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the question is in the title... if i were to open directly with something like "hey i think your gorgeous and realised if i dont talk to you now i may not get another chance to hit on you"
what the hell do i say after the opener (assuming it goes positively)?
go into a routine? try and build rapport? i really dont know. I'd say im generally about a 7 on the wittyness scale so i dont wanna rely only on thinking on my feet.
direct is a mindset, there is no, what do I say?, what routine now?,
that is not direct, direct is simply stating what is on your mind, and expressing yourself directly, what do you say??, say exactly what you are thinking, the girl can almost sense it anyways feeling your sub-communications/reading your body language
there are simply two goals you wan't to shoot for, DON'T BE NEEDY, AND DON'T DO ANYTHING THAT MAKES HER HAPPY, OR TRYS TO WIN HER OVER, DO NOT AGREE WITH HER TO MAKE HER HAPPY, DO NOT DIS-AGREE WITH HER TO FOLLOW WHAT I JUST SAID, FORM YOUR OWN OPINIONS, SAY WHAT IS HONESTLY ON YOUR MIND AT ALL TIMES, DO NOT LIE, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT TO SAY, JUST BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF, IF SHE SAYS SOMETHING YOU DON'T LIKE CHALLENGE IT, IF SHE SAYS SOMETHING YOU DO LIKE, ENCOURAGE IT
I lied also, three goals, detach yourself from the outcome, but technically I am explaining the basis behind being needy in the last two, so really there is only one goal, and it is don't be needy, that is all
need~ desperate, clingy, need something, have to have something happen, to girls this is the ultimate, FUCK GET AWAY FROM MY VAGINA, wave length to be on
guy walks up, he thinks, hmm,im terrible at this, this is probably going to fail, what can i do or say now to fuck this girl, girl senses his sub-communication if not she eventually will, he formulates a plan, things go better then expected, and suddenly his thought pattern turns into, THIS IS WORKING, MY OWN HSSSSSSSSSSSS MY PRECIOUS ME WANTS IT!!! MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY PRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEECCCCCCCCCIOUSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS HSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSHSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
listen, the only attitude you need is, This girl is damn hot, I want to have sex with her, I want to go up to her and express this, but I don't care if she does anything, It doesn't matter if she has sex with me, take it or leave it, if they are too much trouble, I am going to weed them out and move on, not worth the time, just go express myself to the next hot girl that is going to walk by me in this mall in the next 30 seconds
then watch as girls test you, if you are not on this wavelength, you are going to give her the golum vibe,
after you opened directly (please nothing canned, tell her exactly how she makes you feel, based on what you are thinking, do not be vulgar, but be bold and honest) find out what it is you want to know about her, why she is unique, if she lives close to you, is she busy, well if not, you have some free time, she can come with you back to your house for some fun, if not, that is ok, your just going to go home eventually anyways
as for escalation you can do that how ever you want, it is fairly safe physically to begin with to touch shoulders and hands, but if you are nervous or worried, just tell the girl what to do, if she doesn't then compliance test failed, she did not comply, next time demand less investment and demand it for a while until she is comfortable