This girls on my uni course, I'm in year 3 now, the flirtings been on and off constant. Seems to be a lot heavier this year. She's trying to get me to admit I like her. obviously I havent and just tease her a little.
She's very forward when drunk and has admitted she would be scared of what she would do if she got drunk around me.
As far as I'm aware, I have never come across as needy and insecure and always have a take it or leave it attitude. Not sure if I'm in the friend zone as I have known her a while and maybe she's just leading me on.

Thoughts?

Thanks

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If you like her, you have to show your interest also.

I do like her and showed her in the past that I did, even admitted it to her but nothing came of it, thats why i dont wanna admit it again.
She throws out lots of mixed signals, sometimes she's very flirty, other times she makes out like I've been smoking crack if I try to flirt and just says no.

Cant really make her out to be fair.

i may be an AFC on here but i have been in some great relationships and have dealt with this. i would just straight up ask her if she is into you. if youre not into that then wait until youre eventually hangin out and drinking with her. you should know that she likes the attention you give her, she just wants you around but if you let her know that you have other options, she might just give in and at least say she has a little something for you.
dont need to take the advice but thats what i would do.
good luck =]

-Topher

If i asked her that, she prob wouldnt admit it as gets very shy, but after a few drinks might be a better time. I havent gone drinking with her for about a year and that time she wouldnt leave me alone but still nothing came of it.
I've sort of let her know already I have other options, she seems to get quit jealous sometimes.

I'll give it a go

thanks for reply

I'm kinda keen to see how you deal with this also... I've had this once or twice I feel its usually girls who see me as a potential boyfriend once I've gotten out of my 'fucking around stage they think I'm in' but its similar lots of flirting, teasing and a lil jealousy kinda like being in the LJBF stage but with some benefits... I've had naked spas with them but gone no where... that sorta shit... I end up getting bored and moving on...

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I sorta spoke to her about it a bit today. About her trying to get me to admit I like her, she on and off, she made out like she dont want nothing from me but then admitted would be well jealous if I got with someone else. I cant work out the mixed signals and what exactly she wants. Thinking of just turning it all off and treating her as just another friend.

To the OP:

Allright man! I think that you have studied the Mystery Method. I am quite sure you have since you say "Obviously I havent admitted to liking her".

She has given you several indications that she would like you to like her. She has given you hints about what to do. PULL the freakin trigger!

You have built enough attraction and comfort. Now is the time to strike!


Let me try to explain the mixed signals she is giving you. Half the secret of being a PUA is to speak Girl.

A girl will always try to keep you off balance, you should not be too sure about what she wants before she is totally sure what you want. She will tell you a lot of stuff, some of it will be real, like if she shows you that she likes you. But much of it will be in the opposite direction, and why? VERY simple. She has to have a backup plan, a way out of any awkward situation. She has to have an excuse or an escape route. If she bares her soul to you and tells you that she likes you and you decide that she is not what you want; she will have to deal with the embarassment of being turned down.
If that happens now, she can pretend that it was all a misunderstanding or whatever, just happened.

Why do you think we game at all? Why do you think that we create all these great situations in this elaborate manner instead of just wait for the mating period and club her over the head and drag her off to our cave? Because in the end, if someone hears that she slept with someone she can avoid being called a slut by stating that it just happened.

Anti-slut-defense. Works on many levels.

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I have seen a bit of the mystery method.

I was at a club with her last night, both gota bit drunk, lots of kissing and flirty dancing but i've had that before.

Then tells her friend today that she doesnt like me and i'm not her type not knowing her friend would prob tell me.

Bit of a teasing head case me thinks. Maybe time to move on lol