Ok so new guy....we shall call him Mr Nice

I met Mr Nice @ a club....I know great start.....

Actually it was his mate that started it. His mate we shall call Mr# requested my number....Hahaha

I said "NO, THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS HUNNY......I'M NOT CALLING YOU HERE'S MY NUMBER......."

long story short I ended up talking too 2 of Mr#'s friends and playing pool all night....The one that I was into HG9 left and I went home....Next day I contacted the Mr# via text and requested HG9's number who had left....he told me he would ask for it, but HG9 had a gf....Ahhhhh no thanks I said ...forget it....

Then I got FBing with Mr Nice.....Moving through the group...haha.....

He claims to be a nice guy......mmmmmmkkkk i think.

we chat for days ...I tell him I have something I want to talk to him about...it's a suprise and let's do it over dinner....I'll pay I tell him.....lol

So I organise it then cancel it.....haha

he's begging to know what I want to talk bout hhahaha......So he maintains he's a nice guy....mmmmkkkkk

I'm on FB chatting to Mr Nice and all my other LJBF before going out on friday(as you know , no one goes out tilll bout 10pm).....I go out ....later in the night my friends sat next to this guy we shall call him HYG10(hot young guy)......I ignor him lol ....he trys to poke me....I meanly say DONT TOUCH ME(smiling).....and continue this routine for a few minutes as he attemps to poke me.......Then I decide on some active disinterest......and walk off....lol Worked the treat. I come back and he was still sitting with my friends...he follows us around for about an hour till he loses interest...(and after he got my number)

The girls where shit faced..so we caught a taxi...At home bymyself at 4am I text Mr Nice ...He tells me he was expecting a text from me in the wee hours of the morning......

Then I get another text...mmmm dont know this number....ahhhh HG10....so him and his friend taxi to my house....his friend falls asleep...HG10 takes me to my room and attemps some game.....telling me crap that I've herd a million times.....blablabla....anyway I dont sleep with him but i let him get all frustrated and drive them home in the morning...I cant explain the change in vibe after you DONT sleep with them but it's extreamely satisfying.

Saturday....Mr Nice tells me he has a date Saturday night but she is going to cancel and would I like to catch up.....I say ok but fell asleep...haha

So after cancelling twice he still keen .....mmmmkkkkkk

So today I got hungry when I woke up and he was FBing so I said I would go over .......He lives in a nice place....His unit......And I find out that Mr# lives next door!! haha ......We wet shopping and had lunchh....He talks to me about another girl he is seeing.He like's her he explains to me what sounds like ASD as shes a stipper....go figure....tells him she wants to hold hads blabla bal ASD....oh and she has a party drug prob he doesnt like...Comfortable with talking to me about that...so I give a bit back and start telling him bout some guys I've got on the chase and mentioned HG8(HG8 is from another post) that I'd been played by the other day.....He tells me not to mention this again......lol...
I straight up asked him if this was an angle "Mr nice guy angle or I want a relationship angle" He said No.....mmmmkkkkk

He asked me several direct questions over the day or Shit Tests inc.
"Would you sleep with me?" I said " I dont feel the need to answer"

"Whats your fav sex position" - I answered this honestly

"Would you have sex with me today if I wasnt inerested in this other girl" "No"

I bought a hot dress at city beach...He requestedI wear it when we got back to his .....I told him if he bought it I would....he didn't so I didn't

.So we go back to his and he is all over me trying to et a kiss....NOPE not going to happen..

He did a saliva test on me ....I pointed this out to him that I was aware that its a saliva test. He agreed it was....I drank out of the cup.....

Hahaha Mr# showed up ....he was shocked...aparently when I met them there was an agreement that I was out of bounds for Mr nice beacuse Mr# had dibbs on me.....Mr# come over again...he was looking for some1 else....but said "See you guy's later" I decided on some disinterest and did not say goodbye...It was a fairly apparent missing "goodbye" on my behalf I even got a head turn when it was obvious he wasn't getting a goodbye....lol

Mr nice tried some morebut to no avail ..I left and he was left high and dry.....I basically said to him....when your not looking at this other chick then you may have a chance with me ....but dont wait to long as I may be gone...He says "we can always be friends"....he plays the I don't care card....but trys pretty hard to get a kiss....He tells me he is interested but he's not sure about this other girl.

..then the texts after I left read as follows


Mr Nice
"Tonight was fun,. I'm very comfortable with you.

Me
"And I you"

Mr Nice
"But maybe..... I'm too nice. Maybe I should take your advice and be less nice to girls.. Doesn't seem to work right? "

Me
"It's working on me. And I changed my mind bout it yesterday. I'm a good soul and no matter what other's do I'm not going to let it change my heart"

Mr Nice
"Glad to hear ...Just use your brain, you have shown that you are a smart girl....Don't settle for less than that guy that will be nice to you

(In other words HIM.....lol)

Me
"You too. But girl's not guys lol. There are billions of people. Believe you deserve only the best. And thats all you'll get. You've really impressed me. "

Mr Nice
"You're cute..."

So ....Nice guy????
Or another game???

You set up plans twice then cancelled just to get him riled up?

