Just to clarify - these videos are of Sasha, CEO and founder of SashaPUA.com, who's now on his World Tour. http://www.sashapua.com/world-tour I'm Ryan, lead instructor at SashaPUA.com and handling UK bootcamps in London and flying over to do large European ones whilst he's away. When we update the new website, I'll have my own page with in-field videos, so you can see me in action too!

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1. I've done THOUSANDS of approaches during the night and day. The only failure is NOT trying.

I was just in Odessa, Ukraine where most of the girl don't speak english - on my first night I did 30-40 approaches and was rejected almost EVERY TIME within the first minute, I actually hooked maybe 2 sets. Was it uncomfortable? Did I feel shitty later that night? Absolutely. But I kept going out every night and working on doing what I could to overcome the language barrier, focus on subcommunication and body language, and I learned a lot and my results improved.

Don't just hit yourself against the same brick wall over and over. After each rejection, try and analyse what might have gone wrong. That makes every "failure" a learning experience.

As for direct - it's not just a compliment. During the day, it's useful to get them to stop, have their attention, and begin with a preframe pre-framing-vt79366.html before delivering your opener. Secondly, the more specific you can be about the compliment, the better. Thirdly, the more congruent you are with the direct opener in terms of tonality, body language and eye contact, the more likely she is to respond.

But remember - direct is not a recipe for 100% success by any means. It will not make all girls attracted to you. It's a way to filter girls who are definitely NOT interested very quickly, whilst spiking attraction in those that are. You WILL be blown out doing direct game, this is a FACT, so the sooner you learn to accept it, the better.

2. For direct, you want to be directly in front of them. During the day, the best way is to let them pass you, the run after them and get directly in front so your shoulders are parallel with hers, i.e. you are COMPLETELY blocking her path. Anything less and she'll just walk around you. During the day, on the initial approach just arm touching is fine, if you get her on an insta-date, then leg touching, hand holding, etc. is fine.

At night, approaching from the front, and holding eye contact as you approach is best, again standing directly in front of her indicates that you mean business, which is congruent with your direct opener. In a nightclub, it is acceptable and encouraged to rapidly kino escalate within minutes - take her to the dancefloor, and then to a mini-isolation spot away from her friends to kiss.

3. Approaching 10s should help you realise that they're just women, no different from 9s or 8s or 7s. In fact, I'd say I get rejected MORE OFTEN by 6s and 7s than by 8s and 9s, because my compliment is GENUINE and it shows. If you're only approaching the women YOU find honestly hot, then you're in the right place.

4. During the day - GET IN FRONT. That's the biggest one. Also remember to SMILE.

At night - walk over and give her eyes that say "I wanna fuck you" as you go over. Anything less than her purposefully looking up or away without looking back, or moving her body to face away from you, and she will be receptive to your approach.

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Hey Ryan, how's it goin

1. I know, that you do a lot of daygame with Sasha and I was wondering, is your style for daygame similar to his (comedian, who jumps around, almost screaming ) or do you have your style in more calm direction

2. When you do nightgame, which do you prefer to use direct or inderct openers and I'm just curious if you use 60 Years Of Challenge a lot

Thx Kupid

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ok me and this girl went on our first date on wednesday last week it went well i kinoed a lot and kiss closed her a few times at the end of the date i asked her did she wanna go out again and she said yes. so i said id ring her the next day and arrange it.

So i rang her the next day and we arranged to meet up at a restraurant on saturday but she then text me on saturday afternoon she couldnt go cause her parents where maken her see her grandma cause they where just back from holiday and hadnt seen her in 2 weeks. Now i know shes just back from holiday so i thought this might be a genuine reason and she wasnt flaken, but to find out i text her straight after saying wanna meet up some day in the week then? and she text back i have plans ill see. Now i defintley thought she was flaken here and this where the text conversation got wierd.

me:its alryt it doesnt matter anymore i get the hint
her: what hint?
me: that u dont wanna go on another date with me i dont care if u dont want to just be honest
her: its not that i just have plans this week
me: ok well u text me when u want to go out then

after this she didnt reply and i havent text her since that and its been 3 days now should i still wait for her to text me back? i have no idea what to do???

any advice is welcomed!!!

1. As I learned from him, my style is somewhat similar, yes, although I would say I tone it down to suit my personality, which is not as outrageous as his. Fundamentally, the mindset is about having fun first, then filtering out girls that are just plain not into you, don't get your humour or personality, or are not single, and then interacting with the ones that ARE interested long enough to find out a bit about them, have a bit of banter, and get the number. Pretty simple really!

