| As "Game" has become more and more commercial over the past few years, more and more people have become politicized by various different "GURUS" and their "RULES". I've noticed that this is becoming more and more destructive to people entering the community as they are bombarded with different, and contradictory "RULES" they must abide by to get the HB to sleep with them.
Aside from being confusing and destructive to their sense of self and character as they try to dodge the minefield of rules and these made up things called "Shit Tests" that in 10 years of hitting girls I'm yet to encounter once, these guys entering the community are being polarized towards different PUA camps and becoming convinced that they can't pick up without special little routines, patterns, times to escalate, hurdles to jump that might not even be there, and timeframes to abide by that quite frankly, are such broad generalizations they will help you less often than they will hinder you.
Which bring me to openers. I think the only general RULE when it comes to opening, (and this is a general rule, there are still exceptions) Is to go up and talk to a girl you're attracted to within the first few minutes of making eye contact with her.
Even then there are exceptions, obviously. Sometimes it's best to approach straight away, sometimes it's better to let her approach you, sometimes it's better to be introduced by a mutual friend. There is always a better way to meet someone, but as a general rule, if you don't take action you won't get action.
Opinion Openers (eg Hey my buddy and his girlfriend just broke up after she cheated on him, and she left heaps of stuff at his house, what should he do with it) - They are fine, not as bad as some people say, not as good as many people say. You will often encounter problems because a girl thinks you're an idiot for asking such a fucking random question. You might seem needy. But, they can work.
Very Direct Openers (eg Hi, you're really cute, what's your name) - They are fine too, as a general rule you'll have less time to get her interested in you, and if she isn't attracted to you at first it's easy for her to blow you off, but at least you won't be running game on a girl who isn't at all interested in you.
Complimentary Openers (eg Hey I really like your bracelet, where did you get it) These aren't so good, unless she's into you you probably won't get a response any better than a direct opener, but I guess they take less balls.
Non Openers (eg Staring her down looking really angry until she walks over and asks what your problem is, to which you reply "Nothing, I just wanted you to come over and talk to me") These can be funny but are very risky, they can just piss her off.
Drink Openers (eg buying a girl a drink before you've met) Despite what many people in the community will tell you, these work pretty well, sure, some girls will take the drink and run, but as an experiment a few weeks ago I sent girls drinks, not one of them spent less that half an hour talking to me trying to get my interest. If you're a good looking guy with a bit of extra cash they could be the easiest way to get laid. I still don't recommend them, but I'm tired of people saying they're the worst thing to ever happen.
Now I'll share my tip for the best opener on earth. Find someone she knows in the bar(ideally a guy), get to know them when she isn't around, and have that person introduce you. Almost 100% of the time she will at least give you the time of the day and bother getting to know you. How you go forward is up to you. I choose to be very honest and direct with a bit of humor, but you can do whatever you suits you.
So please, stopping making stupid rules and pretending you know the best way to approach any girl in any situation. If you think that, you know almost nothing.
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