I've read the double your dating book again, i'm wondering how helpful it really is. Does it complicated for you in some way? i'm sure yes,
I do like it tho to certain degree,

There is a girl i want to initiate with (i actually want to initiate with many), so anyways, i've recorded some lines from the book and i need to keep doing it and practice,
I've few questions that i will glad some responses for,

First, well, do the recommendations of him by the book also mean that they will be good thing to do with guys? do you understand? i don't have really good friends so i wonder for example if being unpredictable will do a lot of good for interactions with them,

Also, I don't have coffee shops around my house so i can't ask a girl to first come to me and then go there

Do girls will really tolerate me telling them i want to be a friend few times and then get them to bed in the same evening?

And the most major point maybe,
Listen all, i've now returned from the city and i had chances to approach women, but i said to myself 'maybe i will make a perfect practice by learning the material better', then i decided to dedicate the next few days to learning for actually doing, meaning that i want to start talk to women in few days of further preparation,

I'm desperate, better not to be but i'm,

Do you understand?

I'm not sure how to initiate, how to be calm, funny etc, i'm not sure what to further talk about with all of my extreme social phobia,

Help me start my engine,

Setting goals for yourself is important.

Do you know 'phase shifting'? Its a great theory of Mystery, simple, but it works. What you have is common fear of talking to a stranger.

What you first do is this: go to the grocery store, when you see a stranger, use phase shift. This means that you should imagine it isn't real, that it just is a video game. Then, count to three. Give your legs the command of walking and shut your brain off untill you said the first words. just say: Hi, I forgot my watch, what time is it?. Stranger: O, it is bladybla. You: Ok, thanks! and you walk away. Do this a couple of times untill you feel that your fear becomes less when you do it.

Then it is time to do the same trick, but with a girl.

Then it is time to do the same trick, but with a beautifull girl.

You see? Set goals for yourself. Go into that supermarket and say to yourself: I have spoken 5 strangers before I leave this building. Then work your way up the ladder, step by step.

Hope you got some good info from me;) Keep us informed on your progress!

Greets,

Da_Vinci

That's so great,

I actually needed to reread it to remember the 'video game' thing

Thank you very much,

But hey? how can i listen to you if you are not one of the featured posters

Number of posts is not always an indicator of experience;) I joined this forum quite late. I read the book, mastered it, and now I am on this forum to keep me on my toes and to stay into it;)

you should take a look at my Introduction post:)

great idea

what book exactly?

The Game, from Neil Strauss, a. k. a. Style. Great for beginners. I am now waiting for the sequel: The Rules of The game. Basically a short list of what-to-do's and what-not-to-do's/

But. before you buy a second book and start digging again, work on it in real life! most of the things that get you further aren't even in books;)

Double your Dating should not be a book for beginners. It concentrates more on how to interact with women ONCE you get them. Well, the problem is that for a guy who don't have women in the first place this is a scenario he won't be facing.

If you have a girlfriend, or feel you might be getting into a relationship, Double your Dating is one of the best materiel out there.

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I'm glad i came to these forums

I've found some books just unreadable for me,
So which do you all suggest me to go through?

I feel that my body goes to the extreme because i'm not talking with girls, or even not much with people and strangers,
When i do i'm very intimidated,

When staying home i feel something bad in my belly,

By the way, today i first asked a person in the supermarket for the time as you suggested, it was a bit akwared,. i talked like kind of machine, He didn't had a watch,

Then i asked the next besides him in a short way,

I couldn't think of it as an imagery situation, i've imagination problems i guess because i've schitzofrenia,

At least i did it. when i saw the people i couldn't believe that i will act upon your suggestion

I've just noticed something,
When i practice saying sentences in the mirror without looking at my eyes i don't say it well. BUT. If i look at my eyes it's kinda good,

I have this sort of problem with looking people at the eyes in a good manner that is well productive to me,

where's sammy?

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Sincerely, the Opportunist

Good stuff, thanks for this.