My wife and I are swingers. We have no trouble finding other couples to play with -- since we're both attractive (she's an 8 or 9, depending on your taste in women, and I'm probably an 8 ) our online profiles tend to get more than enough attention to keep us busy.

My wife is pretty shy with new people, so when we go to swinger parties I'm doing 99% of work in terms of opening sets, sustaining conversation and closing -- this usually means getting a couple's online screen name so we can email them later. Putting modesty aside, I'm a confident guy and I'm attractive, intelligent and most people think I have a good personality. Plus, my hot wife makes for nearly irresistible bait. So, I'm okay with my role and I do well at parties. But I don't want to do well -- I want to completely dominate.

So, I've just started reading about PUA and trying to improve my game. The issue is that the dynamics as a swinger are different. In many ways picking up women is way easier as a swinger: because of my wife I'm never desperate or needy and she makes me pre-selected and gives me higher status; also, the women at these parties are there to meet people to fuck and their husband's aren't going to block you or kick your ass. On the other hand there are some things that make it harder: you have to pick up both the woman and the man, you have to be able to calibrate three people (your partner, your target, and your target's partner), and you have to navigate rules that almost all swingers have.

So, many elements of PU technique work perfectly as a swinger (openers, for example), but other elements are different. What are your ideas and suggestions for modifying PU technique to fit this situation? Thanks.