Ok, have a little read of this if you're unfamiliar with my situation:

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So I kissed her twice on wednesday evening and we arranged to meet up tomorrow for drinks.


I didnt text her after wednesday for 2 days and got in touch last night:

Me: What time dya wanna hit the town on sunday? Working 6am-3pm so I need a few hours rest ha

Her: I dont mind what time, sunday night at some point? Are you out with with {her friend from Dublin} etc tonight?

Me: Yeah 7pm at ***** I reckon. Yup were doing a few bars, im in work 6am though FML...


Her: Where is *****? Oh I feel for you, thats so early lol... {friend from dublin} said to me about going out tonight but I was out last night and Im dying now

Me: Its on ********* street, I'll meet you somewhere easier before it ha.



So thats my text game.... good? bad? average?


Basically what I'd like to know is how I should approach this date considering I have k-closed her twice the last time we met (albeit drunk in a club).


This girl is a really sweet girl who hasnt had a bf.... would this be in your thoughts or continue to escalate until she denies the advances?


Also, she is homesick, so I wonder - would you bring this topic up when on a date with her, so as to try and make her feel better about being in a new country/city???

I discussed this with a female friend and she thinks that it could actually work in my favour; she is in a vulnerable state at the moment and so could be very receptive of affection from me*





*Not that I am planning to nail her, I like this girl more than just a fuck.


Thanks

I left out quite a big turn of events the night we kissed too.


Earlier that night I decided to try out some stuff I read about. So I got intouch with 4 girls who Im friends with, some are friends gfs, some are just girls I wouldnt fuck.


So, I asked if they were going out wednesday and where, all 4 were going the same place as us so when we got there I made sure I sat with these 4 girls and spent about 20-30 mins chatting. I introduced my target and her friend to them and carried on talking.


Maybe 10 mins later we were all in the dancefloor and I took my target to the bar for a beer and k closed

bump

lets consider, for a second what the goals of the phone/text msg are,

GOAL 1: establish a bridge from initial contact, to the next meetup in person

now GOAL 2: there is no GOAL 2

now ask your self, is your text game accomplishing what I listed above? if the answer is yes, then it is very solid!!

Things have sorta took a bad turn :s

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I have two suggestions, next time you invite her out, no matter how you are running your text game, do it on the phone, you will be able to tell easier if the excuse is made up on the spot, with the awkward pause and the ............uhhhhh.... I have school stuff blah blah sorry, if two flakes in a row, make sure this girl is contacting you, not the other way around, if that is the case, go ask don draper in the mid game section about text game

What do you mean she contacts me not the other way round?

did I say she wasn't?

next time you invite her out, use the phone, if she flakes, don't contact her, let her contact you, that is all

Cool.


Do you think I should just see her next when were all out with friends on wednesday night?

She's never had a bf or been on a date from what I gather. This sort of makes me think (hope?) that if she is flaking today, its nerves/being shy.


We've known each other about two weeks now and never been together on our own....

really up to you

True, but what would you do?


If I could figure out if she was being sincere or not I would know what to do.


On the other hand, its only three days till then and I dont want to creep her out....but then I think well I have K-closed her so surely my 'foot is in the door' ?

if it was me, invite her out alone, if she flakes I would just take that as a sign of dis-interest/lack of comfort with me, and I would be less likely to contact her, just respond to her attempts to contact, and from that point I would just have casual text convos, I would see her in person in social situations but not put very much effort into hanging out with her unless she put alot of effort into contacting me and every now and then like once every 2 weeks or so, just send her a random text msg and have convos with her, if her interest level increased try to get her out, get her out, try to make her feel good, escalate, in the mean time just focus on increaseing the pool of women I have contact with, the more numbers the better