......and afterwards she jumped me with all this emotional crap. So here's the scoop:
Dated this chick for 2 1/2 years, I broke up with her like 4 or 5 months ago for a lot of different reasons and haven't talked to her in atleast 3 months solid, I'm way over it.
Like 2 weeks ago though I took these sleeping pills and ended up having this crazy dream about fucking her and it was soo good, the next day I texted her and told her about it. I don't remember the exact conversation, but I basically told her that I still thought she was hot and would be down to fuck again if she wanted to.
I made it abundantly clear that it didnt mean I wanted to get back together with her. She mentioned that shes still open to the idea of getting back together with me and I have basically had to ignore her trying to get a hold of me ever since we broke up because I figured that was the best way to help her get over it faster.. I told her I wasnt going to make any promises, that I wasn't planning on getting back together with her and have no way of knowing how I will feel after we have sex again, so I refuse to have the conversation. It was a take it or leave it thing where I was completely straight up that I would be down to have sex, but not to get back together. She didnt want to do it that night, so I said w/e hit me up.
Like a week ago, she hit me up. She said she wanted to meet up, so I was like alright lets do it.. But she started talking about how she wanted to smoke weed and hang out and shit too and I was basically like no thats not how it's gonna be. She was like "[sex] is the only reason you want to see me anyway" and I was just like "yep i'm not hiding anthing". She tried to get all dramatic so I said ttyl and ignored her.
Tonight, she hit me up. We ended up doing it, and it was great sex. But like IMMEDIATELY after, she started trying to put me on the spot about where we stand. She was being all indirect and un-confident about it, first she was like asking me if i thought she got fat or was ugly now, then she was saying how she hasnt felt good about herself and shit and she wanted to be able to hang out with me beyond sex.
I was very alpha about it (very proud of how i handled it actually cuz I was caught wayyyy off guard).. She was obviously fishing for me to offer some sort of idea up onto the table, but I kept to what I had said before. I was like "well, you hit me up dude not the other way around" and when she said something like "I want to be able to just.. hang out.. and enjoy each other as people", I immediately responded with "yea, like friends" and she was just like uhhh.. and then started saying something else.
I kinda feel like she might have timed it on purpose, thinking she had the best shot at getting me to get involved with her again right after we had sex.. Are girls sneaky like that??
So anyways, PUA community, what should I do? Like I said, the sex was great. And I made it clear that it was no strings attatched, and that I wasnt interested in getting all buddy buddy. I would fuck her again if she hit me up again, but what is your take on this? I am over her and talking to a bunch of other women, but she is quite beautiful and gives great head so hey I'm down for the ex sex.. I can handle it. Her on the other hand, clearly has more in mind. Is it wrong for me to continue to have sex with her? I tried to do right by ignoring her after the break up, but I feel like it has been a long time and if she's not over me but is still hitting me up to have sex, then she can deal with the emotional consequences and it's not really my problem.
What do you think?
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