so i met this kid in the summer and we go to the same college. when we met he was definitely interested in me and we got to talking from there but then things cooled off for a bit until school started again. when school started we started texting and talking but now when we see each other we either act like we never saw each other or only say a quick hi. sometimes i see him looking at me but ill pretend like i dont notice him because things are kinda awkward.

hes really shy too which makes things more complicated and i dont wanna text him cuz i feel like i would be bothering him. what should i do? thanks.

Text him. If he's shy showing that small amount of interest can break down some barriers for him.

Nothing at all to lose in showing some initiative

i have been the one to initiate texts in the past. sometimes he will text me saying hey and i respond then he never responds. i just dont want to come off as annoying

He may still be interested but too shy... Or he may have lost interest. Or he may not wanna try anything for fear of making a fool out of himself if he fails.

Difficult to know.

Anyways, you need to open up a conversation, no dialogue, no attraction, no relation.

And when you have gotten him to say more than "hi", show him that you are interested. And I know it is scary and shit but get him alone and do it.

Almost all of the misunderstandings between men and women is that men does not understand that a woman gives mixed signals so that she doesnt just throw herself out there and humiliates herself if it doesnt work. So try not to do that, make him understand, be overly clear.


Good luck!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

arent i being obvious by initiating texts? i dont know how to be more obvious without flat out saying that im interested and im not comfortable with doing that. we havent spoken in about 3 weeks so i feel like my opportunity is probably lost. if i were to text him today, should i say something else besides hey whats up?

Exactly.

This is the problem. A shy guy will not dare going on any signal other than the ones that are so painfully obvious that it is beyond the shadow of a doubt.

Not comfortable doing it??? Are you more comfortable letting him slip through your fingers because that is what will happen.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

you're right. i honesty would flat out say im interested but i see him around at school and ill still have to see him after if he rejects me. i just dont wanna be known as that girl who is annoying, you know?

Well, if your "reputation in college" is more important to you, than taking a chance with a guy you are interested in, then you already have your answer, don't you?

Look, it's quite simple. It's about what you can live with..

A chance.

Success might lead to you both embarking on something fulfilling for who knows what amount of time.

OR

Failure, which might give you an image which won't last beyond some time, in the minds of a few people who, in most probability, you won't ever see again after your college.

Choice is yours. Always has been.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I know what you mean. Basically because every single person here have the same problem. They know what they should do, it is not difficult really. It is just that doing it takes them out of their comfort zone. If what you do doesnt work, you gotta try something new, and that is out of the CZ. So, we can only help you if you are prepared to go there...

And the secret you are looking for is... EVERYBODY, are annoying at times. And yes, it may suck to get embarassed but it takes a few days and there will be something else to talk about. Worst case scenario.

If you dont stop caring about appearing annoying, you will never get what you want. Because others will want it too. So the only way to get it is to compete, hence people will think that you are annoying.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

He's just not that in to you...He probably has a girlfriend or he's talking to a girl he's really into.