| It's that time of year again. Not sure why, but whenever the fall season sets in, instinct kicks in and I desire a LTR. And I have found my ideal target. The problem is, past experience shows that I get way too involved with my girl of interest and end up feeling like absolute hell if the shit hits the fan.
As of 2 months ago, I am a graduate assistant and full-time student in grad school. One of my fellow grad assistants is this girl who I would really be interested in establishing a LTR with. We are both new to this school and have the same exact classes. We do not sit next to each other in any of them because we didn't know each other until a bit later on. She's also a little shy, but that's all right.
Anyway, I ended up getting her number and tried texting her a bit. I tried to keep the conversation short, as many of you might suggest. I also made sure she was the last one to respond every time - in fact, at one particular point it was very difficult to end the conversation just because she wouldn't stop talking. At one point, I called her to set up plans for a group project we were working on for school. The conversation didn't last long of course, since it was strictly instructional, but she was pretty nervous. I know this because she was screaming into the phone and laughing at every single thing I said.
Additionally, she has made it a point to get up in class during breaks and come over to talk to me. She seriously laughs at every single thing I say or do. She is also very good about maintaining perfect eye contact despite being shy otherwise.
Me: Yeah, this test is going to suck.
Her: LMFAOOO LOLOLOL HAHAHAHH BAHAHHAHAHAH AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAH JESUS CHRIST LOLOLOL AHAHAHAHAH
Me: Yeah. Ha.
Her: GAHHHHHHHHH AHAHAHHAHAHAHAH *slaps knee* OH MY GOD OH MY GOD IM DYING LOLLLLLL
So there are a few minor IOIs, but nothing really obvious to where I know if she likes me or not. Now that I've bored the hell out of you with these incredibly minor details, let's skip ahead a few weeks.
I decided to ask her to get some dinner after class one night. She said she was busy after class; something about her best friend breaking up with her boyfriend and she needs a girl's night out or something. Not important. She said "we'll have to do it some other time", but she did not set a specific date. I just replied with a casual "That's all right, I hope [your friend] cheers up quickly."
The next few days, she texted me some random stuff about what I thought about particular school-related tests, etc, but she didn't really discuss anything outside the scope of school. Here we are now, exactly one week later, and I am now doubting myself. Tomorrow we start a new class together.
So here are my questions to you, and yes, I know they make me look like I have OCD and am thinking way too much about this:
1) She will know a few girl friends in this new class. Should I still sit by her anyway? I don't want to fuck her out of being able to sit by her girl friends, but yeah.
2) How should I go about escalating this situation and building rapport with her? Should I wait a little while to build more rapport before asking her out again, or should I just go for it right now?
3) What are your thoughts on texting? Should I try to do it with her from time to time, or just continue letting her initiate the conversation?
If additional details are needed, I can provide them. Sorry for the long post and for including so many little details. Any help is appreciated.
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