First off I'm new here so I apologise if I've posted this in the wrong section. I have been aware of PUA for a few months now, turns out some things I've been doing right and some not. Lets just say my eyes have been opened.

Aaaanyway, I recently met up with a girl I've know for about a year. We worked together (not anymore) and always had good chemistry which consisted mainly of us bullying/busting on each other. She was in a relationship until a couple of months ago so never pursued her before.

So she called me and we agreed to meet for a couple of hours to look around a few shops. During this time I took control of the conversation and what we did. I teased a little, flirted a little. We talked about a few deeper things because we already have a rapport but I steered away from ex-bf talk and kept it fun and light, not too serious. I thought she seemed interested as she not-so subtly brought up that she was dating other guys (but nothing serious she said) and also brought up sex talk twice. I ended it after an hour and walked her to her dads place of work, as planned, so she got home safe. She said we should meet again for coffee. I said I'd call her and left.

I called her a week later at the start of the week. We agreed to meet at the end of the week but she didn't know when she was working so she said she'd text me when she knew. Come the end of the week, she hadn't and I didn't bother asking her, instead I called her a day or two later. We chatted for 10 mins, I told a couple of DHV stories and joked about having to go and save some "damsels in distress" before I hung up, but not before I said I was in town the following afternoon and she should meet me when she finished work. She said yes but then text me the next day before saying she had to cover another shift and was also tired as she'd been up early at 4am. She said to text her when I was free in the week. I didn't want to appear like I gave a fuck so I joked about her covering the milkmans' shift and told her she'd be missing out on my anti stress techniques (said she was stressed). I didn't say when I would be free or try arrange anything.

I figured she's either not that interested, which wasn't my feeling, or more likely she's trying to make me chase her. Either way I didn't follow up. She then text me late at night two days after this telling me what time she finishes at work later this week if i want to meet. I can't actually make it at the time she's said as it is and I'm going away the day after for a week.

Should I try arrange to meet her that night instead when I am free? Or should I just say I can't make it and arrange something for the week after when I'm back?

I could do with this second date so I can build comfort and up the kino a bit, but at the same time don't wanna seem like it's cool for her to flake on me and I'll just come running when she fancies it? Any advice on how to deal with her or where I go from here would be appreciated. That's if this 10,000 word essay hasn't fully negged you out already, tried to keep it concise! Cheers.

Clouds

I want to help you, bud, but you have to clear something up for me first: Do you and this girl live in different cities/towns?

I live in the city and she lives in a town about 20 mins drive away. She doesn't drive so normally gets the train to work in the city where I live. I know..it's not ideal. I would happily go see her but I think that would be showing too much interest too soon and the same again if I asked her round to mine.

Oh ok, well, I wouldn't let her pick the time. She's already flaked on you too many times. Maybe you should read some information on the forums about dealing with "flakes". I'm not an expert on handling this kind of situation, so I don't want to mislead you.