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I cured a huge oneitis in the past. Took me about a year for the full process to run, and I doubt she barely knew, except for a one-off occasion near the end. When I got over it, it was freeing. That was also the night I stopped being a fully blind idiot, not only about the oneitis, but to a lot of other stuff. (btw, no she wasn't a bitch or a kid or nothing like that, but I was really putting her in a huge as hell pedestal, and embarassing myself to whoever I talked about her to, like some of my close friends).
Now (3 years since then) it's kinda ironic, but the same girl who has been teasing for a while before, really gives it away that she's into me now, which almost made me slip back to the killing "comfort" of a oneitis. Thanfully, I snapped right out of it again and was able to get my focus back properly, even though I do plan on dating her in a close future. I mean, yeah, I had oneitis for her, but who cares? She's hot, has a great personality and is overall one of the smartest girls I know. No, I don't feel for her in any way different from any other girl who is my friend, but that probably won't stay that way. The difference now is the mindset - feeling for someone who you date if you aren't a needy fuck and put her on a pedestal really isn't oneitis, at least imo. Correct me if I'm wrong with this, please, but it's all up to your own personality, not the feelings you have or don't have.
(brang this up so the thread isn't a spamming of "great idea" and I can actually get some doubts out of my head)
Well Poueff, you know best the situation. I can give a lot of advice, but you are in the end the one that has to do the work. You know yourself, you know her, and you know how to relate and use the advice I give to you. For example, you say it's about your own personality, not the feelings that you have. I would say that it might be true, as long as you know yourself and that your personality is stronger than your feelings (because feelings might strongly influence personality and behavior).
I'm not trying to hold people from getting the girl they like. If you like this girl, who is smart, sexy, intelligent, lovely, I can only wish you good luck and say go for it, especialy if she is like you said into you. Often people with oneitis make excuses to like a girl, but yeah I can only accept and trust what you say. If you are confident that your mindset changed, if you are ready to date a girl without getting oneitis or putting her on a pedestal, then it doesn't matter who she is as long as you like her and something good might grow from it (wheter it is a healthy relationship or a good fuck). Just be true to yourself, know what you're doing, be confident, be able to draw limits when needed and you'll be able to give her the night of her life.
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