before i start comming to the point i would like to mention that i do fluent game, my game is damn damn fluent, i don't think while gaming and most of the time, i go autopilot. So what you gonna read is fast game, i didn't think even for a second while playing, so here is it
last night me and my gf were chatting, she said me to talk to her and she wanted me to introduce the conversational topics but i was tired, and didnt have enough energy to do that. I wanted to sleep and i told her that i am going to sleep.
Now as i woke up in the morning, i see that she sent me 4 or 5 text messages like
"you don't care about me. You just hurt me and make me weep. May God snatch me from you"
i text her, "gud morning" she was behaving angry but i didnt mention how she is behaving and also didnt ask about the text messages that she sent me. After sometime of chatting i asked her about those text messages that she sent me. And her reply was, "i was angry and hurt so i said that"
i said,"ok" and then we kept chatting about other stuff.
After a while she again started that shit and here is our text message exchange
"i have understod that i am only gonna get hurt. What u did last night you think any lover would ever do that? Tell me honestly"
me"i was tired and wanted to sleep. I told you that"
gf. "you are stubborn"
me."acha (thats an urdu word that we use when we unstand what the next person said, just like ok)"
gf"ok do whatever you think is right"
me. "ok"
gf. " when the person that you are dreaming of since last night gets out of your mind, come to me"
me. " i am not dreaming of any one "
gf. " whateva, am leaving, it's of no use. A person is consistently hurting and he don't even realise"
me. " i am not hurting. What did i do?"
gf. "oh khuram, what did you do? Bravo! "
Me, "tell me what did i do?"
gf, "no, i would rather die then to tell you. If you didn't do anything, live in joy. Bye"
me, "ok"
gf, "i was sad and i said you to talk to me but you... I didnt say to talk to me all night but you..."
me." i told you that i am tired and want to sleep"
gf, " oh! What should i say to you"
me, " say i love you"
gf, " you really don't realize what you did? You hurt me! "
me, "
gf, " you really think you deserve it? That true feelings that i gave you, u deserve it?"
me, "i don't know"
gf, "and since morning, and infact you never say sorry for anything. How would we spend the life when nothing affects you. What you did ever?"
me, " i loved you"
gf, "you didnt love me. You couldnt even give me 20 minutes last night. You didnt love me"
me," i say sorry whenever i make a mistake"
gf, "you never said sorry. I am afraid of you stubborness it could destroy everything. You never accept your mistake"
me, "sorry"
gf, "i duno why you are like that, but now you have become more stubborn"
me, "ok"
gf. "even now i started to talk about this. You didn't even realise coz you dont love me"
me. "ok"
gf. "when someone gets hurt a lot then he talks like i am talking"
me. "i see"
gf. "you don't love me anymore"
me. "thats what you think"
gf. "thats true"
gf. " and sorry for what i said last night. I loved you a lot and was hurt so"
me. "ok"
then she sent me two sms regarding the importance of understanding
gf. "you know when you hurt me for the first time i thought you didnt realise but its become your habit. You just know how to take in a relation"
me. "ok"
gf. "i am going . I will find a gud guy and u will find a gud girl "
me. "best of luck "
gf. "i am not going on a search operation he will come searching me"
me. "yeah, sure. He would come"
gf. "i hope so. I have wept enough. No more"
me. "ok. I am leaving. Bye"
gf. "we can be friends"
me. "i dont wanna be your friend. Sorry. Atleast i wnt have to deal with debates and negativity"
gf. "But why?"
me. "thats my personel choice"
gf. "but we are addicted to each other. Though now no love but it would be hard"
me." relations are formed and broken thats natural. Many relations are broken, many people face this and if one more relation breaks it doesnt matter that much. Everything will be ok"
gf. " yeah it doesnt matter for you. You have many girls around you all the time"
me." ok"
gf. "you have lots of people who like you but i wana live free for sometime, just like i used to live. No guy b4 marriage"
me. "ok"
gf." i know if i leave, another would come b4 a day"
me. "who knows"
gf." are u really gonna make someone else ur gf after i leave?
oh God! You are such a big lier. U said no other girl would come in ur life after me"
me. "if u can let another guy cum in ur life then i can also do that"
gf. "yeah in these days, true love doesnt exit"
me. "ok"
gf. "i knew it would happen. I would go then another would come great!"
me. "ok"
gf. "i should have recognized you early but got late"
me. "ok"
gf. "bye khuram"
me. "bye"
gf"i am not your type. I am just a girl who talks negative.ry8?"
me. "ok"
gf. "i know i wnt be happy with you but am a girl and my loyalty wnt let me go anywhere else. I had gud thinking that no guy b4 marriage but i did and got los"
me"ok"
gf."sorry for all this"
me. "ok"
gf."i love you. I know you dont but i do. Whatever happens"
me"love you 2"
gf. "sorry "
me. "ok"
gf." now dnt be a james bond.it haqends because of you. You are too, too,too bad but i love you"
me."love you 2"
gf."i hugged you tight. Sorry "

