking games.

It's Halloween weekend and there are parties going down for sure but my friends all seem to bail on me. None of them feel like partying. So I went with Plan B which was to hang out with a freshman girl I met (let's call her Annie).

I'm beginning to think she's friend zoning me...but anyways her roommate is going to a halloween party so she invites Annie to come along. Annie then invites me to go as well but having my bad track record of being a wallflower at house parties, I declined. It's her first college party so I didn't want to stop her from going so I told her I wouldn't mind if she went.

She later texted me saying she felt bad for leaving me which I told her was fine since I told her to go. I also told her I was going to a kickback anyways just to save some value.

I feel like a complete failure because I've been reading all this PUA stuff and while I've been improving 1v1 situations I suddenly realize I suck in group situations. I know most of you will probably say I should have just went along anyways but I can't dance. I don't know how to dance, one time I went clubbing and some girl grabbed me to dance and I was off the rhythm when she and I were grinding...

Anyways, I'm just go to get drunk now I feel so hopeless and powerless to do anything right now.

Like to me, how am I suppose to act at house parties. Do I just go around saying hi? Or do I just dance? Or what? Ugh.....I'm so useless

It just takes time, and couple of months is not enough.

Reading is one thing, but actually putting it to practice is another. You can read all you want about flying a plane, but your not really gonna learn how to fly until you actually do it.

As human, your highly adaptable. (why we survived for so long).

When you hang out with girls, you have to sexually escalate with them. They are super horny. This will keep you out of friend zone. And on weekends, there gonna be hitting you up to hang out. Is just like us guys. Who would you hang out with on weekends, a girl your gonna sleep with or some girl thats in your friend zone giving the option.

And as of house parties, be social. Is a lot easier then bars and clubs. If you can't do it, reading about it will only help very little. Doing it is gonna be hard and awkward at first, but it gets so much easier after doing it over and over.

Find a friend thats a party person and just analyze how they are at parties..For grinding, if you can't keep rhyme with them then you be the one to lead and have them go with your rhyme (aggressively hold them from the hips and show em you're going to lead) if they're grinding on you fast, let me em do their thing, don't try to keep up with them just let them grind on your cock while you chill there..you can just use basic game and go up to a girl you see a party and ask her to dance with you..learn a few dance moves on Youtube and in group situation, talk about your dance style, show em which you got..they'll be impressed and you'll feel more confident and open at the party around the group and you'll show high value..just by you going out to a party with a girl (Annie) shows you have value, dance with her, while grinding, kiss her neck, you know turn her on..just have fun, don't sweat it dude

And sooner or later, you'll get used to parties and you'll be more open..sorry for the bad english btw

You really should (have gone? not so clear) go to that party. The girl invites you so she can be one hell of a pivot. When new in the game you should grab every opportunity striking. And this my friend is one hell of an opportunity.

think of group situations as a speech. if u suck at speeches there are classes for that and u should attend them. u can always improve man ur not a failure at least u aint a 40 yo virgin peace

agreed with others,

you don't just decide to be a pua and it happens,

lol.

i'm not even there.

hell, i'm just here to learn how to improve my social skills

and i learn a lot at this place.

it takes time,

but the point isn't whether it happens overnight,

the point is to just keep improving.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

We all have our ups and downs, but there's no reason to overreact and think you're a failure man. As everyone said, these things take time. so people can change drastically over 30 days and some people need a year and more.
If you feel you have no rythm, check out some youtube dance lessons which are really great and helped me gain some confidence in that area.
And you're still young, you'll have a million more opportunities to succeed and also fail from time to time so take it easy, relax and put things in perspective.
oh and next time go to the party!

Seriously, you are a college student. You haven't even begun life yet. Don't sweat the girl stuff so much, improve yourself by studying hard and getting in better shape, and just go out and have fun and don't worry about getting laid so much. J

Just flirt, game, and don't sweat rejection. For me, pick up is more about the fun of the process rather than just the results (though the results are nice).

College is the one point in your life where social barriers are at their lowest and it is easiest to meet new people. This is also the only time in life where you have the time to explore things you are interested in rather than spending most of your time focusing on your career. Take advantage of it!

Just live, man, and you won't be a failure.

If you want to get good with women, it is going to be a painful journey. But the pain is worth it.

I understand you're feeling sucky. That's normal. However, you have to grow some balls and tell yourself that you're a man. Right now, say it out loud. Scream it. Very few guys actually have real balls but you can become the exception if you want to.

Now, imagine what the perfect world would be - you go up to girls without care, talk to them, make them like you, have sex with them bla bla bla whatever your fantasy is.

Do you know your ideal reality? Stop what you are doing right now and spend a few minutes thinking about it. Get a pen and paper, write it down.

Ok cool, we can continue.

Now I am about to give you a mission that will take 20 minutes to complete.

Ready?

Leave your dorm and walk out onto your campus. The first medium to hot girl that you see walk up to her and say 'hi how are you, i saw you over here and i wanted to talk to you'. Make sure she physically stops whatever she is doing. Now, this is important, talk until she leaves - never be the one to end the conversation especially when are you learning!!! If you run out of words just stand there until she walks away.

Come back to your dorm and ask yourself how you feel. Do you feel powerful? I bet you do. You just took the first step on your journey.

I just told you how to get good with women. Either follow orders or keep feeling sucky, your call.

start by changing the name failure, you are what you say you are, delete this acct. and change that stupid ass name, work on your inner game...I like Joel Osteen first 2 books...pua they say blue print..

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