For an update on my situation I have two previous posts, briefly she works in an auction house showing items, so there isnt much chance for chat 5 mins etc at most counter in the way so no kino, but we have had plenty of chat, joking etc, she spends more time with me than other customers etc, convo a couple of weeks ago
ME: what you doing at weekend
HER: going to visit b/f 200 miles away havent seen him for 3 weeks (not sounding excited about it) he went to las vegas with his friend and not me
ME: perhaps he is trying to tell you something
HER: Perhaps he is, we are more like friends we dont get to see much of each other
ME: Perhaps it time to call it a day
HER: Perhaps
next week a friend told me they could see the way she was looking at me she was interested
We have had eye contact, she always smiles when i catch her eye
Today we chat have a laugh etc, my friend with me even notices she kept looking over at me a little later
That lunch time on here way back from lunch she came over to stroke my dog I pass her my name and phone no on a note saying if you fancy a coffee no agenda (covers me both ways ie simple coffee or she can assume whatever)
She opened it there and then as if she didnt know what it was read it and said coffee no agenda
ME: yes
HER: she said what here?
ME: No out of work
she we smile she goes back to working, I speak to her while working we joke as usal.
Later her manager comes over asking for a quiet word ( I know him well)
HIM: you gave HB9 your phone no
ME: Yes (I knew he wasnt going to arrange a date for us lol) I said yeah we chat have a laugh etc so I invited her for a simple coffee
HIM: she was embarrassed (I guess he was trying to say she wasnt interested but never acutally said??)
ME: It was just a coffee, to which he smiled lol
She is from very well to do parents and not long out of uni so not worldly wise is that has any bearing on it.

My question is
(1)was she playing me (bearing in mind 2 ppl say she was checking me out and the boyfriend stuff)
(2) Did I call her bluff or scare her
(3) Other any help would be good

Tomorrow I am going back to her work how do I handle this
do I aknowledge what happened and speak to her about it? do I talk to her like all the other staff (ie not chatty like usual) , do I keep it brief ie very basic convo.
If she wants to explain herself do I ask to do it out of her work?

went in today, and she was looking over a couple of times expecting me to say hello as usual, I didnt look directly over and didnt aknowledge her, later inside she was behind me with another customer and commented on an item I brought in to which I just answered with a yes keeping my back to her. Feeling pretty good now its on my terms. Friday will be the tell tale day when we see more of each other in her work.

is it possible that this manager guy might be lying cause he wants to be in her pants too---instead of a frenemie is he a maleafrenime,amogamie or a betabackstabberamie

No I dont think he has an agenda infact he said I would probably have asked her out if I wasnt married, I know him well so know thats not the case, I dont think she was playing me as she doesnt seem the type , if anything I would guess she is either a little too ditzy to know what was going on , or got spooked at me asking her out maybe wanted to take a little longer to suss me out, was worried about mixing with customers, was tempted to start something behind her bf's back then backed down or thinks I was just after one thing (I have a feeling this is most possible). Today was cool as I think she was expecting me to be my usual chatty self with her but I didnt allow the chance for chatting so she may be wondering if I was ignoring her or if I was just busy, I still dont know what to do if she asks if I am talking to her or if she has offended me this friday coming. I am tempted to say i wont talk about it inside the work place only outside and will only talk about work in the work place. I dont want to make a big thing out of it but the facts are I only offered to meet her for a coffee which is simple for her to get out of.

whats the best thing to do friday guys as regards to talking to her?