I'll try and keep this short. I have a massive case of oneitis and I live in a shared house with her 2 other girls and another guy for uni.

I've had this crush for like 2 years now since I have known her. I thought I would be able to handle it living together. I had settled nothing would ever happen and that I was firmly in the friend zone. The past few days though it's been eating at me on the inside. Been proper depressed about the fact I know nothing will ever happen.

Since I first met her I have come along way with game pu and even though I am still an AFC I am no way near as bad as I used to be.

Anyway a long story short I have been noticing a lot of tension in the air when we go clubbing at night between us. A lot of touching on her part; playful holding hands, touching legs, a lot of kino really initiated by her.

Then last night when we got back from the club everyone in the house ended up making a fortress/den type thing in our living room with pillows and duvets etc. Yeah we were drunk

Then everyone else went to bed and it was just me and my oneitis. We chatted for like 3 hours straight. A lot of playful fighting and holding each other etc then we ended up kissing. Quite intense but then she was like we can't do this it will make things awkward and I totally agreed. But she didnt push my hands away and still had her legs around me. Then we kissed again.

How the hell can I not make this awkward when I see her now in the morning. I haven't left my room yet Do I just pretend it didnt happen?

Do you think it means anything or just a drunken mistake? I don't really care if it was a mistake I just don't want to dwell on it.

Thanks for any advice. Really appreciate it.

Hope this is in the right forum. Sorry if not.

It's amazing you got a second chance after being in the friendzone - rarely happens. The sad part is you're doing all you can to fuck it up. You should've fucked her. You can still redeem yourself by fucking her in the morning. Don't say anything, don't discuss anything, don't say a word, strong eye contact, let the tension takeover.

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lol I'd say, just act like nothing happened.

and when you guys are alone again, hit the jackpot.

that way it will be kind of secret and (most) girls love it.

I tend to agree, the "secret lover" fantasy is strong in these women. Tap into that.

And for some general thoughts on 1-itis: http://zenofmeetingwomen.blogspot.com/2 ... -itis.html

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Cheers for replies guys.

Yeah I should have slept with her last night, Wish I had. Should have seeled the deal

Secret lover sounds kind of good. Will try to get her 1 to 1 really soon. I think she has told the other girl housemates though I think that's fucked it.

Went in to the kitchen this morning and they were all in there. Went kind of quiet when I came in which isn't a good sign. Have spoke to her today. Nothing to do with last night though.

We're all going out on Wednesday night I think, I know I've probably left it too late by then but will bring it up with her just to clear the air anyway.

Thanks again for the advice. And cheers for that link snubby. Some good reading!

You know, if she's telling the other girls, I would take that as a good sign. Like she's letting them know you're off limits.

I'd assume the best and get her alone again.

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Yeah you could be right there thanks.

I think its all taken a turn for the worst though. Maybe its the drink from last night adding to my depression but living with this girl is killing me inside.

I was just about managing my oneitis before but after last night and thinking about it all today it has made it 1000 times worse.

I mean Ive spoken to her today but its just been really awkward. Ive stayed in my room most of the day because the 3 girls have been in the kitchen/lounge all day. I can hear her now laughing and giggling. Its making me feel so down and shitty. Im not going to tell her how I feel and fuck it up like i have done in the past with others when i was a complete afc but I really dont know what to make of it all. Should I just bring it up if we go out on Wednesday night? What do I even say. Should I make a joke about it? Should I just use some push pull or maybe go pick up another chick infront of her when we are out? Any advice much apreciated!

I feel she wanted me bad last night. We bond so well. Today she has been a bit funny/off with me. Is that normal? If I have this one chance with my oneitis (Bare in mind I dont act afc around her even though she is my oneitis) I dont want to fuck it up. I probably already have. I just want to give it one shot on Wednesday (Or next weekend) and then be done with it and move on but it must be done in a way not to make it awkward as I am living with her

Sorry for this bitch ass post. Just feeling really down at the moment. Really need to man the fuck up

You're investing too much in this, and that's the most likely thing to lead to a bad conclusion. If I were you, I'd go out somewhere, get out of that space, and clear the cobwebs from your mind. Get some fresh air and a fresh perspective.

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You're not listening. Stop thinking and acting like an AFC. This is my last advice to you.

1. No need to "clear the air". Don't bring it up at all.
2. Be cool and fun and hang out with her and other girls and boys. Be social.
3. Use alcohol to your advantage. Get drunk like you did last time and fuck her. If she starts to get logical about it or gives you token resistance don't go into ANY discussion with her. Just say "cool" or keep going. Your idea of "clearing things up" is suicidal.
4. Stop tripping out. You really do need to man up.

Good luck

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Just say "cool" AND keep going.

Sorry, bad typo.

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I agree with Competition for a 100%.

Bottom of the line:
Stop acting like a bitch. There are so many women here anyway.

You're a man, so act like one.
No need to be afraid of social situations (unless you really really think it's better to avoid it). Otherwise man up, and confront your problems.

Good luck.

Yeah cheers guys! I think it was just the hangover talking last night.

Totally cool with it now. Woke up fresh today. Spoke to her today no awkwardness.

We'll see how it pans out next time we all go out.

Thanks!

Dude I'm fucking rooting for you man. Report on how it goes. She's interested. Don't fuck up!

Do ittt! By your description of the body language, things are GTG! If you need help with touching women, Google "Vin DiCarlo's Escalation Ladder".
I used to have minor issues in the realm of physical contact, and I've been using this for a week and a half. And it is
Flawless.
Perfect.

Do what ya' gotta do!

Sorry to bump this but thought best to keep it all in one place.

Just a little update really and was wondering if anyone could shed some light on what I did wrong.

So last night as a house (all SPAM) we all went out to a club. When we got back by coincidence (yeah right) everyone went to bed bar just me and the girl I kissed in the original post.

Once again (you guys were right) after a little playful teasing we ended up kissing in the living room.

So the other people in the house didnt hear we moved it to my bedroom. Carried on kissing getting more intense, But no matter how hard I tried she would not have sex. Our relationship has formed naturally so I didnt really have any techniques in mind but was following the escalation ladder to the best of my ability but could only get as far as step 15 before she would say "we can't do this" and push me away, but only to return to kissing moments later.

After this happening like 5-6 times of sexual build up (she was getting right in to dry humping but wouldn't go any further) and kissing I sort of got fed up and we just ended up lying there.

Where did I fuck up? Or was it just her? I feel I did all I could and there is deffinitely chemistry between us.

Realistically I can only see myself having one more chance, if that. I don't want to end up being some bitch boy who only ends up kissing her. Basically I don't want to be her safety net for when she doesnt get any male attention. I need to move on.

Thanks for any advice.