Hi to all guys!
I recently got out of a five and half year relationship and I am back on the game full time!
I have met and gone out with a couple of girls using pua as well as my natural techniques and I have some success!
However, I have a case of oneitis of sorts.
Five years ago I was a freshman in college and I met this classmate,”Rita”.
I was in the relationship back then but I made a move on Rita, got her number and chatted with her in person and sms/msn and got many IOI's, she asked me to join her and her friends many times at a clubs and bars but I only did a couple of times. Everybody could see a connection between us but it never went on from that. There was surely something going on, some light but sensual Kino, we were walking and she kept bumping onto me and such, but nothing more.
Over the years the connection was kind of on and off, we talked a lot at times but also had less and less communication up until my master’s year. I moved to UK and met another girl that really intrigued me and talked about her with Rita.
Note here that she has never talked to me about her boyfriends and has only made very general comments about men and how they cannot "game" women. Me, on the other side, friend zoned her and talked about my relationship, other women and eventually my break up.
Note that she would occasionally initiate contact with me and would talk on the phone for a good hour or so. Sometimes it was because she needed my help for academic applications but other just for chat.
I informed her about my break up over fb chat and she mentioned, among others, that she could catch up because she hasn’t seen me for ages.
We arrange to pick her up and grab a drink. We met and talked about my break up as well as other things in general. I induced a little Kino by touching her leg, her tummy and she reciprocated by beating my arm and leaning in when laughing. I’d say that is went really well.
She also chatted me when she saw me on face book later that night and asked me if I arrived ok. Note that she told me that she had her period and was not in the mood going out but couldn’t cancel with me because she hadn’t seen me for a long time. She also offered to buy the drinks because I drove a distance of around 20 miles to pick her up and go to the bar, which I accepted (note here that we had a conversation over the phone in the past about men paying for everything and how I think that only fathers or long term boyfriends should buy dinner, gifts and such and she disagreed).
After that night out I freezed her and didn't make contact for a week and a half or so until she chatted me up on fb. We talk about various stuff in a cocky and funny mood for some time, I told her that I had to grab my tea and we agreed to go out again. I also said “we are having fun don’t we” to which she replied “we should talk more often then…”
No contact for a week or so until I called her on a Friday afternoon to see how she is doing. She asked me about my plans and told me that over the weekend, there would be a music festival taking place opposite her house on a local park and that if I wanted I could go over and enjoys the music. I played hard to get and asked about the bands etc but did not close anything .A common friend, who is her best friend and I also have a great relationship with, would also be there among other people. Keep this in mind.
The next day I text her and asked her if the festival has started, she replied yes and I said ok “I am coming over save me a nice seat”.
We had a great time. Puawise, lots of Kino and cocky funny remarks and comments. We had a good connection.
On one occasion she was talking on the phone and said "I am sitting here with two friends of mine". Her best friend, our common friend, told me "do you see? She calls you her friend" in a rather enquiring manner to which I replied "it is not that easy to be my friend". Also, at another occasion and pardon me I cannot remember how the conversation went there, our common friend said” he is your future, stop looking” or something like it.
Later, she was again talking to the phone and said I am here with a friend of mine and a classmate (me).
We all three go to her room and sitted for a while after the concert was over. She used a straining iron and said " ah its alright I am comfortable in front of Fabio(me)."This killed my momentum a bit.
After a while I left and she asked me to text her when I get home because it was raining and I had a 10 mile drive home.
I got back but only texted her "ohh i forgot about ya, home sweet home" like two hour after my estimated arrival time. They had gone out, which I knew, and she didn't openly invited me to continue the night with them and their friends because I had already planned something and she heard me talking about it. She didn’t reply to that sms.
Next day I used a status of fb saying “had a great time last night listening to some music with Rita and Suzy”. Her friend only liked the status but Rita commented about the great time we had, that we should all meet together again and that the comment we made about other people and the bands were very funny. I also commented on the beauty of the waitress (Rita).
In the meantime, I also called our common friend, her best friend, and chat about general stuff. Among this general stuff, I throw in some anchors about Rita and I get answers that are very motivating to continue. She also said that we should all go(she has a boyfriend) to a bar I often go to.
A week and half after the concert, I called Rita to ask her out but she was sick, two days later I called her to see how she is doing. First call was like 4 minutes long (hi-go out?-sick-ok next time-bye) and next call was longer but she was skyping with our common friend and there was a funny communication triangle. This last call was made last Friday afternoon. Friday night and I chat her up on facebook. She was very talkative and also threw in a couple of irrelevant remarks(such as something she heard on the telly for example) which I believe she did just to keep the mood light and the chat going. She told me that she downloaded an app about sex positions to have a laugh and asked me which of the categories she should see. I asked about the categories and agreed on the same one. She then said “it is stupid
I will play with another app “ to which I replied “ you lost interest fast antierotic girl hahah”
Want I want from you guys is to give me your opinion about me being in the friend zone or not and what else should I do to get her.
I really see some future with this girl and I am ready to take some action. Any comments welcome. I apologize for the essay size post and for the grammar but I am not a native speaker.
Thank you all in advance,
Fabio.
CHAT