ok guys i just wrote the interation. I didnt add my thoughts. I leave it to you to critise me, compliment me, or tell me what you learnt. Feel free to say anything

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She acts like she is 12. Insecure drama queen.

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A few quick things for next time you have some girl stepping to you like this:

You didn't do anything wrong. She's a bitch. Actually she sounds EXACTLY like an ex of mine... Exactly.... Hm....

What that means is that you don't need to apologize to her (you said sorry), and you don't even need to respond to her bad behavior. You should just ignore her. All those "oks" just let her ire continue, and invites her to say more shit.

Another thing to note is that she's just trying to create drama, and still wants you. She was looking for a certain reaction from you where you come crawling back, giving her power in the relationship, and at least you didn't do that. Good job!

Now, any other mistakes and good stuff, including the above are minor, compared to this piece of advice: Drop her NOW! You may be thinking that she broke it off, so it's done, right? Possibly, but crazy bitches like this often come back, apologizing. Don't take her back, don't respond to any message she sends you, nothing. And if another like her comes along, look for signs that she's like this girl, and immediately RUN! Good luck!

P.S. Any time you gave her what she wanted, like telling her you love her, or saying sorry when she was looking for that response, is a bad thing to do in an argument. I'm not saying it's always bad to say "sorry or "I love you," rather you should use those at the right times, and it will be powerful. But throwing them out there because she wants supplication is a no-no. Check to see if this is you, but most guys do this because they're afraid of losing the sex if they don't say this shit and give the girl what they want. Don't be afraid to lose sex. There are millions of girls everywhere who would give anything to have sex with you, so it should have no value, and is NOT a bargaining chip.

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One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

really nice points freshprince and i was waiting for someone to mention these so that i could explain my thoughts. And here they are
the reason why i was saying ok?
I could have just flat ignored her and then she could easily have left me and she could justify my behavious being the reason she left me for. In a pick up or with a new girl, ignoring is perfectly ok, but here we are talking about a relation. My ok thing had two reasons,
1st. Not to give her a justification to support her descision of leaving me.
2nd. I was greasing the wheels, i was willingly doing that so that she gets her emotional need fullfilled and that is DRAMMA.
And one more reason i was saying ok?
I was also treating it as a shit test, do i run away? Do i get angry? And she was observing my responses consciously or unconsciously and that ok ok that was also to show her that her dramma doesnt bother me at all and i am strong enough to handle her negativity. i stay as i am.
Ok now your other point, my saying sorry and i love you.
First thing if you read the way i was responding her, you would get the attitude that i was in saying those.
Second reason i was doing that is called, CALIBRATION, through out the interaction i was pulling her in (when she pullf me in) and pushing her away(when she pushed me away) i was guiding her behaviour and in other words i was rewarding and punishing her at the right time.
Let me know of your thoughts about what i just explained.
One of us is definately gonna learn something here.

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Definitely. The point of this forum is for everyone to learn. You can learn, I can learn, others can learn. And remember, I'm never trying to come across as some master. You and other people reading this post should realize that I'm only speaking from my own knowledge and experience, and that I certainly don't know everything. Nobody does, so you should weigh and evaluate everything people tell you on this forum. That being said, please listen to those who have valid points, even if you sometimes disagree with them. They're speaking form their own experience, which may be different or more extensive in some area than yours. That's my philosophy, and it has done wonders for improving my game through this forum.

With saying ok?

1. Why does it matter if she has justification or not? Her being upset with you for this is ridiculous. If she's really going to leave you, then she's going to do it, and in HER mind, she has all the justification she needs. Otherwise, she would hopefully just grow up and realize she's being stupid, and that no adult is going to tolerate her behavior like that.

