Well folks, quick one for anyone whos interested.

I met a cool girl as part of my work, she's working in a building I call around from time to time to do some jobs. Anyway, right from the get go we've been getting on well during convos, we have a laugh slagging each other / teasing etc and any time I call around she seems pleased to see me, here's some what I think are IOI's.

Showing her the mid section scars I have after an operation, she asked to show her the lower one messing, its close to my you know. She said her father would love me? Always lock's with eye contact, sometimes copys my movements like kneeling down to look at something, she kneeled down close beside me. She accepted my FB friend request thing, replyed to my message etc with smiley faces etc. I played a bit of a joke by drawing a picture of her saying she love's this other guy and stuck it on the wall, her mother found it, checked my fb and had a message from her saying thanks for the picture, my mother loved it.

Here's the thing, shes got a boyfriend. She's never mentioned him once, he was there one day and she did'nt even introduce me, I would never have known only for FB, shes got him down as in a relationship etc.

What do I do, I've known about the boyfriend for a week or two now but I still continue as if she was single, do I keep going or stop?

continue on but be discreet. She may be exploring a replacement model but shes going to be coy thus the ASD. That means no facebook. Get her alone, don't verbalize your relationship or her BF, and see if shes down to escalate.

Alright cool, you know its hard to get some alone time, I only see her when calling to do work and she's mostly busy aswell, plenty of folk around. I made a suggestion for her to give me a hand with something some day when were both free but she suggested we do something else where more people are involved.

So your saying no fb messages? and whats asd?

well if she wont go out with you for a drink shes likely not interested in more then friends. ASD is anti-slut defense which means shes likely going to justify is salacious actions, especially if she has a BF.

Her BF and her social circle reads her FB so you cant really try to get with her through that media nexus while she has a BF

I hear you, so far just been sending a few private messages about a half dozen, fun stuff mostly so only she can see them, you still think I should hold off? I didnt ask her out for a drink, just to give me a hand training, she runs, she didnt say no, just smiled and suggested I should go to where her and all her friends train some weekend. I dont want to fall into the friend bracket so kind of fobbed it off.

I'll be around the building where she works next week, I was half thinking of laying low and not really calling in, just to freeze her out a little and see what comes back, you think this is a good plan? She's got a bf so I guess I can only do so much.

you don't want to hang out with her when shes with her friends in any case. I dont know man, you have a lot working against you. She lukewarm at best, and she has a BF. What other prospects you got cooking cuz this seems like a dead end?

True, its hard to get out these days so meeting girls are few and far between, just got the feeling something was different with this girl compared to the few others I meet. She might just be overly friendly and I've took it the wrong way, not to worrie I defo made a good impression so never know what will happen down the line, I'll ease off and see what happens, if she contacts me I'll take it from there. Cheers dude.

few and far between? That doesnt sound good bro. What city do you live in and how old are you? Im not sure that's a good attitude.

And in my experience they never come back unless youve had sex with them.