Thanks man I'm glad you like the advice
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What motivated you to start approaching girls
To be honest man, it all just boils down to what you're
missing in your life and how you're going to change
yourself and make yourself a better person in
order to achieve that. I was a very shy and
insecure kid and I never had a lot of
friends, I actually rarely played with
the other kids on the playground
cause I was always judging
myself and thinking of
what others thought
of me and that
always held
me back. Don't get me wrong
I had an awesome childhood growing up (one of the
best cause I'm from the 90's) but it's only half as nice
if you had others to share it with. But I digress.
Throughout my high school years I never had
a girlfriend, I've never been kissed, i'm
still a virgin...all those things are
because of my own insecurities
and what others thought
of me and ultimately
how I thought about
myself.
One day
you just wake
up in the morning and think to yourself silently,
staring at your roof from your bed wondering why
you're still in the same position you've been for all
these years...alone. It all just clicks man.
One day you wake up and realize you've wasted all those
years of what could have been but you will never get them
back because the only person holding me back was myself,
and once you realize that minute thought only then can
you begin to heal and start over.
I guess what motivated me and what still motivates me
to still talk to girls today is that, I want a girl more than
anything in this world, on this planet, in this fucking life.
It's such a strong feeling inside me that it's the only
motivation I need, to finally get to that point where
I will finally touch a girls lips for the first time,
have her body pressed up against mine...feel
all those things we're supposed to feel when
just break past our own barriers and not
care about what anyone thinks, you
only care about what you think and what you want
cause at the end of the day
the only person you're
improving and doing
this for is yourself.
What motivates
me most of all that
no matter how much shit
I have to learn, no matter how many
people I have to approach, no matter how
fucking long it takes... I was atleast someone
that got off their ass and tried, and thats all that
counts.
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What did you start off saying to get over AA
The best and simplest line you can ever use
to get over your AA is this, "Excuse me, do you know where the
nearest coffee shop is?" Thats it. It doesn't require alot of
effort and yet it's so effective. The opener in itself
doesn't necessarily breed alot to creativity or
spontaneous conversation but because it is
so simple and legit in itself, thats all you
need. All this opener does is get you
used to talking to girls, after you
feel yourself becoming more
confident you can switch
up your approaches
and the way you
later interact with
girls because
all this
line is giving you
is that confidence you lack. Approach Anxiety in itself is just
one desire conflicting with the other to quote from Ross Jefferies.
That's all it is. In the moment
when you see the girl and
you think about what to
say and what you think her
reaction will be, you're already starting lose. The
trick to overcoming this is to not think at all.
Don't even think about what you're going
to say, just walk in her direction and
open, you're brain will automatically
deliver all the information you
have in less than
a microsecond
and that is
when you begin you're opener. In under
10 seconds its all over. You approach,
open and eject. Afterwards it then
hits you "That's it? Is that
all my AA was holding
me back from?" Once
you get that little
spark of confidence
you need it will (by nature) snowball
and you will subconsciously always have
that memory of that approach and what you
gained from it and how you can use that same
energy in your next approach, and the next and
the next...After my first day on approaching
I got 2 tattoo's that I designed myself and
put on my arm and hand.
The one on my hand means
"Persevere. Push through" (My
picture on the left under my name is the tattoo I
designed) The other one on my arm means
"Don't think, just approach" (i'll upload it tomorrow
so you can see what I'm talking about) Having these
tattoo's on my arm doesnt only symbolize what
they mean, they symbolize that I am going in the direction
I am going and everytime I look at them they remind me of that.
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how long did it take you to get good at talking to girls, and how long would you say it will take to get a social circle?
I am still learning so I don't have an answer for you on
how long it takes. It's a process through your
own personal journey and you decide how long
it will take you to where you want to be
and how much you're willing to give
in order for something to
come out of it. Some people adapt
and learn quickly, some take longer but pull
through in the end, I can't say how long
it will take cause I'm not even at that
stage yet. What I do know is, that
if you're willing to change only
for the better and just push
through your own barriers
and begin to take control
of your own life...it
wont take long
at all.
CHAT
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