It is often said that "the reason you can't get that one girl you really want is because you can't get 10 more attractive ones". I want to clarify this: are we saying that getting 10 more attractive ones is likely to make you forget about the one you first wanted, or are we saying that learning those skills will give you the insight you need to attract her? Or perhaps being with other, more attractive girls shows pre-selection and makes her doubt herself, therefore giving you an avenue to getting her? Perhaps all of the above are true?

Does anyone have any success stories in which they wanted a girl, things didn't work out, and they refined their game and succeeded to the point where they ended up getting their chance with her? (even if you decided she wasn't really what you wanted anymore, just curious to see if your new skills changed the dynamic between you and the girl)

it makes you think "whats so special about her"

it will also give you the confidence to talk to her and use the stuff you have learned, but. really at that point you don't really care.

used to be into this one chick, then i got a few other chicks and now i don't even fantasize about her any more.

Yes, that is what happened to me, my current girl, i got a mild case of onitis, even though i always had as a natural good game, got david d double your dating, got her 5 years together...i was seeing 5 other girls that help too lol! i think there are 2 levels of onitis for guys with no game and no girls.. And for guys with girls that find the one they want to be with(so in my case sleeping with other girls did not help), increasing my game performance is what really worked.

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did having 5 other girls help because you weren't as desperate for her, or because she realized what she was missing?

thanks for the replies btw. i've always been curious about this topic.

I don't know dude, i still had onitis even with all the other girls, she was the one i wanted and could not have, same as style from the game... I do not believe as i mature into the game that the solution is too sleep around but to improve game performance, or to move on. I chose to give it one more try and get help, david d, help me tremendously...

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A couple of years ago I had a bad case of Oneitis. I met this girl online, and the first time we met, we had sex (good for entertainment, bad for relationship).

In any case, afterwards, things didnt end up working, yet, I still wanted more.

We always want what we cant have. Even though I knew she wasn't good for me, I still wanted to make it work.

Anyway, after a month or so I was able to move on. I wasn't really having sex with anyone at the time, so I can't say that sleeping around helped.

I think in my case, having a lot of support from friends and family can always help the healing process. It sounds cheesy, but the more people around you to entertain your mind, the quicker you get to realize that life is more than a pussy and a set of nice tits.

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Heres my semi-success story of oneitis. I chased after a girl for six months, then when I gave up she suddenly appeared again. I was reluctant at first, waited for IOI's, but she chased after me some and I reverted to my old habits. She then ran away again. Another six months and I finally stopped caring (suprised me cause it happened right when I was trying to game her, months of waiting and when I had my chance I suddenly stopped caring, confused the shit out of her and my friends). I think oneitis rarely works out, and here is why. Once you have oneitis for a girl it is very likely to come back, since they know that they will use it to their advantage to keep you in their grips and under their control. It's like being addicted to cigarettes, quitting, and then saying you are just going to have one a week. How likely is it that it stays at one a week. Not very likely. From a severe sufferer of oneitis the best thing you can do is let it go for good. You may have her come back but it is only to get the satisfaction back of you chasing her, or whatever your relationship was, not because she is attracted to you. Once that happens everything will go back to normal, which is seldom good in oneitis or else you would have married her and we wouldn't be talking. It would take a lot of skilled game work to turn that into a real relationship and attraction, for which you will undoubtably need practice so give it up and get out there and find someone else. If it feels bad keep going it will get better, time heals all wounds. And sexual adventures won't hurt the process .

obsessed over girl i see in grocery store one day. She looks to be about 40.
Follow her to her house.
Go up to her as her backs turned
Grab her tits
She turns around its my mom
Oh well
Realize i'm adopted
We all walk the dinosaur.

I liked this girl named Jessica. She was blond, hot, and she made out with me.

So I texted her like 8 times in 20 minute intervals asking to see her. She responded 9 hours later telling me that she was busy.

I obviously had no game.

But every couple of weeks I would send her a message about the weather. Sometimes I would facebook message her and tell her how amazing she is. And every six months we would meet up to have dinner. She actually liked me a lot, but I had such bad game I pushed her away from me.

Three years has passed and I now see her for what she is. She dropped out of college, she had no money, no future, and she parties to deal with her problems. She is unhappy and unstable.

About two months ago I took her back to my bedroom and watched a movie with her. She knew I just wanted to fuck her. So I just took her home without a kiss. I haven't seen her since, nor do I care too. I wouldn't mind fucking her hot ass, but 3 years is a long time to just spend it on a piece of ass. Life's more important than that. So I'm kind of like whatever. I know now that she isn't the right girl for me. But 3 years ago I was in anguish because I couldn't get her.

Reflecting back I think it was about my own weaknesses. That's what caused the pain of failure with her. Because I didn't have enough confidence to get other girls. I'm confident now, and she has become a mess over the years.

Three years ago she would have been a great fuck, and still today she has a huge rack and a nice face. But her personality doesn't work for me. She is like mentally fucked up. Maybe I am too. I don't know. All I know is that I would never want to be in a relationship with her. But three years ago I would have given up three grand to be with her.

There is probably more to say here, but I need to go to class.

-Magnum

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I did. It took months of solid game.
You have to be very congruent. Although I believe my oneitis firmed because I could tell she liked me which probably made things easier.
Be a rock.

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Word!

Word of warning - one of my best friends had ONEitis for like 9 years and would push everything else away. He tried to break the loop for at least 10 times, but she was very, verry good at getting his attention again establishing a picture of that big fat chance that they would have now.
Finally, he is now in a LTR with another girl. But he wasted his whole twenty-somethings on her.
Beware of the beautiful, smart, LSE-LD girls out there.

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I had a bad case of oneitis with this girl on my second year. Thankfully it lasted a bit less than a year as she eventually went to study a year abroad, which helped my case since that time I did a lot of pick up and forgot about her.

My only advice is not to let it get the better of you and do other activities, maybe forget about pick up for a bit and do non-girl related issues. Either go travelling, join a club. It will help you get your mind off things

I had this girl I really couldn't get out of my mind. Thou I realize it's never gonna happen because I got no game and she's too insecure. I'm still kinda new at this. But I've spent the last two months connecting with other girls and establishing with them the same kind of connection I used to have with my oneitis before she became my oneitis.

Once I realized what about her that that I enjoyed, I started looking for it everywhere. And the more girls I create this connection with the less I think about my oneitis, while it also has stepped my game up. I actually look down on her now and feel relieved. I know that she helped me get to a level she wanted me to be earlier this year. But now I have gone past it and I am too good for her.

The problem with one-itis isn't that the girl rejected you, it's the obsession. Every guy goes through it once, to some degree, and every time we think our girl is more unique, different, and special than any other woman. Fact is, we are all equals, and one-itis hurts you by destryong that belief. A guy puts his life on hold when he has one-itis, because he thinks that his life isn't good unless she's there with him.

I wouldn't call it a success story if a guy developed game and got her, I would call a success story one where he developed game and moved on with his life. Hell, even if he ended up with that one-itis at some point in his life, as long as he held onto the belief that life rocks, single or in a relationship, I'd call it success.

I was able to start having some form of a sexual/romantic relationship with my oneitis after I had TRULY gotten over her. At the point she stopped being my oneitis, then she wanted me back, because I had truly changed. I had grown.

I see my old-oneitis now, and we have a good time, but we've agreed that we aren't dating exclusively. And she's certainly not a oneitis for me anymore. What's really funny is that she is doing all the chasing now, whereas I used to be so AFC about her.