Hey guys, I recently got back into the game from a long period of absence. I wanted to share my field report with you guys in order to get some more insight into a particular interaction I had tonight at the club.

I'll start off by saying that tonight I went sarging alone at a club for the first time in my whole life. I'm a very shy person when it comes to hitting on girls and i'm trying to get rid of this negative trait asap. Anyway, I feeling like a bit of a failure on one particular set tonight. Heres what happened..................

HB8 - Excuse me can I burrow a lighter from you?
ME - sure.........(searching pockets for lighter, smiling) Hang on i've got it somewhere on me hahaha
ME - (Give her the lighter) Here you go
HB8 - Thanks! I'm Stephanie by the way, whats your name? (smiling)
ME - Oh I'm Andrew, nice to meet you.........
HB8 - Thanks for the light, enjoy your night

Alright, I have a feeling you guys are going to blast me for not doing more. So 'yes' I think i screwed up big here because I didn't say more. Lets get that out of the way. In my defence I was very shocked because because she was a real cutey and she asked for my name first which I took as a huge IOI at the time. Heres my question.....Do you guys think that she was actually into me or she was just being nice for giving her a light? What percentage could you say that she was actually interested in me?

I'm not a natural soo if I don't have a gameplan set for a specific target I freeze up and thats exactly what happened here. Thanks in advance for your comments!

100% she was interested but don't worry next time you go out you will learn from your mistakes and cu dos for solo sarging. If you couldn't think of anything to say, its probably because she took you by surprise and you were stuck thinking about why is this attractive girl talking to me!

Anything that would make her smile will keep her engaged

Agree, she was 100% interested. As you're not in training, you got nervous when she approached you and your BL expressed discomfort. She feels that you're not comfortable with her, so she ejects.

I think you did everything 100% right! Getting nervous is normal and will go away when you stick to going out. Solo sarging is great for that! No further advice needed, the rest will happen automatically.
I personally would not set up a gameplan or think about it too much. Set up a "I enjoy the party and myself in particular" vibe instead :)

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is there ANY WAY that she was just being nice? Are you guys saying 100% because she asked for my name first? What is it specifically that tells you its 100%?

I use to believe in the 3 IOI rule but lots of girls touch their hair (habit), lean in (noisy club), point their knee towards while sitting (normal body position). I guess I've become skeptical of IOIs that are not verbal.

Imagine you ask some random uninteresting person on the street for the next bus stop, and once you get the info, you go like "btw my name's vibe *smile*, what's your's"? Ever done that? See...

Anyway, it does not matter. Take it as a compliment for your appearance and presence and hit the field with this added confidence next time. Speculating more about this short convo is a waste of time IMO. Better plan your next sarge instead.

Rock on.

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hey dude..
This might be a litte irrelevant but.. i need 5 messages befor first post.
Im new to the forum and i'm gonne follow your progress

grtz.
Bram

Always see the bigger picture. When she is giving you all these non verbal IOIs after giving verbal ones you know that she wants you.

I agree with the other posters; she was definitely interested. She wanted to get on a first name basis from the beginning.

I'm not going to bash you for not executing perfectly. I will,however, give you some tips on what to do if you get into another situation like this.

If a girl asks you for a lighter, make her qualify for it.
Example: Girl- "May I borrow a lighter?"
You- "Maybe, but first you have to tell me a cool fact that I don't know"

Also, get your inner game good enough so that you are not caught off guard when a girl shows unsolicited IOIs.

Nice one. I have another one:

You: A lighter? Do you know the robot dance?
girl"Yes/No
You: Let's dance the robot dance! / I will show you!
Girl: haha you are funny
you: hilarious huh? I knew you knew the robot dance or: / You're not too bad yourself either

Be a bit cheasy.

Or:

you: "A lighter? Are you trying to hit one me "?
she: haha no no
you: just kidding, people are asking me silly stuff all the time (little neg + DHV)

etc. The possibilities are ENDLESS! Always go for it when a HB8 or more is giving 2/3 IOI's

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I like this one. It creates tension, and gives the girl the impression that you are interesting.

Indeed and thanks.

But don't do it all the time, then you will look like a dancin monkey.

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It's like story telling.

You just have that one first answer chance to say something that will get her thrilled.

think about it, be irreverent, different.

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ah welcome back to da game dawg

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