Hey guys I need some help here from people who actually have experience.

Ok so this girl I met recently in my class is really hot and I started to flirt with her and took her to drink coffee with me and everything is going good. She gives me many IOIs that are clear she teases me and flirts with me. The eye contact is there everything is in the right place. She does mention her bf sometimes very rarely but I either ignore it or make fun of it. I can see that she really wants me I am 99% sure she also laughs when with me and smiles a lot at me. Now I know I have to physically escalate but the thing is the only place we meet is in college and she declines when I try to get her to go out with me. She also always starts convo first with me and we talk about sexual stuff and she likes it. And she only told me about her bf after a long time of flirting with her. Now I can do a few things I can either

1) Just escalate and don't care and see what her reaction will be(all in). Maybe she is too shy and she does seem like a shy girl and probably wants to see if I am a real man and will make a move.
2) Or I can wait and see how things will turn out(which will waist time).

Now please guys only answer if you had actual experience on this I don't want answers from just people who have no idea what there saying. I appreciate all your answers in advance.

I would like to answer but I never had actual experience maybe some other guys around here know.

From what you say I think she's keeping her options open - she eaither wants to break up with her bf or expects him to break up with her so she's keeping a few guys (not just you) incase he leaves. From my experience the girl just wanted to see if she could get me to chase her - and dropped me after that (basically same situation before that, IOI's, teasing, hand holding, kino ect.)
idk what to say about option 1, but definitly dont do option 2 the sooner you figure out if she likes you the better, the sooner you figure out she might be playing you WAY BETTER

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That might be true as you said char. So if she is keeping her options open as I suspect what should my moves be. Should I stay back from her for a while should I be a bad boy and escalate?

ANy more advice guys I wanna hear from a few people.

So let's assume she's keeping her options open with you. Do you want to be the guy in the "waiting list"? Probably not.

She's clearly playing games, otherwise she wouldn't be flirting with you while having a boyfriend. She's definitely not shy, regardless of what she "appears" to be like. (As someone mentioned, she's probably doing the same thing with other men...sorry).

Drop her like it's hot. Before doing it, be direct with her and invite her out. Do not come across as if you're giving her an ultimatum, but you cannot keep playing these games. If she refuses, then goodbye.

Vanish and see if she chases you (chances are she wont). Either way, you'll have a better answer about the situation.

Do not let a girl who's not even yours yet give you a case of Oneitis...

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I got this advice personally from ryan the blond guy, its perfect for lunch dates. Either use this at the next lunch or like bansario said, invite her out and if she refuses just freeze her out. when she realizes what she wants, she will warm up again. good luck

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Bansario the fact that she is even thinking about breaking with her bf is already a big plus. She was with him pretty long I was with her for just 3 days and if a girl is willing to put at risk her 2 year relationship for just 3 day relationship something is going on here. Maybe she is waiting for me to make the move what you guys think?

I think you want to get a specific answer from us, and we're not giving it to you.

If she broke up with her bf today, would you like to be the rebound? Hopefully not.

She's not putting at risk anything just because she's talking to you and she hasn't done anything wrong yet since you guys haven't even taken things to the next level (nothing physical, right?).

She's not waiting for you to make a move because you already invited her out and she declined...that was your move and it didnt go anywhere, so what kind of move are you talking about? Kissing her?

I mean, at the end of the day, the decision is yours to do what's appropriate. The thing is that most of us are looking at things from the outside, and we have a more clear head than you about this subject since our feelings are not involved.

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Ok Deadly I understand exactly what the situation is because I had it many times before when I was starting out. No she is not keeping you as a second option and she is not just trying to play around because then she would not talk sexually with you and show so many IOIs. The problem is you're not making any moves just talking to a girl and even talking sexually are all good but the main thing is to physically escalate. Imagine this as the last line of defense once your break that she will definitely fuck you! She just wants to know your worth it. Don't listen to people here discouraging you and telling you that she's keeping you as a second choice that's nonsense. All she wants to know is that if she throws her bf away she will be making the right decision and you must first make sure she knows you'll be with her not just for one night. Remember after all she was with her bf for 2 years and you only for few days so she is in a tough position. Show her you're worth it. Make a bold move it will determine whether she likes you or not. She might be reluctant a little bit in the begging but keep pushing it every time a little bit till she stops you because if you just push little by little she wont mind. But also don't get hung up on this girl game others girls as well. I wanna see you succeed in this and get this chick into your bed so just be brave and good luck!

- Amazing Art -

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wow...

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Thanks Amazing Art that actually looks like the most accurate assessment of the situation. Can you give practical advice on how can I be the guy she will choose?

Very simple just be the guy you want to be bring her into your world show her what you like to do. Most girls bring the guys into their world don't be that guy. Remember the way you feel=the way she feels. If you really feel like you deserve her she will feel that too. The way you act and behave becomes her reality if you project a strong frame about it.

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So he asked about a PRACTICAL example on how to make things happen with this girl, and you basically came back with a paragraph from "Double your Dating" as your answer. Not practical at all.

You came saying exactly what he wanted to hear and not what the reality is showing. So now, break it down for him, and everyone else in here, so we can understand how you would become "worthy" in her eyes in practical terms.

I think you should be a bit more careful when you're giving public advice, but maybe we can just agree to disagree.

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If being the person one wants to be is not practical I don't know what is. I am sorry I have never read "double your dating" but all the advice I am giving is from my experience. Well, I am not sure if what I am telling him is what he wants to hear or not but I am telling him something that worked for me and for many other people and that seems to me to be realistic to me. Now just to break it down for those who didn't understand. Who is a worthy guy? A worthy guy in her eyes is the guy who is the most Alpha male or in other words the real man. This paragraph I mentioned in previous reply is the way to becoming an Alpha male. Girls like any other human being want the best they can get. This girl is trying to get the best guy and is now deciding which one is the best for her. It seems from his story that this girl is not so happy with her bf. She is just confused and has no idea what to do. So you decide for her make the move and she will flow with it. Think about it, when you meet a girl at a club and you have some attraction but the girl is not sure and a bit confused if she wants to kiss you what do you do? Do you ask her if she wants to kiss you(I hope not)? So what do you do? You be a man and make a move and kiss her and she will go with it if you project a strong frame. The same here asking her out and doing things of this sort wont get you anywhere, her bf can ask her out too. In fact any guy can ask her out. What Deadly has to do is project those qualities of an Alpha male that other guys including her bf don't have and those are the things I mention before. And bansario no harsh feelings. I am just trying to help this poor lad who is being confused by many people.

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