You are a hassle, and I hope this guy goes for the other girl. Because you really seem to like playing games with dudes, and even though pickup may be called a game, it's not about manipulating people. The term game is just to prevent guys from taking this shit too seriously and worrying too much about their romantic lives. If it's a game, they can relax, and relaxing/having fun is essential to our game.

You just seem to actively like fucking with dudes' heads. You are the problem with the world today. I am pro slut, let's get that outta the way.

I don’t know I really don’t care if he is nice guy or the badboy persona you are the one controlling and putting the strings around him, even if he is game you are out gaming him, he talks about the other girl probably to make you jealousy, while I think he is Cleary at your feet. So be gentle with him. Don’t fuck his head like that. Its not nice.

Thanks guys....It helps to have some perspective...it really does.....


I shall be kind...He is a good boy ...and im sure he'll be a great LJBF.......javascript:emoticon(':D')

Maybe I have been a bit too much....My intentions are never bad however the guys in my life love me(I'm on the other side of my country all by myself btw ...soo all my usual rocks are not here to help with their perspective) because I treat them extreamley well cook for them do special things for them like spoting a tie for my tie collecting best friend and buying it etc(who actually has awsome game and is probly one the best guys i know) You know the little things.

However, game running HG8 steped in with a curve ball last night...(thats another post)

Thanks again.

Don't thank me until you start taking some anti-psychotics.

Meh....what ever you reckon.......

I've been round long enough to know that you guys manipulate wemon way worse than we do you......all we got going is our pussy......and maybe a bit of game to weed out the fakers.......

I'm just having some fun.......

I bet you were a real winner before you come here pfffftttt AFC...!!!!lol

If you've got nothing constuctive ....Then STEP OFF......

this is not about dissing people it's about helping......

and perspective is what people provide you with so as to better assess your situation .....hence THIS FORUM!!!!!

I actually had Legit reasons both times for cancelling on him.....I was pointing out he continued to chase......I did realise however what this would do......

This sounds like a giant troll post. I believe the term is "fake and gay".

What difference does it make? He's as nice as any guy. He's just finally cutting his losses short with you since you keep teasing him. Is he still interested? Yeah, and if you want to sleep with him, all you gotta do is text him some night and ask for some company. I'm sure he'll come running and F your brains out. If you want a long term relationship, well, it doesn't sound like that's what you want...

Please understand this is shaky ground and guessing games for us too. It's hard to know what a guys aim is sometimes..Is he just wanting to use me? Or is he being genuine.....some men are about nothing more than anotch in their belt....It's never nice to be used. As I'm sure you will all agree.

..It's also hard as I am on my own over here...no family and stuff...I'm independant but this forum helps me with alot of things my guy mates used to help me with @ home

....I think you are right bout him being inerested and playing the jelous card......unfortunatly I dont have jelousy in me as its ugly and gives you blurred vision.

I also have a serious interest in all the guys I see.....But they mostly stuff around....And have no game ....But I'll give most guys a chance...I try to be nonjudgemental and open to all options(AFC) at least once......

I shall see anyway ....time is always the biggest player......

And how would you have us be?

dumb to your new found manipulation tacktics?? Or just go for every guy that has half a chance?

I dont understand why its ok for you all to have 10 on the run and me not to date some and try to work out their angle?? And possibly have some controll over the situation.....its like a spider I'm sure I'm way more scared of it then it of me ....even though logic would state otherwise.

I mean really this is just as hard for us.....Yet you have no constuctive advice except to jump on the "you need help" band wagon.....

Don't hate me because I'm not sure and asking for advice. My only intention is to not be hurt or used myself. . . . If you still see this as "insane" then maybe you should consider your mother or sister in my situation .....which I have neither of!

Truely how would you have me act?

This is true and acurate....And I shall take this advice and ponder it as I really do appreciate it.

I am(despite the way I may potray myself in this situation) a true person who obstains from sex for several reasons....1 I dont want to be used....=I dont want to be hurt...I respect my body and dont just give it to the first guy who makes a pass or buys me dinner...I want it to mean something when I do do it and it builds better relationships in the end wether it be a friend or more.

I use the word game as losely as you do....The "no sex game" is my way of decribing my above reasons for not doing IT!

Thanks again!

xxoo

Why did you go through through all this just to say later he'll make a great LJBF?

Talk about leading somebody on. :/

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This is what he has said to me....."We can always be friends" He placed himself there....I'm still keen but I offerd myself to him very openly via "If you wernn't chaseing this other girl then it would be different"

I am not a jelous person and wont try to compete with this other female as he may wish me to. He is wealthy and assures me he has plenty of females in his life....I am on the back foot too.....

He text me bout 2hrs ago with "So...When do we hang out next?"

What to say..........mmmmm.........I'm still thinking. Nothing else but thinking.....If in doubt ....say nothing!

I'm still not a huge fan of chicks posting on here, I mean there's women-only gyms and all that shit now, we need a boys club somewhere. And yea some PUA can apply to chicks, but the dynamics are too different between the sexes to exist on the same site. 90% of the time the male is pursuer and the female is the pursued. Most chicks have at least a handful of guys chasing them at any given time, if I had a constant wave of fresh chicks chasing me I'd never come to this site.

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