Hey boys and girls, I start noticing that I keep running into this problem.
A little background:
During the last year or two I started getting more and more into PUA stuff and as the result I became more confident, got social awareness, learn about body langue and a bunch on different things.
Most of the literature I read was talking about being confident and teasing a girls, not getting into interview mode and so on.
Now what the problem is:
If I am talking with HB8 and am acting as my usual self then it goes great. I keep on teasing and interaction just flows smoothly.
On the other hand when it comes to hb6,hb7 it doesn't work as well. By being playful and not serious its much harder to get them participating in conversation since the only thing what flows with them is interview conversations...
I was getting from a few girls which I made into friends that before they met me they though I look very cocky, like I m The shit and that was in a way pushing them away.

Now question - how should I handle interactions with the girls on which being cocky-funny is not producing the expected results?
Is it all about calibration?
How to stay away from the interview mode and also don't come up as an asshole, and build same report?

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a couple of things.

If you have a strong frame you can get away with more.

the hotter a girl the more being cocky/funny helps, I have found with girls that arnt "stunners" they tend to be slightly more self confident and dont appreciate the teasing as much.

that's exactly my question - how to keep the conversation entertaining without using teases and cocky-funny?

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sorry dude, mis understood what you where saying. you can still use cock funny, just ease up on the teasing. just how much cocky do you use as well? are you bordering on arrogant or quite mild with it?

how much I used is hard to tell since that is part of who I am by now, and I m using it unconsciously. It's a huge part of the interaction.

Now when u mentioned it, I think with some girls I do appear like arrogant by not answering simply to their interview questions. On the other hand with others... its more chilled cocky - twisting what she says, making in a playful way fun of her.

The more I write and think right now the more it feels like the problem is calibration.

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I was going to say its possibly calibration, I still fuck up alot with it, just today i was talking to a shy girl and i KNOW i was too cocky and it just backfired on me! but the other night when i was out i was doing the same shyte and it worked just fine.

the more you practice (including me) the more you will learn whats right and wrong in certain situations.

Just remember that it's cocky-FUNNY.


If there's no funny. Then it's just cocky. Which isn't that great.

amm... that was not the question... it's not about using cocky-funny techniques. It is about being naturally a cocky person in a way that I always tease right of the bat and if the girl is participating it became a cool interaction, on the other hand if she is shy and not reciprocating then I can't really tease her...
Question is how to keep the interaction entertaining and progressing towards something sexual on the shy girl?

If you will try to challenge a shy girl , how big is the chance that she will be participating....

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YES to 'calibration'.........

How much of you is 'cocky-funny'??

It can get tedious if a male is constantly in this mode......Not enough substance......

Perhaps to the 6&7's, it comes off as a bit too 'narcissistic' for them to interact with .......

had to tell how much of me is cocky-funny. Think I am just naturally more at the cocky side so it doesn't always come up as cocky-funny.

Now when u mentioned narcissism I remembered a while back some of the girl/friends mentioning it.

Though dunno if its a downside or not. Those girl/friends I m talking about told me after that, that even though I looked like that they really wanted to meet me so they pushed through that "red flag" if I can call it...

what's your advice on interaction with 6&7's?
To be more funny? Direct? Indirect?

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More substance in the conversations. More of the real you. Perhaps you are not intouch with the real you? I dont mind a few interview questions over the course of a conversation....It opens the platform for me to ask them back with out feeling invasive. And when you ask them it allows me to speak about my favourite subject ....me!!! People are at all times 1000x more interested in themselves than anyone else....

I.E. giving a gift........you can trick yourself all you want but, in the end you do it because it's self serving.........It makes you feel good!!! Would you do it if you were going to get absolutly no benifit? This concept is rather difficult to comprehend.....But once you do, you will become a less selfish person and make decisions that are more thoughtful of others. Rather than puerly self serving

Also wemon smell men's fasades and selfserving intentions from a mile away.

The ego can be a consuming beast.

In Gambler's Stealth Attraction video he demonstrates a brilliant solution to this problem. He says to "Give 1 evasive response (cocky/funny) that builds attraction and intrigue and then 1 honest response that builds connection and trust." The perfect balance and the best of both worlds.

So for instance, if you are having a conversation and she asks, "what do you do?" you say, "I'm an ass model." She laughs and you get attraction points, but then you say, "haha, but really I'm a bartender." Or whatever the case may be, now you have built some comfort.

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