I discovered all this game and PUA stuff around Christmas time and read a lot about it and even had many days out (mostly in and around London, full of target rich environments) and did a lot of practice and got a few good openers and sets under my belt and was wanting to continue all of this and make daygame and PUA a skill I could use anywhere in the world if I could. And for most of the year I felt I was getting into game, learning more, building on it and even getting some encouraging results - no make-outs but some good kino and even an insta-date.

Trouble is, the last four months (basically the entire summer) I have hardly done as many approach attempts and on the one and only occasion I was in London when around Oxford Circus I saw a genuine HB10 in my book I could not muster a single bit of courage to even approach her very indirectly and when I did approach another hottie in Holborn that same day it was just with a very bland question asking for directions that seemed to be delivered without much conviction on my part or ability to transition into mid-game.

I am trying to tell myself that all of this is just a lack of "match-fitness" from being out of practice and not spending enough time on the streets of target rich areas (such as most of London) and spending more time stuck in my small home town and the surrounding area where finding an HB worth approaching requires more than a miracle - but even on the rare occasion I do see a smokin hot girl, I can not think of one single good excuse to use as an approach opener. Does anyone else think this is what it is and all I need to regain my confidence is to spend more days out in London town where there will be a greater concentration of ladies to sarge in the streets/cafes/museums/stores/train stations/other spontaneous natural situations?

Best way to get confidence back is go to a really target rich environment and use some of the worst chat up lines that you can get off the internet. Cheesiest shit you can find and try to get shot down as much as you can.

Maybe even make a game of how many girls will shoot you down. Sounds stupid yeah but after 5 girls or less say bye to AA.

Well I have to admire this guy here http://www.youtube.com/user/urbanistgame for making the most of his opportunities in such target-rich environments even if some of his approaches come off too strong, desperate and uncomfortable. Is he just desensitizing himself to rejection, do you think?

I still don't know how to go about it and would appreciate advice very much.

Should I just go back to the beginning of the game and repeat the newbie mission from scratch? Or spend time just running game and pick-up attempts anywhere I see a girl I find attractive even if in a very small town?

To anyone who has been in a similar situation before - when you were doing well but became rusty and lost your "game", how did you get your PUA game back?

I’m having the same problem, so I’m just going to get out there!

I have been a PUA for 2 years now and have done well according to my wings but I haven’t had a chance to get out there since June due to a relationship and all my wings in Birmingham being attached.

I’m out in Stourbridge tonight & Worcester tomorrow!

I will keep you posted!

Bring it on!

Brightside

Looking at the "READ BEFORE POSTING" section, a sticking point was defined as
and what is worrying me right now is that this is turning into a bad new habit I am consistently running into. It feels as though all the good hard work I did between December and May is turning to waste and that I am lacking even approach motivation. For example, I saw a very attractive blonde girl in a small town near me and thought "this is the sort of HB that I want to approach" but something in me could not motivate to even make an indirect opener. This is the sort of sticking point that is affecting me again at the moment. I just want to know how to get that confidence back.

Granted, I lack match practice and have not been sarging as much in the summer time but what is the best way to avoid getting in to a rut? It is all very well saying to just go out there and practice but when a lack of approach motivation mixed with depression is there, it can make something like that easier said than done.