Hello everyone, this is my first post on here.

So, just a bit of a background, I just got out of a relationship about a month ago (the last 10 years I've been involved in serial monogamy). Regardless, I turn 30 in a few months, so I'm stressing a little about what age range I should be aiming for. Let me make clear, I'm not after any serious relationship of sorts.

So, there's this girl I met through a friend of a friend. She came out during my guys night out lets get (me) drunk and over my ex girlfriend. We hit it off alright, and we've been hanging out quite a bit. I've probably seen her about 9 times in the last 3 weeks. I'll say right now, I haven't k-closed her yet. She's a very flirty girl, so it's hard to tell whether or not she acts like this to me because she's interested, or because it's just in her nature. Our kino has been pretty good; last time I saw her we were watching a movie, and she had her head on my shoulder, and I had my arm around her waist. Now if you're wondering why I haven't closed yet, here's the issue: she's 20. I'm 29. I'm attracted to her, but I'm concerned about the age gap.

I like to think that it's pretty obvious she's interested in me, otherwise, why would she want to spend so much time with me? She does talk about other guys in front of me, and I'm not sure if its A) because she's trying to make me jealous to urge me to close her, or B) because she just sees me as a friend. She hasn't outright said either way, which is making it more confusing. Trust me gents, normally, I'd have F-closed by now, but this feels different. I don't know if it's my instincts or whatnot, but something inside me is holding me back (and it has nothing to do with my ex, let me specify that now).

I just don't want to come across as a 'old pervert' know what I mean? Something happened tonight to that confused me. My car is in the shop right now being fixed, and it was supposed to be done tonight (it's been in the shop for 6 weeks). Anyways, I was really stoked to pick it up (we were also going to go for a drive). It wasn't done, and I called her, told her the bad news. I thought after to myself that I didn't want to make it seem like I didn't care about seeing her, so I texted her 'I didn't mean just the car, I also am pissed cause I couldn't see you tonight". She texts back "oh". So I text back "Yeah...". And then nothing! So I follow up with "Anyways, take it easy, gnight" and an hour later I get "night".

Thought gentlemen on how to proceed? I don't have a case of oneitis, but I feel like I need to get this one under my belt before I enjoy the single life. Also, let me restate an earlier question - how young is too young? Not that I'm purposely going for younger girls, just curious mates.

Cheers

As far as your age difference, I do not think that is a problem at all. You're going to kick yourself later on if you don't do anything with this girl!! Good luck

A few thoughts:

-Don't worry about coming off as an "old pervert." You're 29, not Herbert from Family Guy.

-20 is not too young. Especially if you're looking for a casual hook-up. If you have a chance to have sex with a girl in her sexual prime when her attractiveness peaks (and yes, most girls' peaks are before they hit 25), go for it.

-As far as this particular girl goes, it looks like you may have had some interest, but it seems to be waning, especially since you haven't established enough kino to get the kiss close yet. Her text messages to you seem to be indicating disinterest. If you do go out with her again, it is essential that you escalate pronto!

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When you are in the game, there are NO age boundaries (well as long as we are talking adults). There is a bigger chasm going on right now and that is the growing distance between this girl and you. Dude, you were on a sofa with her head on your shoulder and you didn't Kclose! Following that up with a declaration of being bummed that you couldn't see was clearly demonstrating low value to her. I think the only way you are going to reverse the situation is to neg her a little and from here on out and go for the demonstrating high value about yourself.

What you DON'T want to do is place too much value on scoring with this chick. The Game is about wins and losses...doing her isn't like some bar exam where you have to pass her test before you can move on.

Put in a little effort but if she isn't receptive...MOVE ON!

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Atomicglow

Thanks gents for the advice. I get the low value/high value thing now. At this point should I consider freezing her out? Like maybe wait for her to txt me/call me, or should i just txt her something like 'ill pick you up tonight at 7' We dont have plans tonight btw, i just thought exerting a little control would be good too.

I ended up txting her "I'll pick you up at 7". She replied with "Actually, I'll pick you up from work, and then I'll take you to pick up your car". Then I said "Actually, tomorrow, keep your day free, because I have the day off from work".

A lot of 'actually's' but I'm going to K-close tonight. Let you gents know what happens.

Heh, didn't K-close, F-closed instead ^_^

That's a good way to start off my new found freedom!

Now that I feel satiated, I think I'll wing this Saturday for my best mate. Should be fun. Thanks again for the advice guys.

It is true that it doesn't matter what you look like, but more on your charisma. The girl I closed is a major HB9, and I'm a weaksauce 5. Good for the ego!

Lets get a formal field report replete with all the conversation details on this one...nice turn around...anyone can learn from success stories

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Atomicglow

Haha, you got it mate:

So I picked her up that night, and we went for a drive in the countryside. Was a nice setting, had some good tunes, nice scenery, sun setting. I stop the car, get out, and kind of lean against the car. She got out, and started walking into a field (I guess to just kind of take in the setting?). Keep in mind nothing is being said to each other at this point, just tension y'know? Anyways, she turns to look at me, I slowly motion for her to come to me. She starts walking closer to me, stops about 3 feet away. She's like "What's up?" I'm like "Come closer" So she takes a step. I say "come closer", she takes another step. I gently brushed her hair off her cheek, and put my hand behind her neck, kind of rubbing it lightly while pulling her in closer.

Well, I'm pulling her in closer, and I turn at the last second to her ear and I'm like "I want you".

We had sex right there in the field. I don't know if it's what I said, or how I said it that did it. Anyways, was great.

End of field report.