So I've been chilling at this local coffee shop at night before I go out and hit up the bars. I have met up with a few old friends there and have gotten to know the "local" crowd. I have also met this beautiful girl there a few times and got a few IOI's from her each time we have met. She is always with the same guy whose been trying to hook up with her, but after tonight I am getting the feeling that hes on his way to the friend zone.

Anyways, my problem is that every time I have met this girl I have been 50 different kinds of fucked up and could not for the life of me remember her name. Like honestly, someone told me her name tonight and 30 seconds later I forgot it.

So tonight I made a joke of the whole thing and teased her a good deal about her caring so much that I could not remember her name. I said things like "well you obviously did not make a good enough impression all of the other times we met", and would try to get her friends to say her name so that I could remember it. She kept getting up and leaving for a bit then would come back, sit next to me, and ask me what her name was. Which I would respond to by laughing, saying the wrong name, or try to switch the subject. I kept the kino light, just incidental arm-arm touching and eye contact.

I made a point of remembering everything else about her, what she does, what she studies, where shes from, what nationalities ect.. Although the problem is that we apparently talked about those things before but I was too drunk to remember. But I feel like we connected a little bit last night, plus I would always catch her looking at me when I was talking to other people, so I kept the eye contact strong the whole time I was there with her.

I also made a comment at some point about how I really didn't care about remembering her name, but I said it in a semi-joking context, so I hope it didn't come off as too harsh haha.

Anyways I hope that is enough detail, I know more happened that may have looked bad but I cannot remember it. Fucking got to stop drinking so much but its hard for me to get up the courage for cold approaches without a few stiff drinks.

I don't know bad you fucked up. But I have a hard remembering peoples name, even girls I like.

If is a girl I like, I just say, "I forgot your name, but now that I know your super cool, I will not forget."

Is a good way of showing IOI.

haha ye i posted that when i was literally half asleep last night. Actually thought that I dreamed doing it lol. I'll add some more details in a bit cause I guess I passed out half way through writing that one.

not important

Whats not?

If you need to drink to get over AA, you aren't over AA. Seriouisly, it's a crutch at that point. Second point: stop insulting her. Saying she isn't important enough to deserve remembering her name isn't going to attract her. Insults don't attract women, at least not the intelligent, compassionate women that we should all be striving to get, in my opinion.

Just ask somebody, sober, what her damn name is.

So then how could I "redeem" myself with this situation? I see this girl all of the time so I want to watch my step with asking her out. Last thing that I want to do is make shit awkward in this group of people who ive recently met.

I think that the next time I see her I am going to say something like "hey you" to make it seem like I still don't know her name and thengrab her hand to pull her aside/away from the group. But I do not know if I should apologize for never being able to remember the shit she tells me. Or if I should keep the whole "I dont really give a fuck" attitude going but show her that I am interested and that I at least want to make it up to her.

I think that my other problem is that shes seen me hit on every pretty girl I see. I even remember that last night she kept on asking me if "these lines ever work on girls", but then at the same time I wasn't using any lines.

Dude. You're all over the map! Most girls don't want a guy in this state...forgetting shit...talking to every pretty girl...loaded on booze...

Be fucking awesome and most girls will love you. Simple.

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Well I've been having a great time every night getting hammered drunk and trying to pick up girls. But it did screw me over with this girl because I see her all the time now, with these other girls I don't care if I fuck up and look stupid cause I'll never see them again and I'm having fun.

You want to elaborate on "be fucking awesome"? pretty vague there. I mean I think that I'm fucking awesome, so doesn't that mean that I'm fucking awesome?

Well if u r having fun then it sounds like it shouldn't be a big deal. You can't get all girls the same way and every approach will win some and lose some. If you're not turning some women off, then you arent doing enough.

Thinking you're awesome is a huge. If you genuinely believe that deeply then you are ahead of 95% of guys.

Being "awesome" in this context is whatever makes a woman in awe of you. Depends on the woman and what's great about you.

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What are the best ways/questions to use to find out what makes a woman in awe of a guy? Their are a TON of artist girls in my town. I cant fucking stand that pseudo-intellect/artist shit but its what the local girls are all into. So I've been putting up with the hipster shit and hanging out with the guys who plays the guitar outside of the coffee shop, reads poetry, draws ect... haha I think im kinda fucked cause I am the exact opposite of that, but then again, maybe thats what some of these girls are looking for?

I mean I have made a conscious decision recently to find who I really am, I have spent most of my time trying to mimic others. It never worked out and I spent my high school days a loner and especially recently I feel like I have some serious making-up to do. From what I've learned these past few weeks once I get my confidence up for the night, all I want to do is socialize, meet new people, get fucked up, and end the night with a great story to tell. I want to pull of some Blue Mountain State shenanigans hahaha.

If you decide how to be awesome based on what each girl thinks is awesome then you are basically conforming to every girl. That's no good. This is the one of the problems with pickup. It is based on constantly changing oneself to interest and attract. It works to a point but ultimately it is limited because adapting to please a woman is inherently unattractive.
This is the fucking path to true magnetism. The kind that works with hippies, hipsters and hip hop dancers.

People spend way too much time trying to figure out "who they are" when the answer is very simple.

First off, you are constantly changing and growing so don't try to figure out some static identity. Who you are is different moment by moment.

Who you are, in this moment, is what you desire and what you value. In other words...

What do you want and what is important to you - right now?

Ask yourself this in any moment and then act on that desire and aligned with those values.

Do not bend them for anyone or anything. No matter what job he might give you or how hot she is. Stop doing shit you don't want to do. That is weak and you Re thus fighting an uphil battle. If you are having success the way you have been doing it so far, then thugs will explode once you set yourself free from trying to change a d be like others.

A man who moves through the world driven only by his values, desire and principles is truly awesome and attracts more women than a pickup chameleon ever could.

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In Strength,

John P Morgan

"Authenticity is invincible."

LIVE IN LONDON!
The Authentic Approach - All Day Training
12th November 2011
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