2. I always prefer DIRECT openers whether in the day or night. I am way past the point of figuring out some excuse to start a conversation with a woman! I find her attractive, she creates desire in me, we look at each other, there is mutual attraction, we want to get to know each other. I'm a man, she's a woman. This is natural, normal and beautiful - there is no reason not to be honest about why you are talking to her.

That said, the way I open at night has much more to do with sexual subcommunication than the words themselves, as in a loud club your interaction is basically eye contact, body language and kino for 99% of it, however I prefer that my words back up everything I'm "saying" with my body and eyes - why go up to a girl and give her "I wanna fuck you" eyes and then ask her the time?

I think 60's stuff is good, but if I "use" any "material" when I'm out, it's mainly the dominant leading kino techniques Badboy teaches as part of his DNA (Direct Natural Attraction) system.

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1. Don't ask IF she wants to do anything. At the end of the first date, just kiss her and say you'll see her soon. Leave it a few days and then call or text setting up the next date - you are the man and are expected to lead. Hesitation, lack of confidence, being unsure of yourself are major attraction killers. Women hate accountability - take decisions decisively FOR them, and they will follow.

2. You took the situation way to personally. You don't know if she's busy or what, but you ASSUMED that it was because she didn't want to see you, without actually knowing. After she said she was busy, it would have been easier to just leave things a few days, and then call or text and try to set something up again. What you did just make you appear like you have nothing else going on in your life and have invested way too much in her and what she thinks of you. It's only been one date for fuck's sake, you barely know her!

=> At this stage, I would just leave things a few days, then CALL, have a bit of chat and some banter, and set up a solid date by TELLING her what you want to do, and then asking which of two days would be better for her.

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Cheers blondie iv been opening them from the side in the day an they just keep walking i realise now its better face to face the ones i actually did by chance to there face actually stopped so i will go face to face now.

Tbh only 1 girl has stoped when i approached from behind
i go on a clubing holiday in a week so daygame will definatly be getting used can not wait

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Hey Ryan, i'd LOVE TO KNOW, because ive been gaming for a few months now, and i have got knowhere.


How long Did it Take YOU to get laid, IN day game??????

THANKS RYAN


Also was it luck or did you get laid several times close after that THANKS ::::::):):)::)

Hey mate!

First of all, let me say that one particular guys' results don't necessarily reflect those of another. I've known guys who just needed a bit of a push and some belief, and they were already killing it within a few days - there are plenty of guys who get laid ON or directly after a bootcamp. There are other guys who struggle a lot more - actually I'm really happy to say that I had a student back in December of last year who was having a tough time with things and had a lot of work to do, but recently got laid for the first time!

Me personally, I'd already been doing nightgame for 2 years before I ever got into daygame, so approaching and talking to girls wasn't a big leap for me - it was more about getting the confidence to do it completely sober during the day and learning how to move the interaction forward towards a solid number.

That said, I'd say it was about 2 months into doing daygame properly when I got my first close that was purely from a street approach to a date the next week to my house that night.

To put that into perspective, it took me over a YEAR of nightgame before I got my first close. The important thing is to judge yourself only by YOUR own past performance. As long as YOU are improving, that's all that matters, regardless of what anyone else is doing.

I also want to caution against the idea of seeing a close as being from "luck" rather than "game." I don't really believe in the idea that anyone can use really good game to get any girl. I think game is much more about simply putting yourself in the right positions often enough, and knowing how to escalate properly, to capitalise on the natural attraction between you and a girl that already exists.

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Hi Ryan.

If you were a poor student today without much experience where would you start?

Hey, my girlfriend of one year and two months broke up with me threeweeks ago. She was from moscow and I am from London so we had a long distance relationship. We saw each other quiet a lot and I went to Moscow three times, took her on holiday to Turkey in Feb and now recently she was living with me in London for a month and a half before going back to Moscow. During this time I also took her to Bali. We were very happy while she was in London and continued to talk per normal over blackberry messenger like we had been doing for most of the year. Two weeks went by while she was in Moscow and then all of a sudden she started getting cold and acting distant. I asked her three days later what was up and she said her feelings for me were not as strong as my feelings for her and she didn’t want to continue. I was shocked and called her and was quiet upset. However the next morning I asked her to chat via video SPAM like we had been doing pretty much in the past. I asked if she would reconsider her decision and she was crying a lot and said she doesn’t know how she feels. I was very calm and told her not to cry and that if anyone should be upset it should be me. I said I didn’t agree with her decision but would respect it.She knew I had an interview for an important job but she didn’t even text me to see how it was going.

