Hey Guys,

Was out last week and my mate tried to open a girl which he got rejected by (he was drunk).. Anyway I thought i'd try something i read the other day.. dancing and not looking at her at all.. just acting like i'm there to dance and thats it..

I was doing this for a little while and I noticed in the corner of my eye she was facing my way looking at me and I THINK she was playing with her hair.. I kept on dancing then i started to rack my brain on how to approach her.. I couldn't think of anything so i just started to dance near her.. I think she was expecting me to say something but I just couldn't think of anything.. I was pretty annoying at myself. I tried to get close to her by just dancing but it didnt work..

What would you guys of said/done??

By doing what you just did, she knew what you were trying to do. But if she saw you dancing, why not just go over to her and start dancing. if she's not showing any sign of disinterest there is no reason why you shouldnt go over to her. the fact that she was looking at you doesnt mean that there is any concrete sign of romantic interest but it is an invitation to you making an approach.

if you want to do some dance game, learn how to salsa dancing. chicks love it lol.

I saw several other guys get rejected that way, plus im not the best dancer.. You are right, I should of gone up to her but at the time I was racking my brain on what to say and had nothing.. That's why I wanted to see what u guys would of said??

Funny you mentioned that, i've got my first salsa class tonight. But I don't think you can Salsa in a club playing house music

if you saw that there were other guys who were rejected by this girl, take notice of what they did wrong and make your approach different.

you can still so salsa dancing with the girl, get close to her, do some kino. what girls really like is when guys shake their hips like belly dancers do, and when the girl starts to do the same thing as you, go over to her and criticize her for doing it wrong and put your hands directly on her hips, but dont keep them there for too long. i do this all the time, never fails. but of course remember to do some grinding when you kino escalate.

watch some youtube videos of john travolta saturday night fever, dirty dancing, michael jackson, and some bollywood movies. i learnt alot of dancing from them. if you do dance moves like them, everyone will be noticing you lol.

hope that i have helped. happy gaming dude

Your idea was good, but the execution was too sheepish. The second you noticed her looking at you and thought she was checking you out, that was the critical moment. Best course of action is to make eye contact, smile and approach. Don't need to say anything or be crafty, just smile, look her in the eyes and dance. If she likes your balls, she might lick them later. If she doens't she'll just turn her back to you. Simple. Don't give her the Manson Lamps for too long tho, check out her body and let her see you do it, then look back and get her reaction (with a devilish smile). Again, if it's working she will keep dancing, if not she will turn away. and so on.

If you get snubbed, don't stick around dancing near her wondering if she will change her mind, just turn your back to her and get back to your groove. She will either come back to you (less likely) in which case you are IN, or walk off because you are now in her space and she is annoyed about it and sheepishly will cave to you.

I once had that happen and after a while i had to use the bathroom. I ended up walking past her in line and just gave her a snotty "what?" look on my way past. On my way out she was waiting in front of the guys bathroom by herself fixing her makeup. I figured no way it was by accident, she just came from the bathroom with a giant lit mirror. I walked right back up to her and said "lets go" and grabbed her hand to make out in a dark corner of the club, which ended in an Fclose.

That is a rare scenario, but when you arrogantly push a girl away and they stupidly keep coming back, it's game over.

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I personally turn it into a dance off.

I see her looking and I engage, i do some crazy fun dance moves then point at her and open my hands out as if it to say "yeah i rock, you try and better that!"

its fun and isnt overbearing, most the time they get into it and then its a dance off, which means you can get more ballsy and get closer, but like a tease, then back off. After a while she feels safe, then attack! (no not literally).

if they dont take the bait; i hold my hands up in success (Rocky style) so everyone can see me beating a girl at a dance off, then just go back to what i was doing.

you need to remember that even with her looking at you, its early early game.

SteveZau: Dont even worry about being a good dancer, be a fun dancer! if you enjoy yourself it will come across, be the fun guy till shes comfortable.

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you should have open up in a way that was obvious you where willing to dance with her and not taking so long like you did. you do not need to come up with routines,just dance and have fun, make her have a good time dancing with you.. But if she rejected your friend, and your friend was with you, lowers your value, guilty by association in some cases.

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Forget salsa, go to a club with mix music... or many rooms of different music.. No latin music, too much courtship, or the girls get into courtship mode, best clubs mix music..

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if she was looking at you then i would take that as an IOI or AI. you don't have to say anything to her you don't even have to be a great dancer. honestly, i would have just walked up to her and started dancing, after awhile do some light kino and see how she reacts. if positively then ramp up the kino and gauge her reaction each time. keep the talking to a minimum, it's too loud. focus on escalation, positive body language, and smile. save the talking for when you get her off the dance floor - then you can build rapport. read this guy's blog, it'll help you out: http://www.flirt2thebeat.com/category/tips/

also, i agree with skills360 - club music works best, specifically hip hop/top 40. that type of music is sexy and suggestive, think of it as the background music to your pick-up.

hey flash point you come out in my book lol!!!! sup dude!

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wassup skills! we seem to be replying to the same posts! great minds think alike, eh!

lol! hey flashpoint did you solve the 2 am problem that sucks dude! what happens if you get to the club at 9 pm, just like i get at 11 when the club closes 4-5 am?????

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me like it i am going to try this tonight! no my style but i like it, sounds fun!

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I am not by any means a great dancer, but in a club... most people aren't. Try learning some super easy, funny dances... cupid shuffle, etc. My favorite is the Bernie... it usually gets a good laugh if nothing else.

If you want to approach a girl in a club, but don't have any idea, don't make eye contact until you're immediately ready to approach her. As soon as you make eye contact, and do nothing... you seem timid IMO. If you don't know what to say, or how to approach, just walk straight up to her, smile and say "What's your name? ...I'm so'n'so" then let conversation happen from there. At least you'll know immediately if she's interested, and I've never met a girl that's so much of a bitch to not even tell you her name.

As soon as you made eye contact with her, like others have said, you should've approached.

skills, my solution to the 2am problem is to game as much as i can before the club closes! what sucks is that the clubs dont get going till 11pm! so even if i get there at 9 the place is dead for like 2 hours!