Hello all I’ve decided to document my continuing journey from being a total AFC to becoming a confident natural. After reading AFC Daniels journey it really inspired me to document myself and try to become better.

I’ve been reading material, watching videos etc for around 2 years now and still am not super successful. I’m sure there’s a large majority of people in my position so this time I intend to properly reach my aim of being a confident guy that has a large amount of success when I want it.

Day 1:
Fresher’s week has just past I’d been out 4 nights that week. During fresher’s week it was mainly dance floor game making solid eye contact, getting noticed and taking the opportunity when possible to dance with women.
One of the women I danced with I kissed and danced with for a fair amount of time. We then got a drink I number closed and this was where I had the same issue I’ve had for a fair amount of time. She said “I guess I need to get back to my friends as they’ve left me” as I was with my friends and from past experience where I find getting girls home hard I let her go as I knew I could get a day two.


Things I need to improve:
Sexual escalating I think she would have been more willing to come home with me if I I’d done more kino and been more sexual. Always finding this abit risky as it can go one way or the other but I'm sure once mastered its brilliant.

Currently trying to pluck up more courage to open girls on the route to uni and in shops etc. Have some day 2 planned with the girl at a cocktail bar for later in the week all seemed to work out well.

Will post more over the week

Day 2

It's been a crazy few days. Still finding it hard to pluck up the courage to talk to people while shopping / walking to uni. When a good opportunity presents it's self its always easer.

Done some club game the other night as well. The night was going well opened two girls on the dance floor which was successful. Dancing with them trying to get close to build up the sexual tension. I noticed the girl I was interested in was some what holding back. We danced for around an hour going to the bar to get drinks etc, they both seemed to be enjoying themselves. After getting the vibe she had a BF or wasn't interested I thought i would go for the number close.

When I asked her she was all smiley etc but said " I can't I have a BF" fair play to the girl for staying loyal!

Today I'm off to the cocktail bar I scoped out on day one to meet a girl from last week for a drink. Txt game seems to be going really well, all down to the amount of role playing ive used. Girls seem to just love role play when used properly, not taking ur self to serious can often be the best advice.

Wish me luck its Mojito time!

Day Three

Been an interesting few days. The hottest weather this whole summer in England strikes at the end of September going into October how about that?

On route to the shops and uni I've been keeping lots of eye contact and attempting to make every girl smile as some sort of attempt to get better at introducing myself to them. Still been finding it hard to find the confidence to just walk over and open up a conversation, when the times right I always do it but when trying to force it I do find it difficult.

Friday I'm in the queue for a club, and I see this hot girl. I grab her attend befriend the guys and she starts telling me shes from Italy, loves techno and wants a good night out. I'm right in there! after a little moment shes taking my number down and up for going out Saturday. In this case I decided not go out as I've been out since Tuesday and needed to stay in and do work. I think there will be more from this girl in the future stay tuned, hope it works out shes amazing...! gf material wowah

On a good note I went on the date I spoke about the other day. Yes it was really good! quality result she was really interesting lovely girl, had no problem talking we had lots of fun. My issue I need to sexual escalate more, i just can't find the confidence sometimes how annoying.

I did a large amount of kino using things like the "small hands" trick. When the topic was suitable I slipped in you have small hands she put them up to mine and like pressed against mine you could tell this worked making her feel more comfortable.

Throughout the whole night she was laughing having fun, we where close but I didn't move in for the kiss!. Really why didn't I? after all I've already kissed this girl, she met me at a cocktail bar paid for one round of drinks... she likes me stop being an idiot and man up! haha. In theory its simple but at the time I didn't do it.

My Mistakes

I'm still not being sexual enough, need to some how be more alpha and move into things abit more than I'm currently doing. I suppose the reason I don't do it that much is I don't wanna blow my chances and be considered by her just another guy who wants to get laid.

Any advice on this would be great?

Going to continue this week to improve my sexual escalating I know there's loads i can do I've just got to do it. Hopefully meet some girls route, 3 times going to gym this week wanna get fit again.

Life's going well

My guess would be that u aren't sure at what kino level you are with a girl. you're thinking "if i kiss her now would she be offended?" and "should i start being more sexual rather than just friendly?". but whenever you fear to physically escalate that's the moment you need to push yourself to do it.

To be more calm and comfortable instead of being in your head, contemplating the situation:
1.treat her from the beginning like she's your girlfriend. kiss her on her cheek casually, hold her, and generally touch her like you would with your girlfriend
2.think of it like giving her what she wants. girls love cuddles, kisses, etc. just as much

Cheers for the reply. I agree with you It's just that AA feeling when ur like shall I shall or shall I not.

