well.. first off i will say im indian and our culture pretty much dictates around the "being nice" persona. im 26 years old and I have relised today that I am not attracting any attention. my reasons are below:

1 - im overweight
2.- slight bald patch on head
3. - lack of confidence
4 - lack of experience with women

i have a friend who lives near me and i asked him once how to get women he has ever since viewed me as weak and this is true.. he always treads on me when he speaks to me always making fun of me and everything..
can someone please help me.. or direct me in a right way

Hey man. I know how you feel about your weight issue man, I am
very self conscious about my physical appearance and believe
me when I say I have been in your position where you
think that a girl will only like you over your
outward appearance. Not true. Girls are
not that shallow.

Bald patch on your head? If I were you I'd just fucking
shave off the entire lop of hair still left and just
go for a bald look. It's a very masculine thing
and some chicks I know LOVE guys
with bald heads, they dig playing
with it cause its shiny and
smooth! Shave it off!

As far as confidence goes, why aren't you confident?
What haven't you been doing to
get you into the position you're in now?
Have you also read The Game by Neil Strauss? GIVE
US SOMETHING TO WORK WITH MAN

Lastly, don't associate yourself with guys who don't give you
the same respect. I never hang around with people who
don't treat me the same way I would treat other people.
And thats in a good way. Whenever I go out I am
always respectful, honest, integral, helpful and
responsible in every way and it goes a long
way just to help out your fellow brother
who's having trouble. The guy
who treats you like shit, dont
even think about going to
him for advice. What is
stopping him from that
prick giving you
the WRONG advice?
I'm sure he would love nothing more
to see you crash and because of his
own insecurities...

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1.- being overweight is an easy fix start with body for life by phillips, then after do p90x, then insanity, and then p90x/insanity hybrid, and continue with the hybrid, or do cross fit if you have the money.
2.- Shave your head completely
3.- learn game start with david d double your dating.
4.-start approaching 10 women just say hi and keep moving, next day say hi and ask directions, keep moving do the style challenge..or the newbie mission.

cut ties with your friend, he brings you down.

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thx guys... yeh im going to shave it tues or wednesday temporarily to see hw it looks.. i dnt really hang out with him he just lives near me...
this all started when we hung out once and i confided in him about how i needed to find a woman.. he then printed out some surveys and suggested me to pass it to women and i did just that but i didnt know this was amusement to him for all i know he could have been filming shit. he brings up these topics frequently but oh well..
he then was talking really loud on the bus and randomly said to me that me and him will go india to find me a wife... i said i wouldnt invite him.. he then said "after everything i done for u" he said it in a loud way.... i replied with "like what" he then said "people can take advantage of u" on the bus there were 2 females i think they heard it.
anyways am i right in thinking that if i share too much with people they will use it to make fun of me or knock me down? after all knowledge is power and i am giving too much away to people if i share my all with them

see the post above, that is a good post

Being nice is not a bad thing. But you have to ask yourself the following question:
Am i satisfied with just being nice, or am i frightened to game and therefore I will be nice?

The PUA theories tell you that nice will not get you laid. Because nice guys are good friends, but no lovers to girls.

In practise, some girls like nice guys. But then the girl is leading the game....You let her pick you, because you are a nice guy.

So what do you want?

well im happy being nice but i need a edge of a player too if u knw what i mean

To the original poster typical problem, you ask for advise and out of the 5 things you will do 1 or 2, you need to do them all, SPECIALLY GETTING IN SHAPE. Okay i will clarify what is being nice, being nice is being too accommodating too much or an ass kisser, women will think you need to be nice cause you are not good enough... That is the reasoning behind it, i am a nice guy, so 99% of the puas, they are not jerks, but they are not accomodating, there is a big missunderstanding on being nice. Buying girls stuff, giving girl flowers, calling a girl and tell her how look she looks, that is not being nice that is not knowing game, you can still be nice and not make does mistakes.

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yes ur right

Agreed. Just remember man you can eventually learn all this shit
until your blue in the face, but at the end of the day it all comes
down to if you actually learn anything for yourself and how you
can apply that knowledge and take upon and active interest in it
to improve your life.
You've got to want to get yourself good.
At the end of the day no one is going
to learn this stuff for you.

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