2. This point, I do agree with. If you're in a relationship and want to keep it running, you have to put up with occasional drama, and the way you handled that works in that capacity, just not with #1.

3. With the shit tests, I understand this too, and I think it somewhat applies to #2. A woman wants a guy who is going to be able to stand strong even when they're weak, not fall apart whenever they do. Good work with your reasoning for this as well.

I still disagree with you doing those though, as well as the "sorry" and "I love you", even if I don't disagree with the reasoning behind it. The simple reason is that this girl is crazy, and a bad match, and you need to leave her immediately. What you're doing here is trying to salvage a routine argument. This is not that. This is her problems coming out and being blamed on you. Maybe it's just because I had a REALLY bad experience with a girl who was EXACTLY like this, but at the first signs of this behavior, I split. The girl I had was Bi-Polar, and I would never want to go through that again. That's my guess with this girl as well. So again, maybe I'm just more sensitive to this. If this is the first time you've run into a girl like this, then I understand. You think this is possibly normal female behavior, so you try to deal with it.

But this is not normal behavior. Plus, just ignoring her will let her cool down, show that you value yourself not to be put through her shit, and that you will not stand for that kind of behavior. You did nothing wrong, she was nasty to you. She is the one that needs to apologize. Not you. Value yourself more than you value some relationship. How long have you been with her, by the way?

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One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

clear comments would be more appreciated and would also help other readers

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it's been over a year that i am with her.
And i just got the reason behind her behaviour, here is what she said
"since last two days i was feeling like you are going to leave me and i know i did the stupid thing but the way you let me say whatever i was saying just made me feel that i am being heard, if you would have ignored me, i would, for sure, have left you today. And the way you handled me just made me fall in love with you again ummmmmah! My strong boy, love you so much. And i am really sorry for my behaviour, i know i was being stupid. I was feeling insecure"
ok and my saying sorry and love you was perfectly ok i think because it's been a year and she already has a image of me in her head. It's not like gaming a girl for the first time.
Feel free to say anything

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no it's not my first ltr. I have had many and i very well know all types of girls, dramma queens, gold diggers etc

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I wasn't implying this was your first LTR, or that you're new to the game, but rather if it was your first LTR with a chick like this, and whether you only knew her for a month.

So if you've been with her a year, then you can see whether this is a pattern of behavior with her, or just this one time. And you know her and the situation much better than I, so obviously it is your unique experience that is going to decide what you do.

Just be careful getting back with her, and let her know that she can't just vent on you like that.

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Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

my ok an indication for her that whatever she says isnt going to bother me. My ok means if u wants to leave, i would let her go, whatever she says, i wnt explain myself and she knows that very well.

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bytheway she is a doctor and a reall 10

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leave you or not (which would seem retarded if it is infact true that you have been together for a year) seems like an irrelevant point of this convo, if she would leave you for something that simple and ridiculous then she would leave you eventually anyways for something else that is completely retarded, explaining yourself to her when she is being irrational is pointless, if she had some valid reason and was justified to seek an explanation on something, she should be given one, but her grilling the shit out of you, for going to sleep instead of staying up and entertaining her is irrational and therefor it would make sense to just get her to finish up the convo and ignore her,

something along the lines of,

is this really a big deal to you?
ok well, talk to you later ~ and ignore for 1 day, or until she apologizes

pick your battles

i give a damn fuck abt she leaves me or not. I shared it here so that by discussing it we could get something out of it for those who have the same problem

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she is going on and on and on with shit test! you are not addressing a need(whatever need you are not meeting), you make it worst, by your replies, so she keep shit testing, you like a bad episode of Jersey Shore, all she wanted was some stupid attention and to feel love and wanted.... I will explain this to you guys for the 100th time, once you are in a relationship is a bit different, good communication crucial, do not let the girl cross boundaries, but meet her needs, no what you think she needs, what she really needs. Usually when women go into crazy, irrational rants, the best thing to do, is let her go crazy after 15-30 minutes have past, that she is calm, then you talk on what is really going on, and what can you do to make her feel better, with women you got a be a Jedy kind of like a mind reader, they will never tell you like men do what is really going on or bothering them. Hope it helps. ok i fogot Women want SECURITY, men want RESPECT, keep that in mind, she is kind of insecure, address her need, she loves you shit testing you, she is looking to feel secure.

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