Going to try and attempt to be more comfortable about it all. This will clearly help me think the more of these situations I'm in the easier it will be. But having a good mind set and being confident will help for sure.

Keep up the good work mate! On the sexual escalation front, imagine your joking about sex as you would with your mates, keeping it lighthearted shows that sex is not a big deal for you, so therefore why shouldn't you joke about it! With this is mind, I think it should make you more comfortable with escalation.

Keep up the good work mate! On the sexual escalation front, imagine your joking about sex as you would with your mates, keeping it lighthearted shows that sex is not a big deal for you, so therefore why shouldn't you joke about it! With this is mind, I think it should make you more comfortable with escalation.

Thanks for the reply man! trying hard to tackle it 100% getting better with it little way to go still though. Joking around is no doubt some way I can get better at doing this. I need to be more seductive, going to look into some of Gamblers stuff. Watched, read some material before it's just remembering to do it!

Day Four

Still talking to the cocktail girl text game is going well. We was supposed to meet at a nightclub but when I got inside there was no phone signal how about that haha. We text after and both said we had no signal was rather funny!

The night wasn't a fail though. I met loads of girl in the club danced with a large amount and kissed a fair few as well. By gaining strong eye contact and attention I would then hold there hand and twirl them around. Really works girls seem to love this move espesically when you pull them close to you afterwards.

I started dancing with a semi tall blonde girl with fancy dress black glasses. After a while we went to get a drink. I didn't sexual escalate annoying I know but just didn't feel like the right time.. Need to do more kino and get closer with women faster, take more risks.

When getting drinks at the bar on my own I spoke to a large amount of women got one girls number she was a hot 6 with black hair. Text her today will see how this turns out. I also number closed a girl on the dance floor but didn't build up a connection so I think this number will flake she was stunning though!

Smoking Area Game

I don't often go into the smoking area but when I do I always seem to get results. It just seems the easiest place in the club due to everyone being friendly and talking with no thumping music.

I court a glipse of a girl I knew from my first year of uni walked over to her and started talking. Was going really well but knew I had to sexual escalate. So i started doing some kino to get closer, First was a game I watched on youtube that adam lyons done.

Having routines really helps sometimes deffo worth having a few up ur sleeve. I asked the girl "Do you have good hand eye coordination" she was like ermm i dunno.." I then suggested the game she was keen. I showed her how to do it, the works by moving your arms in the gap you have made for the arms to go through "see video for a better explanation"

Once she knew how to do it I said right now you need to do it with your eyes closed. She closes her eyes and starts doing it eight times like I told her. When she opens them she starts laughing and slight hits me really good reaction she loved it. This broke rapport and made it really easy to speak to her and built a good connection!. I then numbered closed while doing some silly rock paper sissor game, i thought i would make it abit fun!


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Things I've learn

I'm still not escalating enough going to continue to get better, I need to be more forward and seductive this is one of my main problems. Going to look into some gambler game to help improve this.

I just can't take girls home find it so difficult. But this is because I'm not seductive enough! going to change this. Any tips on this and taking women home would be great.


Life's going well, gym 3 times a week meeting women while shopping, at university and other activity's. I've found now I'm speaking to lot's of women my games improving which is a great thing.

Looking forward to seeing how the number closes go!

Day Five

Life's going pretty well trying to get the balance of spending to much time gaming, and making sure i focus on my degree.

Went out Wed's and Friday two occasions when i drank way to much and didn't actually do much other than dance and look like a total AFC. Something i completely need to change.

On the Weds night i danced, spoke to a large amount of women. Didn't get to kiss close one girl because i didn't exscalate what so ever, it's some sort of block where i feel out of my comfort zone doing it. Really need to crack this inorder to move on. I was in the position to take a girl home as well, after some light hearted chat she said " I can't really leave my friends" something ive come across before, maybe meeting the friends and be friending them make it easier? I'm not to sure.

Things I'm going to change:

I'm going to stop getting so steaming, really doesn't look good, costs way to much money and you don't get any sucess while steamed out ur face.

Need to do more kino and attempt to be more seductive, I feel I'm improving but very very slowly.


Gym was going well, currently me and my flat mate are using the free gym facilitys that our old accomdication "Unite" offer there residences. Talk about student life uh haha! We got busted by the gym instructor who told us we need to have an induction... Currently figuring out how where going to get around this one.

I'm meeting up with the girl from the cocktail bar who i didn't get to meet again at the club. Going for some Coffee then I'm gonna do a few things in town attempt to kino and make things fun. Really nice girl wanna see where this ends up!.

I'm currently ill which sucks, i guess this is what happens when u go out 3 to 4 times a week for 3 weeks at uni haha. Going to some Scientology gathering this week, really excited to see how things turn out down there.

