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PostPosted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 5:51 am 
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I have AA, and it comes from the main fact that I go to a small school where I can run into the same girls nearly every day of the week, and what I fear is screwing up and then perhaps developing a reputation or whatever. It seems that sarging always works better at anonymous social places such as bars clubs but in the context of a university that whole idea of never running into somebody ever again doesnt work out here.

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I have AA, and it comes from the main fact that I go to a small school where I can run into the same girls nearly every day of the week, and what I fear is screwing up and then perhaps developing a reputation or whatever. It seems that sarging always works better at anonymous social places such as bars clubs but in the context of a university that whole idea of never running into somebody ever again doesnt work out here.
Ok, so if you understand this, then why don't you go out of the university setting. Explore other areas, go to town, or bars, or shopping malls. If your school is a limitation, then simply change the scenario when it comes to sarging, at least till your game is solid enough for you not to come off as the GUY WHO'S TRYING TO PICK ALL THE CHICKS and instead, as the "really social guy everyone talks to/about".

See? Big difference ;)

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Otis, a big difference between PUA in a small group and PUA in the wild is that your real social standing is paramount in a closed environment while you can largely focus on other aspects of game in an external setting with strangers. There is a book called "Conquer your Campus" which deals extensively with this exact issue.

The problem with the small group is your social standing is already likely well established and known to your targets? Or more likely its not known, so the girls just assume your not one of the 10-20% of Alpha guys on campus they know of, and are pursuing regularly. So unless you can raise your standing within the circle of your school (to Alpha status) your unlikely to have great success in that environment. The good news is that if you have high standing within your school the girls will pretty much come to you with little effort - its a double edged sword.

Out in the wild no one knows you from a hole in the wall. Thus you can improve your overall game and get results. And as a side benefit, once your game gets tight your status within your school will probably go up naturally as a result.


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If you are worried about reputation in a small environment.

Be highly social rather than aggressively sarge.

Then being laid depends entirely on how good a reputation you build, so there's nothing to worry about.


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Otis, a big difference between PUA in a small group and PUA in the wild is that your real social standing is paramount in a closed environment while you can largely focus on other aspects of game in an external setting with strangers. There is a book called "Conquer your Campus" which deals extensively with this exact issue.

The problem with the small group is your social standing is already likely well established and known to your targets? Or more likely its not known, so the girls just assume your not one of the 10-20% of Alpha guys on campus they know of, and are pursuing regularly. So unless you can raise your standing within the circle of your school (to Alpha status) your unlikely to have great success in that environment. The good news is that if you have high standing within your school the girls will pretty much come to you with little effort - its a double edged sword.

Out in the wild no one knows you from a hole in the wall. Thus you can improve your overall game and get results. And as a side benefit, once your game gets tight your status within your school will probably go up naturally as a result.
Well its not so much as they already have an idea of my social standing, it seems that the social dynamics here on campus are way different than highschool with the various groups of alpha chicks and guys. But thanks for the advice guys.

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 12, 2011 9:33 am 
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network network network network, TAKE OVER THE DAMN SCHOOL,
number close everyone you possibly can and network, start texting regularaly, and obtain and add people to facebook (phone #s more usefull imo)
don't hit on the girls, get popular, dominate the social scene, it is closed system, flirt but don't commit to anything, just get a nice little bit of gossip going around campus from girl to girl, your that guy that everyone knows, you do cool shit, you throw keggers, people like you, everyone knows you, YOU ARE THAT GUY, GO BECOME THAT GUY, top of the social ladder (try to infiltrate high value social groups, that have attractive guys/girls in them that are allready networked and well known) and girls will just come to you, and when they start comming to you, and want hugs and attention from you, that is when you start gaming, just worry about becomming THAT GUY, first, more status, more compliance, more girls want your attention,
GET ON IT SON


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