[Urgent Response Needed Please Cause I'm Seeing Her Tonight. Much Love.]

Right now I'm in a very annoying situation with this girl. We used to date but ended up fighting and "broke up" cause she wasn't ready to move forward into a relationship.

We are part of the same group of friends and when we weren't talking the group sort of divided. I wasn't particularly effected by the break up. I improved myself physically and mentally, gamed other girls, increased my social status, done wild thing I always held back from, all the while making sure that she knew about all of this through facebook.

When things got into perspective, I saw that we were fighting over something stupid, so I re-initiated contact with her. She was extremely friendly with me and so was I. Maybe I was a little too friendly and she got the impression that I want to hook up with her. However I was also pushing her away at the same time. Whenever she would come on to me I would be cold and distant. Knowing her she gets jealous very easily.

Yesterday, after the group was reunited again, we all went out to a festival. Unfortunately for her, only my close friends turned up so she felt a little left out, even though she was as close with them as I was. At one point she bumped into a group of her ugly fat male friends, and she decided to leave us to go party with them. I must confess I was a little hurt by this.

Now she keeps copying everything I do. She is trying to be adventurous (that is why she went with them, despite claiming that she finds them very annoying) and giving the impression she has a wonderful social life. Just because a few people sent me friend requests on facebook, she is now suddenly adding a lot of random guys, and she rare has a friend request. Now all of a sudden she is popular? I don't buy it.

I take it this is her jealous reaction to me ignoring her? If so what should I do? I would like to hook up with her again, even more so now that I heard she might want a relationship.

You should really address this to the girl and not us. Talk it out.

Tell her that I'm aware of her games? I'm not sure I know the proper way of doing that without messing it up.

You're making assumptions that might not even be correct. Seriously, talk to the girl. Ask what's going on and don't be a pussy. It's far better to have a good argument than silently undergoing the situation.

Okay we're going to have a good talk. Should I tell her about my assumptions?

If all goes to hell I'm moving on

you like her? yes?
why don't you tell her that, instead of,
HEY STOP FUCKING PLAYING GAMES!
get to the source, the more you can say with less,
the better, do not allow her actions to effect you,
no attachment to something happening, no need to impress her,
express yourself, tell her how you feel,
expect nothing from her, if she asks for direction,

WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS?
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
DO YOU WANT ME TO DO X?

you once again express yourself, you are your own person, and want nothing from her, you hold no power over her, she holds no power over you, but you hold complete control and power over yourself, and your own actions, project this, and your chances of success will increase, just be honest and genuine with what you want, but hold no expectations on anything, there is no need for an outcome, only expression

game made this situation worse

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the only thing i took out of the original post was:

wow, this is seriously immature.

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Why so?

That is what I'm going to do pumpington. I'll tell her how I feel then its up to her

true story.

when "game" becomes "anxiety-inducing manipulation" ... you've already lost, regardless of the outcome.

this shit is supposed to be FUN.

you having FUN with this situation?

if so, i missed that part.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

No no as I said I wasn't effected by our breakup. I gamed other girls not as a sort of revenge but for myself. Although it is true that I enjoyed her knowing what I did. I did not game after we re-initiated contact.