| On this site, you will find endless ways to attract and pick up women. BUT if you only focus on this aspect of your game, you will continue to be disapointed. Let's say you have a good night, you # close one girl and F-close another, kick ass! But, come day two, when you actually take her out on a date, and you've got nothing because you focused all of your learning on the first stage of PU. Now some of you are already comfortable being AROUND women, it's just approaching and getting they're attention that you need work on. if thats the case, read no more, just keep practicing. If you find yourself in the catagory that you may describe as shy, nervous and unknowing when you actually get a girl on a date, this is for you. I thought about it, and came up with a list of things that, 1. I do, and 2. might work for you.
1. be yourself. when your out on a date, you dont need to be the pick up master!. Just be you. That one took me some time to learn. I kept trying to be this person I THOUGHT girls would desire, and then I found that once I actually hung out with the girl, I couldn't be me, I kept trying to act. Not a good thing.
I have made a habit of always, on a first date, to be me to the most enthusiastic way possible, because I know if they can handle me at the extremity, they can handle me subtly.
ie, I sing along to music in the car, i do. so when I go pick up a girl for a date for the first time, I sing my lungs off, I dance, I pretty much make a fool out of myself, 1 to break the ice, because once she is laughing she will be more comfortable, and 2 cuz again, if that doesnt scare her off, shes my type.
2. Lets say you had 100% confidence when you met the girl because your routine was executed flawlessly and she fell right into your hands. Now its the date and you are nevous again. If she finds that the Alpha part of you that she was so attracted to has disapeared, that'll be the last date she goes on with you, because she found out you were basicly a pussy.
Remember the fact that she WANTS to go out with you. she wanted to go on the date so she WANTS to be with you, so you have nothing to worry about, she already likes you. you dont have to try to impress her anymore, just be able to have fun with her.
3. Even if you know there is a certain thing she loves to do, and you would like to take her there for a date, make sure, at least for your first date, that you make sure the place is somewhere YOU are comfortable in, before you consider what she likes, because better you are somewhere that you can be you that isn't what she had in mind, but isnt bad, the the place that she loves but is ruined by a dead personality. Trust me.
4. Relax. the worst that could happen is she doesnt want to go on another date. So what? Personally, I have bigger things to worry about, like my job, school, my team. Those are way more important then 1 date. It's not the end of the world if you lose her, because here is the big secret to PU, theres always another girl!
ok guys, I've given you my two-bits. I hope this helps out a few of ya.
good luck,
PB
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