I loved this girl and am heartbroken at how cold she can be. I txt her a few days back to see if she wanted to give it another go and said she was confused and didn’t want to think about it (txting her I know wasn’t a good idea) and she replied and she asked how my mum was (dad passed away in 2010) and then just went cold and the convo ended abruptly. I find this all strange as she was the one who used to instigate conversations about marriage and kids and how she would move to London next year once she finished her studies. Her two good friends are going out with english guys and are moving to london to be with them permanently and I am just gutted and in a very bad place now. My job is tough and I am getting on with it but have started drinking on the weekends quiet a lot. I spoke to her on SPAM like ten days ago, another stupid move on my part as I instigated it. She said she realises after not having spoken to me for sometime that she is happy like this with her family, friends and other stuff in moscow. She said she does miss our convos sometimes but thats it.

She seems so freaking cold she has just changed her pic on blackberry messenger to the one I took of her when we on holiday together in Bali on the beach. I don’t understand this and I am so gutted and hurt. She still has our pics on facebook and it says in a relationship but I just think she’s just got that up co sit doesn’t bother her. I have got so many memories in my flat and her being here and it makes me sick.

I would appreciate any advise. Many thanks

If could personally turn back time, I'd certainly want to regain about 2 years of my life when I was practicing Misery Method at the end of university, and instead have found David X, Alan Roger Currie and Sasha sooner, so I could have been Direct from the very beginning!

In general, there are tons of free resources out there - I think 60YOC gave out his eBook for free which is a really good place to start, along with watching in-field videos of daygame like the Simple Pickup series, Paul Janka and Sasha's stuff.

Most cities have lairs (for example the LSS in London) where you can meet other wings and often have cheap or free talks by community guys who are touring through the area.

Finally, remember going out and meeting women during the day is totally free! As is going to a local bar and drinking water. There's really no excuse to not push yourself and learn, whether it be by yourself or with a wing. The material out there can help you with some basic ideas and techniques to try, but you only really learn from the experience of going out and fucking up LOADS of times!

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I'm sorry to hear it. Breaking up isn't fun and it's always painful for at least one if not both people. I recently broke up with a girl who I'd been with just slightly under a year, so I understand exactly what you're going through.

What most guys often want is some sense of "closure" - as if figuring out precisely what happened will somehow make it feel better. Well, first of all you usually don't get any real sense of closure. Women act based on their emotions, and often they won't be able to explain why their feelings changed. Even if you do somehow get her to reflect and honestly tell you what went wrong, it won't actually solve anything because you'll still be apart.

The thing is, women often will just have a switch and they can suddenly just lose attraction for a guy without consciously deciding it. Once that happens, it'll seem like they're very cold, but emotionally they've moved on. There's really no amount of talking that will help once they've made that decision.

The best thing is to accept the situation, keep the positive memories of what you two had, learn from the mistakes, and put your energy into going out and meeting someone new.

There is no magic pill, but if things in your place remind you of her, then move them around or get rid of them, and generally getting a new haircut, clothes, and shifting your routine around can help begin a new pattern of thinking and make it less likely that you'll dwell on her.

You'd be surprised how quickly you'll forget her when you're having an exciting date with a new, more attractive, more interesting girl!

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Hello Ryan,

I posted a while back with a couple of questions regarding game for guys with disabilities, but as yet haven't seen any reponse.

Basically, I think I'm a really fun, confident, outgoing person, and people regularly tell me so (boys & girls). However, it just irritates me when a lot of people say that "looks don't matter" etc. I'm a decent looking lad, not fantastic but not bad. But I just get the feeling that 99.9% of lasses INSTANTLY only see my canes that I walk with, might decide to chat for a bit, but ultimately get "intimidated" by my physical disability, and nothing ever develops! It's doing my head in!

Any tips? I prefer direct game, but even kino can sometimes be difficult for me, as I'm not as nimble on my feet as I'd like to be, for obvious reasons! lol

I'm not trying to be really "down" on myself, and I always try & have fun! But it's frustrating as hell!

Cheers, and all the best!

Okay so me and this hb8 went on a date at about the start of august I kiss closed her but when she flaked on the second date I came across needy and thought I'd fucked it up so I just forgot about her. But last night i was at a party and she was there but the whole night I just negged her and this morning she text me saying "sorry for being drunk last night cause I really like you and want to sort things" now I still like her and wouldn't mind going out with her so how should I reply to get a date but not seem desperate and make her feel as if she's asking me out?

Btw I've already waited a day without texting her back so I don't seem desperate

Any advice is apperiecated thanks guy!