i always see her when i pick up my check every 2 weeks and i know she sees me,

shell look really bored all the time and quiet then when i catch her outside on lunch

shell be alone on her phone texting and bullshit hows the best way to approach her or

say to her?

"Excuse me, I don't think we've met. I'm [your name]."

She'll introduce herself for the sake of courtesy or shrug you off like a bitch. Either way, you know your next step.

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If you're feeling adventurous, my favorite cold starts involve the 5-minute date...
Introduce yourself and rather than get into chitchat mode, "I'd like to go on a 5-minute date, are you free right now?" Most of the time, women are pretty okay with this. What do you know of that you can't be five minutes late for? It helps to be downtown near a coffee shop or something else like that. I have even chosen book stores before.

The point is that you need to use the 5-minutes you just bought yourself to show her that you are fun, not creepy and legitimately have an interest. It's easy enough to drop her off right where you started and get a number close. "Thanks! That was fun. You should put your number in my phone...." and hand her the phone.

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Problem with these PUA sites is that everyone overthinks everything

just be yourself unless you're really lame, of course...in that case be ANYONE but yourself (pretend you're Sean Connery - no wait, don't do that his opener is smacking bitches upside the head).

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Fair enough, papichulo...

But anyone coming to this forum for advice is obviously stumped. Everyone has experienced that moment of emotional compromise where they can't quite make rational decisions when talking to women. That's where the "canned material" comes in.

It's okay to use canned material and it's okay to go in with a plan. Continue to have an open mind, be adaptable and let things flow. If you didn't need a little something to base off of or had no trouble with "being yourself" all of the time, you wouldn't be asking us for help.

So that said, just start with some routines and things you've memorized and are comfortable with if it gets you to stop being a wallflower. Once you're more experienced in these types of social interactions, you will find that you don't even use the canned material. You'll just flow.

But seriously, try the basic cold approach and just meet her. The rest will follow.

"You're absolutely adorable, I had to meet you. I'm [your name]."