| you have to start controlling your own reality
it is impossible and counter productive to try to control her reality,
she is seperate from you, and you seperate from her,
what you can control is your own actions, dis-interest in the topic without reacting to it can encourage that topic to not re-emerge, not only that but you could easily cut her thread and introduce another, or take her topic to the extreme for a sexual experience, if she says You are so respectful and I love you, My ex-bf used to try to finger me in public, you would never do that! (this is your cue to say, of coarse I would never do that and attempt to finger her)
take what you like, disguard what you do not
do not attempt to do things to impress/please her, do things that you want to do, you are the leader not her, you make her feel good because you want to, not to impress her so she likes you
GOOD LUCK
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