The other night I persuaded a girl to take me back to hers after a lot of dancing and some pretty intense eye contact. When we got there she made me some food and got me a drink, later on we got to the bedroom and started making out. I tried to take her panties off but she didn't want me too and felt really tired, she said to do it in the morning.

When it came to the morning we started kissing again and I started to go down there to which she responded by slapping my hand. I kept trying but it eventually got to the point where I was 'very' peed off. I started asking a few subtle questions and found out she thinks one night stands are pointless and sex should be done in a relationship to be worthwhile. So basically I've been boyfriend zoned and I think she's trying to hold off sex until I've committed.

Would my best bet be to take her on a few dates and try and have sex at the end of every one?

Plus is it fair for a girl to withhold sex from a guy so he keeps seeing her?

I know she doesn't want to be seen as easy but it's still frustrating for me.
Advice please.

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.

keep your options open!! shes not the only girl in the world.

she most likely sensed your frustration, and your need to get something, next time, try to freeze her out at the panty road block, if that doesn't work, just make out some more, and whip out your dick, put it in her hand, if she won't play with it, start jacking off, and keep thanking her/complimenting her for her help in turning you on, then ask her if she can offer you some spit, if she doesn't put it in her mouth at this point or touch it, ask her if you can finish on her, if she says no, just blow a load in front of her, and send her home, don't call her again, let her call you

(don't whip out the dick if she is from a social circle, only if it is a random girl from a cold approach, stop at freeze out if she is from social circle)

A freezeout: when she says no, you say ok, walk back into the living room, and pour yourself another drink, asking her if she wants one as well. You aren't petty, frustrated, you don't pout, and you are just as polite about it as possible.

Would my best bet be to take her on a few dates and try and have sex at the end of every one?
You could try, but unless you want to end up in a relationship with her I would try to avoid implying that that's what you want just to get into her pants. In fact, fake friendzone her. Instead of calling it a date, tell her you wanna "hang out as friends" that way if you go for a meal or something you won't be expected to pay. But of course you can continue to game and flirt with her. It's all about flipping the frame.


Plus is it fair for a girl to withhold sex from a guy so he keeps seeing her?
No. That's the same as a guy saying they won't take a girl out to dinner or do anything nice with them until she has sex with him. Both are things that need to be shared.

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Can you feel my dick.. Fucking your mind..?

I think she saw that you were too eager to get into her pants, and every single time she tested you by kissing, you jumped at the next step faster than a drowning man at a float. In short, take it at her pace.

Don't make her think that all you want from her is her body (even if that is your aim), otherwise she will definitely use the "sex in relationships only" gambit, if only to ensure that she can hook you on to her, and not feel like being "used" by you, only for a night.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

If she says that just say "I understand" if any candles or anything had been lit, blow them out and head to the living room (providing she is alone with you, do not freeze out when she has somebody else to talk to) then let her come down, she will show affection / start making out and repeat process to the bedroom. She shouldn't stop sex happening again but if she does just repeat. I don't think any girl will let herself be frozen out 3 times.

She showed the intent for sex and by clearly flirting on that level she's essentially just being a bit fake, eg. her body wants sex and her emotional circuitry are blocking it out of fear of vulnerability...

At least that's how you could frame it

Doing it wrong bro. Ok so she resists all that, take your cock out and place her hand on it. If she takes it off, do it again. If it happens again then start playing with yourself in front of her. I bet she was very turned on as well but her logic interfered with her pussy.

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

I think she wants a boyfriend but I find it annoying how she will withhold sex. The thing is she's a large part of my friends social circle. I think i'm going to take her on a date and if nothing happens then i'm just going to freeze her out. No way am I going into a relationship without having sex beforehand.

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.