| This is for beginners who yet doesn't have many lays, who should focus on getting lays rather than having a tight game. Tight game only comes from experience and in our field, fucking girls equals field experience.
We've all had this problem before: You are heading out, seing plenty of hot women, but for some reason you just feel like "you don't need" or "don't feel like" getting any pussy. Often it's just your ego playing a trick on you, protecting itself. However a few hours later, you get to bed, alone... and then you start thinking: Fuck a chick would have been great right now!
You've planned the whole afternoon about your night out, you were expecting good results, you were horny, you were excited about the night to come. But when the night is around the corner and you are actually delivering your charm in the club (or it can be daygame, i just use nightgame as reference because that's what i do) you just feel stiff and you start believing that you don't need any. At least you say that to yourself: "i just want to have fun" - Fact is fucking chicks is more fun than dancing around while drinking expensiv beers and goofey cocktails. You just think you don't feel like getting any, however if i came to you asking you if you wanted pussy for free delivered on a silverplate, i already know your answer: YES! Yes, deep inside you wanna get laid (in most cases)
I've had this problem in the past, and sometimes, i don't have much motivation when i am out. I don't really know the reason why, but what i know for sure is that if you wanted pussy earlier in the night, you probably want pussy at the end of the night aswell, no matter what tricks your mind is playing on you. However we should not look away from the fact that we men also got hormonal cycles, and there will be periods where we have a lower sexdrive, and when it's really low, well accept it. You don't always need to fuck. However if you felt earlier that night a flow of horniness in your body, then your sexdrive isn't low... it's your mind tricking you.
What i want you to avoid is the expensiv cab home, or walking the barstrip alone after closing time, or sitting on the buss alone, when seeing everyone else kissing their catch and hooking up. I also want to help you to avoid the afterparty with your left hand in your bed. You know, that wank is gonna beat the shit out of your ego. You know jacking off after a night out is just emotionally painful: you feel like shit.
If you didn't have any high sexdrive, you wouldn't bother about it anyway, however if it was there you will be a little sad when you end up alone.
Okey, the point is: getting laid isn't always the biggest problem. Most people can get laid easely. Let's say you opened 30 set, you tried your best, you made sure to push the interactions as far as possible, you made sure you've set a sexual frame on the interaction, you made sure you escalated and tried to ask the chick home on each set: Of course you will have company in your bed that night. Especially if you got good logistics, a good excuse to head home: a good wine, a dildo and a cat that does saltos.
Then my question is, why ain't you doing that? Well, the fact must be: YOU ARE A PUSSY.
Why are you into pick up in the first place? Well because you wanna get laid. Why do you wanna get laid? 2 reasons 1) because you are fucked up horny, 2) to stroke your ego. You are affraid of harming your ego, and the idea of approaching 30 sets scares the shit out of it.
But the fact is, when playing the numbers game (hitting on many many women), YOU WILL GET LAID and when you get to fuck 1 chick, you won't remember all the rejections you had before meeting that special girl that got access to your sanctuary of love. You will also get plenty of field experience, and later on in your journey you will get a tight game where you only approach a few women and you're guarranted fucking one of them (my magic number is 4).
I will be frank. I usually (not always, back to that later on) prefere delivering a tight game. Like opening up to 5 sets, and end up fucking at least 1 of them. It makes you feel cool and stylish. However you guys should know that i got a lot of field experience (i have been into this for more than 4 years!). Many here sucks big time with women, so instead of wasting your time with shit like the blueprint decoded and having cum dripping out of your nose and ears from mental masturbation, get out and just focus on getting pussy, or ass (if you are into anal)...
However if you are a little more experienced, (who manage to get laid sometimes) this is still a post for you. Smooth game and doing tight pick ups is something i have started mastering after a lot of nights out and hard work in the field... and no i don't have a 6-pack. However you won't become a smooth player after 1 year nor won't you become one after an overpriced bootcamp... the smoothnes comes from meeting women, after many rejections and after lots of success (fucking).
There is one major problem with tight/smooth game: It's not always funny if you fail. It gives your ego an even harder slap because you've invested more mental energy in one singel set/target. However if you are so skilled that you can get laid on mosts of your night out, tight game will work out. But most beginners are not there yet, and therefore focusing on tight game will just harm them.
Tight game does excist, perfect game doesn't. You will never be able to score every women you meet. However a tight game will take a while to get and in order to get there, you need plenty of experience, therefore the numbers game (approach 30 women per night + escalate + give her an invitation to get to your place) works perfectly. By doing the numbers game, you are walking the right way to get a tight game! Failing is what makes you calibrated, and fucking gives you core confidence with women, and increases your sexual confidence (experience with sex», not affraid of sex»... ETC...)
So why am I writing this? well even if i love playing the game tight, there will still be nights where i don't bother thinking too much or invest too much, and just wanna fuck something. in that case, numbers game is just heaven! No mental investment, no hard work, I JUST WANNA FUCK!
It's not ego validation i need in that case, it's just penis validation
I dunno if there is something wrong with me, but i am fucking smooth, and i can pick up chicks in a really smooth and tight way; however i still love doing untight game! It's fucking entertaining and you know that when hitting on 30 women, you know pussy is guarranteed without any hard work. Isn't that amazing? You screen out the difficult, lowdrive women and only end up with the easy slutz! The funny thing is that you will usually get pussy after approach number 10!
So the main reason you are not hitting on 30 sets is because you are affraid to harm your ego. Therefore we need an other drive than the ego to motivate us for getting pussy: The sexdrive
The sex» drive, that's key. With the sex» drive up you won't hit on women to get your ego stroked, but to satisfie your penis. Numbers game works much better and is a lot easier to perform if you got a high sex» drive. If you neither have any ego drive or any sex» drive, you simply don't need any pussy: nuff said.
Get a higher sexdrive by: working out, eating healthy and stop jacking off, not rocket sicences.
However if you are in the field horny, but you have your mind playing the "i just want to have fun tonight" or "i don't really feel like getting any" read on:
The goal is to put you in a sexual state which makes you forget about your ego or at least appease it.
Techniques for increasing your sexual state
_ Visualize women around you, and imagine having sex» with them
_ You see that booty? Think about licking and fucking it. Look at the area below her ass, the wet area, the Phillipines of the female body, that warm and wet cave, your cock also enjoys a round of sauna. What about these boobies? when was the last time you sucked on boobies? when you where a baby and your mum gave you her milk? what about her face? wouldn't you like to jizz out your tropical juices all over it? or her mounth, fucking it like you were brushing her teeth!
_ Visualize yourself walking down the barstrip or outside a club, while you see so many people hooking up and you are alone, how does that feel? makes you angry? good!
_ The nights when you arrive at your home regretting not working harder for getting any pussy, not taking enought risks!
_ Or even worse, you get home, get to bed, for just discovering you are fucked up horny and starts jacking off. Satruday night jack off is the worst jack off. Especially when you could have a hot girl's lips around it rather than your left hand.
Techniques for appeasing your ego
_ Tell yourself that you are just playing a game: the numbers game. It's not your current level of skills, it's a game you are playing for fun!
These technique are good to motivate you and get yourself in state.
One more thing:
What is so good with the numbers game, which you don't have with tight game?
_ You are guarranteed laid
_ You get plenty of field experience.
Also when getting a lay recently, it is easier to play the tight game because your sexdrive is higher and same goes for your confidence.
Have fun!
Cheers
-TVA
PS: Your brain remember successes more than failures, so even if you failed on 29 sets, but fucked 1 chick, your mind will remember that chick more than all the others you failed on. _________________ Teevster (aka TVA_Oslo)
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