I've been gaming this girl I met through a mutual friend. We'd arranged to meet and she seemed VERY keen, however in the interim period I met a beautiful American girl and took her out on the day of my pre-arranged date so I cancelled on the original girl.

She seemed a bit disappointed and then texted me saying:

"Hey, let's do this friday! I really want this coffee, I'll even pay x"

To which I replied:

"Wow, you're very keen aren't you? Just so long as you know that I don't put out on the first date haha. I'll let you know in the week x"

Then I get: "Well, I don't put out full stop, this is just a coffee ok cool, I'll be in the city from 2 on friday, so give me a ring x"

So... Is this just a shit-test? Her ASD? Or have I got the wrong end of the stick? I'm going to go anyway and run game on her regardless, so this might seem like a non-question, but is there any way I could've handled it better?

shit tests are so fucking rare if they exist at all. so I'm guessing no, it's not a shit test. She probably just believes that she wouldn't put out with a guy that wasn't her boyfriend, quite likely she honestly believes that. and it is even possible that she wouldn't put out full stop. some nuts just can't be cracked. most can.

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Yeah, well either way it's an experience and part of the learning process I suppose Thanks for the reply.

where exactly is the shit test here?
nothing is testing your congruence in her actions,

she did not request compliance,
she did not insult you,
she did not say something seeking a reaction,

she actually qualified herself to you, trying to live up to your standards,

don't expect a girl to just text you, AWW FUCK I WANTED TO PUT OUT ON THE FIRST DATE, MEET ME THURSDAY

I like.... (behavior you want to encourage)

I don't like... (behavior you want to dis-courage)

no one has ever successfully made me... (challenge you want to establish)

you know what, (go into story you want expressing behavior or action you want to encourage or discourage) it was awesome/stupid


when you are getting comments, about a girls sexual hangups (asd) that are counter productive, challenge them with open opinions, you are not trying to sway her, ask her about the issue, just stating a contrasting opinion to her asd, that projects a non-judgmental attitude, it also helps to tell stories from your life, that project sexual comfort and openness with the expressed asd, remain congruent and comfortable with it, if a girl challenges you, hold your ground, and stay comfortable the frame for her challenge is (this is normal, why are you being weird?) think it, and believe it, and your body language will do the talking,

Defiantly a ioi, no shit test. Give her a ring mate. she wants you

Its not a shit test, its a slut defense as you raised the issue. No biggie shes obviously hot for you so its gonna hard to mess this up via text.

Shit tests are super common btw however this isn't one of them.

Stop believing in this rediculous bullshit called a shit test.
There is none here and in 90% of the times people think they're shittested in reality they're not and end up fucking shit up by thinking it is.