Okay heres the story I could really do with some advice.

I met this girl through one of my friends. At first I didnt try anything with her because I wasnt looking for sex or a girlfriend but as time has gone by im started to get more attracted to her and im beginning to really like her.

The thing is ive not been acting alpha at all, im just me at the moment, no lines, no game plans or moves but beta. We went out clubbing last night and we kissed but afterwards she instantly said she doesnt know what she wants but would like to get to know me more.

I havent spoken to her yet today. How can i instantly change from beta to alpha? Any suggestions what I text/call her today with, or shall i wait untill she contacts me?

I'm not even sure what the problem is. She kissed you, that's good. Sure she gave one of those confused lines, but hey dude, it's good when she adds that she would like to find out.

I think that being alpha may be the most confusing concept in pickup, because guys seem to have very different definitions. Some guys define it as not giving a shit about anybody but themselves, and some guys define it as being ready to fight if somebody disrespects you. I'm inclined to disagree with those takes, I even don't know if "being a leader" is truly the best definition because you can be a shitty leader. I think an alpha male is someone who has earned the respect of those around him by demonstrating that he has charisma, confidence, intelligence, and compassion. Then, because you have that respect, people acknowledge and respect your opinions, and that is what the leadership appearance comes from. The apathy is there, but only because you are not shaken by things that do not truly matter. A girl tells you to fuck off, ok, you are fine with that. And it's not because she's a bitch, but because you know that in the grand scheme of things, her blowing you off will not affect your life in a drastic way. And things that do not have grand effects on your life do not deserve grand reactions.

Shall i text her or wait untill she texts me?

IOI,

keep being yourself it is working, she likes you, ask her out, if you want to not because someone tells you it is the right thing to do,