I'm aware that this post will seem weird lol, but I'm a girl and dating a guy and I'm not sure about him. I hope it's okay I post this here. I googled his name and somehow found out that he has the Game book. From what I saw this was many years ago and I know he has been in a very long relationship afterwards.
I have been reading about PUA before, and now I'm trying to figure out if he is using those strategies on me. But it's not like I know everything. There was something he said on the last date which made me remember something I read about pua before and I remembered that before I found out he has read the book.

I don't really have anything against pua'ing, that's not why I post here. But I want to know if he is sincere, and that if he uses any techniques that he uses them for the right purposes, not just to hook up lol.
How can I tell? We've been out twice, and the first date he seemed very confident (in itself that could remind me of other guys I know that are into this), usually guys are more nervous in one way or another. But I can't remember any "canned" lines, and it's not like things are going in a characteristic fashion between us lol. We have a lot of fun, and he is kino'ing alot, and some of it seems natural, other things a bit forced. We haven't even kissed yet lol, I'm the kind of gal that likes to take things slooow so that I know things will be good once it does happen, right Is there anything very typical I should look for from either the kino'ing or what he says?

If he's not doing ANYTHING weird, why do you have to try so hard to find something "wrong" about him? If he's using some PUA techniques is maybe because he wants to do things right with you, not because he wants to be insincere.

You are over-thinking this too much, and the fact that you even googled him...well...

Just give the guy an honest chance to be with you without looking for "inconsistencies" in his game. You know...

_________________
Bansario IS BACK!!!

My hobby: www.megaboing.com
If you enjoy the reading, please "Like" it

pua is being the best man you can be, it will be good for your relationship as long as he is faithful..

_________________
Learn the proper way to maximize your results in a dancefloor/club environment, check out my blog and youtube channel:
http://www.dancefloorseduction.com

Dancefloor/Club game youtube channel:
http://www.youtube.com/dancefloorseduction

the game is all about canned lines and stupid peacocking so if he does not use caned lines (as you say) he is most likely not running "the game".
And who cares if he is running something or not - if you run some pua method on a girl it means you like her, not that you want to do something horrible to her.

everybody has read the game.

besides, learning about "pickup" is just about learning how to be an attractive and considerate guy who learns the language that women speak, so he can relate better to her and make her happier.

am i right, guys?

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Right on. Reading that book, posting in a forum like this, or whatever... it's like practicing for a college exam. You want to do well on the exam because you want the degree. The exam is just a block in a path to something you desire, just as learning pickup is a path to something you desire, which is the love life that you want and deserve.

There are so many guys/men out there that are worthy of an amazing woman. They work hard, are able to provide, etc. Pickup just teaches that man to be confident in who they are, what they have, what they can provide etc. I have a friend who at one point in life had $42 million dollars. Yes, that's right, FORTY TWO MILLION. Guess what? He spent it all on high end hookers and celebrities and now he's broke. Had he known about "The Game" he would still be where he was back then because he wouldn't be "one of those guys" who fools himself that all women want is money, power, and good looks. Only the shallow girls that he was hooking up with want that. What do I want? I genuine woman who actually cares about ME. Isn't that what YOU want too? A man that cares about YOU? That's what PUA teaches us, how to talk to you in YOUR language so we can put the puzzle pieces together of whether you're the right girl for us or not.

I hope I've made myself clear, and the simple fact that you two haven't even kissed yet? Wow, if he were "PUAing" you, he probably would have went super aggressive and already made that happen. I'd say he truly likes you, just don't treat him like a door mat like a lot of women do with genuinely good guys (who don't know PUA, LOL)

Lol it's like this pua stuff some sort of decease.
You'll have to judge him on the way he composes instead of his epic skills on doing the cube on you. If it's not your goal to be a random pickup then you'll have to be the one discussing it with that guy.

Thanks for your answers
As I said in my post, I don't have anything against pua because I know it gives guys a chance to be "better"about these things, and I guess that he might still be honest and looking for something serious.
I guess I just got a bit weary when seeing he has read that book since some guys being into this are not sincere (I mean some part of the comfort stage is about projecting future stuff even if you don't intend to have her in your future, right?).
And for the record, I searched his name to find his facebook profile to find out if we have mutual friends, we met online.

don't assume the worst.

95% of the guys on this forum are decent people who don't want to "manipulate" anyone, they simply want to be the best men they can be.

i'd say your chances are pretty good that he isn't trying to manipulate you.

after all, you are going a few steps out mentally just because he read a book, lol.

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!