just started dating this girl about a month ago. became exclusive only recently. we have sex almost every day but she has been in a string of relationships in the past that seemed abusive. she says she has not been able to cum, even on her own (but she doesnt own a dildo or anything), in about 6 months. she is extremely submissive in bed and like every other girl, loves being dominated. she is always dtf it is just super frustrating not being able to make her cum and its sort of making me adverse to sex. im usually pretty decent in bed and i just cant get her off. any ideas on what to do?

Change her mood not her mind. I am not saying that she isnt turned on but have you ever tried getting off thinking about your father? Obviously you have the tools to make her happy, but now your confidence is going down the drain. Im not going to insult you by telling you where the clit and G spot are but has she seen a doctor or have you tried using drugs'?

Why is it important if she cums? Is she not enjoying the sex otherwise, or do you just see it as a threat to your manhood somehow?

It's really not important, and more importantly making that the goal and putting pressure on yourselves to have her cum actually makes it less likely to happen.

I had this problem with my last girlfriend, some girls just are not prone to cumming, and others are much more prone to it. It dosent mean your bad at sex AT ALL!!

But i know how frustraiting it can be, only advice i can give is watch this videa and has some very good education stuff about sex (just copy and paste in URL box)

http://www.quicksilverscreen.im/watch?video=255217

this is why im insecure about it!

"Mistake #9) Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior
It's no secret that women are a LOT moodier than us men.
But if you're in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time... this is often because she isn't getting what she needs in the bedroom.
FACT.
As we talked about before... while women aren't usually as sexually aggressive as men, they do love and NEED sex just as much!
But here's the thing... if you're not giving her orgasms... then sex does her no good!
Can you imagine jerking off but you could NEVER orgasm? You'd begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you'd get so frustrated by the inabiliity to "finish" that it was just easier to avoid it COMPLETELY!
Sooo...
If you can't give her orgasms why WOULD she want to have sex with you?
The answer:
She won't. "

Quote from the attraction forums...

she doesn't cum when you go down south?

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yeah most girl don't cum from normal fucking .. you have to use your tongue down there.

chris rock got a saying : if you don't lick her pussy you will lose her like you set or carkeys....

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nah and im usually really good at licking girls out. i've spent a lottt of time down there with this one and nothing seems to be working...

IMO its all about the mindset. My ex gf had a similar problem. but this is how i fixed it.

if you are dating this girl, set up a romantic dinner. get start once at the beginning of the meal to get sexual in the convo. her hormones and blood pressure will go up. put pull back and talk normally. keep reminding her you want to fuck her. she will be thinkin of sex and wanting it for the whole time during your other conversations about normal topics

during this, use very light kino, brush her thigh, touch her hair, jawline, collarbone. it will get her excited. she will get moist. all throughout be a gentlemen, refuse to fuck her right then and there. when you leave, hold her like a lover, at the hip.

when u get in the bed room, go very slowly. kiss her slowly, pretend she is like chocolate or the last person you will ever make love to. undress her slowly, caress and touch every part of her body. suck on those titties. slowly brush the inside of her thigh, super slowly. do not touch the clit first, go back up to kiss her. then tell her something awesome and go back down there. start fingering her slowly with one finger, two fingers etc. use the "come here" method to hit her g spot. start slowly licking the clit while fingering her. increase tempo, and force. get her to moan. keep going. she needs to be grabbing your hair tight, shaking and moaning, otherwise your not doing it right. get a condom if she isnt on the pill, and then make love to her, slowly and increase tempo. try every style, her on top too but make sure you dominate. make sure to continue to brush that clit when u fuck or rub it if ur doing it from behind.

work out your glutes, they will help increase the speed and tempo necessary for hard, fast and endurance fucking. Good luck man and if that doesnt work, get her a crazy electronic dildo lol

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i hear there is an industrial-strength, pull-start diesel model

only problem is the fumes though

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It’s not just about what she wants. It’s about sharing the experience with each other. Everyone has their own fetish you both just have to find a way to be compatible with each other. A lot of guys out there are just masturbating in an object. Don’t be selfish in the bedroom.

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

you can also contact skills360 .. lol i don't know if he produces less fume tho ..

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LOL

Sounds like he has quite the reputation.

make it about her sometimes. if youre just making the experience all about you then she likely wont cum

Some girls can't cum

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