Hey, guys! I have been concentrating recently a whole lot on the psychology side of things, as in how men's and women's minds work. I highly recommend looking at all of this, unplugging from what the media tells you, and discovering for yourself what really motivates the sexes in everything, not just relationships. It will help your game tremendously.

One thing that I really wanted to share with you all is the idea of Shifting Responsibility.

Women are all idealists. Even the pragmatic ones used to fantasize about being a princess where they could rule their subjects, and be saved by the handsome prince. And that's why women try to change men. One part is trying to gain control and prove that you are not as strong as you seem, etc. (something that if you want to know more about, you can find it all over the forum), but another part is that they want to have the perfect guy.

I remember my mother would sometimes tell my father that he was "the best husband in the world", and expect validation that she was "the best wife in the world". What a load of bull! Of course my dad wasn't the best, and neither was my mother. But by creating that hyperbole, my mother created a disconnect in her mind from reality, and so felt like she was living in her perfect bubble. Obviously she wasn't always like that. But when she was, she would go all out.

Women like this bubble mentality. They (as all idealists do) like to think of the world as possibly being the way they would like it to be--A world in which they are perfect. I'm saying women are conceited like that. Men obviously wish they were better as well. That's why we're all on this forum: To better ourselves. But while we're taking action, women are busy fantasizing.

So now, knowing that women like to think of themselves as incorruptible, what does that mean? the media has, as anyone can see, an incredible impact on women. It can tell them what to eat, what to wear, what to think, and women jump to it. Society and the media tells them that their sexuality is a bad thing, because it is more the province of males, who are negatively portrayed by the media. Also a load of bull! But women are too deep to see it.

So all of this boils down to women believing that if they want to be perfect and just like the incorruptible princess in a bubble they wish they were, then they must disown the desire for sex and intimacy.

So now we have millions/billions of girls running around who feel like if they express the desire to have sex, which they want, then they are bad, and the universe is not as they would fantasize it to be.

The solution is to take all the responsibility onto yourself. When you step to a woman, you take control, because she then will say to herself in justification for whatever happens: "He just did stuff. He didn't 'allow' me to stop him." In other words, the woman is going to do what she wants, because she wants to do it, and now, she doesn't have society's call stopping her from it, because if anything happens, she can justify to herself that the man "was the one pushing for sex, or for a date, etc." it wasn't what she initiated.

Hope that makes sense.

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