This is a belief I've held for a while but have never truly expressed it. P.s. it's just a view and is vaguely linked to this forum.

Right, my friend is a nice guy and has many attractive qualities - his girlfriend is quite similar, but she is pretty damn ugly. Anyway, from what I gather she practically chased him for a year until he committed - and then they went out.

I'm not an expert at all - but do people agree that this is too common. Basically what I'm getting at is that too often men (and women also) settle for 'worse' because it's easy and supplies a degree of comfort? How often do you see a women being treated like sh!t who stays with her man? Why? Because it's easy - and to a degree, cowardly. This is the same for looks too - I think some people genuinely don't find an partner attractive but roll with the punches for the hell of having a partner.

Am I mad or is this a common view?

you mad bro

Many men settle because they're simply afraid of trying. Some cannot tolerate the idea of being single, and they just get with anyone who's willing. Is this good? No. Is this the reality? Absolutely.

You definitely have a point.

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In Seth Godin's book The Linchpin they talk about 'the resistance' which is a part of your brain that keeps you safe and boring. Since I do believe in the idea of abundance I feel like this is giving into 'the resistance'... settling and becoming safe...

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I'm in the military and you see this all the time. I guess working around guys all day scares some of these dude's into just settling and starting a family right away. I have seen some hideous wives, like the guy could of done way way better. I used to think there other half must of had a personality of gold, but that just wasn't the case...

I'll admit that I'm totally afraid of becoming safe and settled... I feel like it would get in the way of my life.

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A friend of mine plainly refuses to take my tips as he describes it 'against morals' and 'manipulation' (teasing isn't manipulation but hey) and says he's got nothing to learn from me. Yet he always ends up in the friend zone and now he's been chatting for half an hour to this hideous monstrocity that happens to have the female gender and he's in love. Madly.
My heart weeps when I hear he simply doesn't WANT to try to improve. Love happens he says. So sad. And what's even sadder is I firmly believe he will fail again with this small-shorthaired-misfigured creature.

Sounds like he went for this relationship 'cause he thought he may not get the chance with anyone better. Or maybe he likes the girl.

Whenever a girls asked me out in the past the thought has crossed my mind that, if I say "no", I might be making a mistake. Therefore, I normally go out with most girls who ask me out...

It takes courage to ask someone out

Most only settle in the divorce

for guys, this is common.

not so for women.

when i date a girl, it is important that she knows one thing and NEVER FORGETS IT:

"i like being with you, but i don't need you"

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Exactly !

I've seen too many relationships fail because the bloke becomes 'needy' - including some of my own (a long time ago).

all woman suck .. they are all the same...

they need 8 closets full of shit just to take a dump...

i had hot girlfriends .. dated hot woman .. gamed hot woman

they all were full of shit..the hot ones and the lesser ones

you guys are all wrong .. it's not about if she's hot or not...

the question is how this woman will fuck up your life if you allow it

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Wow. That's a bit harsh. Cheer up, you sound bitter.

As for guys settling, yes. It happens all the time. As Mystery puts it, women are the selectors in the majority of relationships. Since everyone wants the best for themselves, women will generally go for guys who can do way better than them. And since guys are such pussies these days, they take what they can get. Indeed, women get the better end of the bargain for the most part. Feels good to be a PUA.

5 years ago in my shy days, I lost my virginity, dated the girl on and off for 4 years. Yes men settle. At first she was a drunk party girl with zero education and no goals. Just a warm vagina and a person I can put my arm around. I even made her into more of the girl I wanted, made her go to college, mature, learn to drive, ect... Instead of finding a new girl I tried to make her into my model girlfriend. That's called desperation. Anyways I don't regret her but I did settle. It's that AFC mentality of having no options..


But in general I hear hundreds of nighmare marriage stories.

Don't settle.

Lodewijkp I heart you dude, you have good advice but come off stone cold. Your a little sweet heart down deep

Kind of funny how you said "I made her learn how to drive..." hahaha. Nice

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