Any advice would be great!


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I like what you're writing so far, you sound like me. get better bro! I use my dancing game to get girls or have it escalate to something.

Thank you, ye dance game is a big part of my club game that's for sure really works well often as well. Just attempting to close from the dance floor is really hard. But slowly improving just need to rapidly escalate and actually remember to do it. That's the problem with pick up, so much stuff in my head I forget to do things but ye hopefully all will work out.

Good journal keep it up

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Day 6

Hi all been a relaxing week this week. After all this partying I came down with some cold so haven't been out clubbing since last Friday but still been having a right laugh!

Been to the gym twice this week, body showing some great signs. I felt that my game has improved from going to the gym and working on my fitness and my body. No doubt just this is just mental confidence for me but it's a great help. I advise everyone to hit the gym a few times a week will really help you, also makes you really happy.

On route to university I often pick up some lunch from a shop on the way. I always seen this dead beautiful black haired European girl. She gives me shit loads of iois and smiles loads. No doubt this is down to the amount of eye contact and push pulls I've been giving her this year. Smiling, eye contact and good conversation seems to do wonders with women.

Anyway this day was different than most, I had been trying to think of away of getting her number or talking for longer than the time it took to say what I wanted to order. This day she was on her break! how about that. Deep down I was like yes I finally talk to her outside of work so to speak.

I got my lunch and walked outside, there she was drinking her coffee and smoking, I commented with something like "Your skiving from work" haha terrible but all that I could think of. We had some light chit chat, really didn't know what to say ended up getting her name, age, and when she was at work serious amount of details i know haha.

I tried to build some sort of connection, i tried to comment on her having small hands as it has deffo worked in the past but seriously... way to early for this move. She just laughed and brushed it off basically but still you've gotta try.

I ended up leaving 28 year old Isabella to back to work. No doubt something will come of this sometime will keep you informed.

Been really focusing on my studying as well really want to achieve a 1ST in my degree here in England. Only issue is time! not enough hours in the day really annoying but going to continue to keep everything going.

Today I met the girl from the cocktail bar for coffee ooo yes. I was meeting here at the train station. I had left about 30mins before to get there and build up some confidence, always nice to be warm before meeting up no nerves etc then.

Turns out she was late, text me that she had an over long lecture. Was cool with me I didn't mind. I made sure to talk to everyone possible to get in a good mood. I spoke to people on the streets that where handing out leaflets, brought some stuff I needed in shops etc worked like a treat.

I then met her at the station was great. No kiss to start with, she wasn't and over confident girl which I could judge made it less of a " go in for the kill sort of thing" Still we went for coffee had some light hearted chart. Once we had drank the coffee we went to a shop to collect something I had on order was really a good move.

In shop made the women assistant laugh and did some nice game she was really nice. She then dropped the item on order because of it haha! oh dear was really funny but all good.

When we got outside I said lets go to mine. She was interested and that was that successful date.

When we got back chilled watched a good film, got close didn't push it really didn't feel it was a good time. If she was seriously confident and super out going I would have done it but I get the vibe it wasn't gonna happen haha!.

But ye all good. Attending some Sciencetology meeting on Friday gonna be interesting a mate said I should go so ive decided ill attend. Trying to say "yes" to more things in hope to try new things and new experiences.

Good times - Watch A crazy thing called love really funny, modelling the guy in it is gold haha!

Day 7

Thankfully I'm feeling better I'm not as ill any more brilliant! Went to that Scientology event was really interesting - in many ways haha! spoke to a large amount of people women and guys.

Speaking to some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen at this event they where so open really nice

One thing I took from the experience is that when everyone is interested in the same ideas and topics and views there's just no anxiety what so ever. It seems that anxiety is brought on from the was the world currently is. Some people battle it better than others and others tend to avoid dropping themselves in a situation that mite make them feel anxiety.

Feeling really confident with life right now - still searching for beautiful women yet to find the gem.

Currently reading the Sex God Method... so seriously good content in there. I didn't think the bed room was an area I struggled with at all. But when you read the book you notice that "dominance" and being alpha plays a massive part in sex, and in life itself.

I'm now going to try and be more alpha and see what the difference is. I've noticed when picking up women when you are more alpha they love it. Confidence shows and you take control of the whole situation. If you reading this take a look at that book, sucking in countless amounts of information isn't always good but this is gold!.

Mistakes this week
* Being to scared to make a move
* Not being alpha enough, thinking about the situation to much.
* Getting to drunk

My aims this week:

* Take changes more
* Stop over thinking things.
* Attempt to meet a really nice girl this week
* Arrange plan some activities like, salsa or something that's going to put me outside my comfort zone.