This was gonna be a filed report but it didn't seem to fit. Anyway I am in my third year of college. So i know a lot of people such as most of all my campuses sports teams pretty well. however i went to the campus club tonight (on of the biggest in Canada) and i only knew about 12 people there and just rotated groups all night by the end of the night i had only approched only 2 new girls and had no luck with them.

So my question is first and second year a built a preatty good freind base but know i am intrested in expanding it once more and approach anxiety sees to be hitting me hard.

So did any of you hit and approach anxiety plateau if so how did you get over it.

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Think of all the other areas of your life where you don't suffer 'anxieties'. What are the commonalities? What other things in your life give you 'anxieties'? Figure out the common differences.

cool info i think i figured out one of my problems is an ex-good friend who really knows me well due to previous encounters has turned into a total dick, he pushes me around physical and whatnot anyway he was at the club that night and that my have created more tension. So i got to figure out how to work things out by a. confronting him, b. becoming more oblivious to him ect.

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You have to stop caring about what people think of you and the approach anxiety will go away. Think a little bit: Every failure, that you experience, brings you closer to success, if you avoid the mistakes, you did in the past and use everything, that worked. See yourself very important, have the right attitude and you will succeed. If you want to find out more about attitudes, you need to adopt, about self-improvement and dating, visit http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/.

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This is an wuss out. What will you do next? Blame the bartender? Your kindergarten teacher?

So are you saying there is NOTHING else in your life that make you nervous? Is there nothing in your life that give you anxieties? Do the exercise. Find out what else gives you similar anxieties. For now, let's not bother getting to the 'why'. Try this exercise and we'll work this out.

Continue blaming the waitress, your ex-buddy, or your ex-pastor and really, really, really, you will get nowhere.

Well the dude kinda kicked a hole in my wall so we really didn't end our brolashionship well but other than that you continue to be correct i gotta be more critical and less of a puss

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There is a disconnect here. I will ask one more time. Do you or do you not have ANYTHING ELSE in your life that causes you to be anxious and nervous?

it is defiantly something i will have to constantly reflect on

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