Hi

I know all the rules about comfort and avoiding the friend zone. I try not to be nice to girls but I end up coming off as an asshole. When I try to tone it down I end up being too friendly.

My friend tell me that I'm coming off as a friend to girls but I have no experience trying to be in the middle.

Any help here on what to say or actions to avoid this. Right now I have a HB7 as a receptionist is my office. Kino is hard with a desk in the way. I may have found a way to meet her by the coffee machine but I don't drink coffee.

She asks me questions all the time and I try to avoid the answers without sounding dull or boring. Any tips or advice to stay out the FZ would be great.

Bro, the way i see it is this, unless she knows right from the start you are a sexual being, u will already be in the friend zone. If so, its too late, chances are she will not want things to change. In any case dont let it be her who LJBF's you. Try a jealousy plotline, get her emotions going, let her realise she craves you. Let her come to you, that way your not been creepy or anything (by becoming sexual all of a sudden), if not, embrace her friendship, no one lay is ever that important to lose out on that, besides think of all the hot bitches she could introduce you to - moreover, if you create and maintain an instant sexual frame with them, again this may have potential for a jealousy plotline, she will be like what the fuck where did you come from, she will feel like the one who has been LJBFs, and she may well realise she does infact want your dick in and around her mouth hope this helps boss!

Sexualization

Usually this happens when something is blocking your sexual energy. In your case it seems like it might be sexual shame. the reason I'm saying this is that a basic indication of shame is when some one is either too nice (people pleaser) or too arrogant. These are two ways of avoiding being vulnerable and being seen for what one is (i.e. being ashamed of who you really are). This is a very common problem for guys and I used to suffer a lot form it (luckily I found a way of how to deal with it).

My standard advice for that is to educate yourself about how emotional patterns work and use a daily "ritual" to erase layers of shame. Meditation is a good practice. Becoming aware of your shame. Using visualization and affirmations. And lastly erasing shameful patterns with for example EFT. Although the process could become complicated. But honestly, it's the most effective one I've found so far.

hope this helps
Ivan

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