Look, man there's no right topics or wrong topics, there are just topics you can talk hours about and topics you can't.

You need to pick up the former.

Also, I don't want you to have two separate mindsets for the "texting game" and the "real life game", as people call them.

If you behave the same way in your texts, as you would if you were seeing her face to face, it'd be much easier to prolong the conversations.

Also, keep asking her about new things.. something you saw on the television, something you read in the papers or a magazine, her views on feminism, what does she think of romantic comedies.. in short, things which can take up entire hours and hours of discussion.

Also, a very potent way to create interest is asking "Why?" instead of "What?", if you are more interested in her reasons, rather than her answer. You can question her on those, and derive new lines of conversation from them.

Comprende, amigo?

Good luck. And thanks for thinking of me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

So, you want to use her as a pivot?

No problems. Just game her the same way but leave out the part where you are making efforts to get her attracted to you, because you aren't.

Also, the whole breaks in between texts? Don't do that, she replies, you reply back. NEVER let the conversation die down because you read somewhere that too much texting is construed as "needy" or "clingy", well it is not.

Needy and clingy is a state of behavior, not a state of texts. So, be your usual calm, composed self and still text her loads, so that you become more and more familiar to her. 'Cause familiarity is always a good thing.

Well, ,maybe the Museum comment did indeed sound like a date and the whole break coupled with the fast offer left her confused and she stopped replying. My best bet is to re-set the conversation. And start with a "Hello. How are you?" tomorrow morning.

If she replied, well and good. If she doesn't, well atleast you'll know that next time before suggesting something like this, you need to establish a set comfort level,which frankly requires time and effort, and you should make it your top priority.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Okay thanks I'm just a bit worried I'll start texting too much, as that got me in the friendzone with a girl before

How long after number closing do u send them a text

What do I do if the girl I've been dating won't reply to messages?

Well, that depends on the ratio of texts.

I always recommend a 1:1. You send her one text, she replies back, you send her another.

Don't overshoot that ratio, and you'll be fine.

Cheers.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Immediately.

If not, then the next day, at most.

You don't want to delay the attraction process. Trust me.

Now, go and message her already, if you haven't.

Thanks for thinking of me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

You say that you're "dating" her? Well, in that case she does not sound like the good girlfriend, I have to say.

Anyway, that aside, it might just be that something came up on her end, that she is dealing with and wants to be left alone for sometime, or maybe something changed on her end regarding her attraction towards you, or any of the 200 other reasons.

I would ask you, at this time, to not message her any more and if she has to indeed get in touch, let her do that by herself. Give her space.

Also, game other girls. Trust me, focusing all your time and energy on one girl is never the wise option, well, not in most cases. Especially on one who is behaving the way this one is.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hey, I have this thing which confuses me. This girl that I'm texting, went for a coffee too, always ask me to go get a coffee, but never really gives me the chance to tease her. We haven't kissed yet, but one way or another, I think it will happen - I want I to initiate it.

Her: Wanna go for a coffee sometome?
Me: Sure. Come now to the @place@. I've class after after 3.
Her: Can't - I have lectures till 3.
Her: : (
Me: Fine, go to your lectures. But you're missing the free cupcakes they're having : P

nothing.

I expected any girl to say: "Nooo, cupcakes" or "Keep me one", and then I would have said "lol... no cupcakes, just teasing you".

Something like this has happened a few times when texting her. How can I remove that dependency on her to tease her? How can I do that without super long texts?

My take: (I'm sure Don Draper will have a great response here)

Don't worry about it. Your final text was good, she doesn't necessarily need to reply to it. She's inviting you out to coffee multiple times, she probably prefers talking face-to-face over texting.

Well, who says you need to be dependent on her, to tease her? You can always control about what and when to tease a person. Just be careful with the timing though, when it comes off wrong, a tease isn't all that far away from an insult.

Also, she didn't reply, because at that time her lectures were her top priority, nothing short of the apocalypse would have got her to come out with you.

And women eat less as it is, you are better off pulling a guy with the "free cupcakes" line.

That aside, just take her up on her offers of coffee and make your move. You do not want to delay the attraction and escalation process.

Good luck.

Thanks for thinking of me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hey don, I really need your help here.

I got this girls number from my friend. We've had a few conversations which seemed to have a good vibe. Anyways i got a trip comin up soon where I need a date (there's like 25 couples goin to a hotel for two nights). I only have a week to make the deadline so time is of the essence I need to do work quickly.

How do I initiate the conversation with her via text without seemin like some creep? We both have a test tomorrow night and I heard she's smart so maybe suggest getting together to study? I want to send a text that conveys I'm not a some weirdo and expresses that we should get together to study.

Thanks man, I can take it from there, I just have trouble opening through text without much rapport.

edit: this is what i'm considering saying "hey , this is goldenghetto, mike's pledge brother. He gave me your number and told me youre good at this chemistry stuff. Do you have time to meet tonight and study?"

Hey, the long and short of it is:

i met a girl saturday, K close and Number close, when i left the club she was basically begging me to text her and take her out, because this is part of the way i built comfort, by getting her to think about her favourite place to eat, then got her to subconsciously picture me there with her. So i left it till late sunday to message her, probs 9pm while i was out with my friends playing pool.

the conversation was good and lively, then i said:
ME: ''last night was fun, fancy going host tomorrow night''
HB: i doubt i could have anymore alcohol as i still feel ill from saturday
ME: WOW its monday! who said anything about drinking? lets just get some food instead?
HB: Errm ill see how i feel tomorrow!?
ME: Sounds good!

i left it at that... i sent her a text at about 2pm saying hey how you feeling today? she didnt text back till about 10pm just saying... hi! x

the conversation is good again, but i duno how to ask her about going out, i am unsure if i should be direct about it it what! please help!!!

First things first, I hope you're not planning to get her to agree to go out with you for two nights, 'cause that just requires more time and effort than just a week.

Firstly, you start by establishing a base rapport and comfort level with her, talk to her as much as you want, just be careful to keep the your messages to her messages ratio firmly 1:1, or 2:1 at times, but nothing more than that.

As for your opening text, why not go with "Hey, it's (your name)! Got your number from Mike, and heard from a little birdie that you're awesome at chemistry. Help this poor soul out, will ya? " or something along that lines. Tease her a bit.

Good luck.

Thanks for thinking of me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, the thing is simple. At that moment, she was so caught up in the flow that she jumped the gun, in her head. Now, she doesn't want to make it as easy for you and hence, wants you to put in a little more time and effort. So, why don't you do that?

Just build the requisite amount of comfort, talk to her a lot and plant the idea of hanging out together in her head. It'll be all fine from there.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "